my heart is broken?

Question

a girl ive known on the internet about a year and a half go, with whom i grew a close relashionship with, she was even going to come over to england at one point just to be with me, she from canada, we havent been talkin alot recentley, we speak through msn. tonight she came on asking me how ive been, i said fine as usual, i ask her out the blue have you been havin any fun with boys, at first she said no, that she just kissed a guy and tickled with hugs and stuff....and then i said nothing more? then she told me that she gave a guy ' head' in the back of his car and she gave another guy head twice at her home...and i feel truly gutted...the romantic circumstances i was building up in my mind about her has just been an illusion, shes from canada...yes im lonely and i work through psychiatric problems and im 29 shes 19...but we honestly grew really close at one point and tonight now shes told me this i feel destroyed...how coould she do this to me? i even lied and said i had a fling

i lied and said i had a fling just so i could get her to talk aboutwhat she did and thats what she says

Answer 1

This is why long distance relationships don't work. The physical part of a relationship is very inportant. Besides, if she's blowing a bunch of guys, do you really want her anyway?

Answer 2

Dude, you just had an extreme version of what many people go thru - you get infatuated with someone, you flirt a bit, then in your mind you start to build this person into something she is not. Then, reality crashes in.

However, most people at least have met the person in the flesh! She does not even live in the same country as you. Dude, I sympathize with your problems, but falling in love over the net is not going to solve them. Get help, get out of the basement, and meet some real people face to face. Work, gyms, hobbies, classes, sports, charities, volunteer orgs, these are the places you should be looking for love, not chat groups. Good luck.

Answer 3

Move on my friend and forget her. She is not the right for you and therefore you have to stop planning for both of you. It is clear that she is not the type to build a relationship with her because you seem quite a nice guy. But keep in mind this, that as she's only 19 she might still be looking for an adventurous life for now. It might be that she is not that mature as you thought. So my advise is to move on and find a girl that suits you. After all this was a long distance relationship and these type of relationship are more easy to be broken.

Answer 4

thats the main reason why u should not give ur heart to someone u hardly know. ur expectations will definitely hurt u. looks like u are good friends who like each other and yet still insecured that when u told her u had a fling she told u all these to hurt u as well...try to ask more questions and dont play games with her..be honest...and straightforward...see..what did u get by lying to her....about a fling...we're not sure if thats the truth but being friends for 1 1/2 years mean something...so find out the truth...

Answer 5

It has all been a fantasy, you have built up a relationship in your mind, but in reality if you ever did meet and get together it would be a diaster, sorry to be blunt, but have been at the other end of a smiliar relationship years ago. You will always want to have the relationship you fantasised and hoped for rather that the reality of who she is and what she can give you. It was nice while it was what it was, don't expect more but sounds like she a good friend.

Answer 6

Is there one bloke safe in this world that she hasn't blown.....apart from you. She sounds like a dirty flea bitten minger that has no morals......I mean she was with you, weren't she? but not actually with you (linked through the computer). You are lucky without her. I am sure you will find someone....there is always a someone for somebody in this world. Better off finding someone closer to home, at least you will know their whereabouts. Or disregarding what I said, it is probably her Canadian sense of humour shining through over the net.

Answer 7

I know what it's like to love someone you can't have, but honestly, this girl sounds like trash ... you could do much better and there are probably loadsa nice girls in your region who would go out with you! I know what you mean though, and I understand it'll hurt but maybe it's best that you try and look for someone nearer you, meet that person, then build on it from there ... it might end up being a good thing ... that way then, you can stay in touch with your friend, but also know that you have someone with you who loves you ... does that make sense? hope it does and hope it works out ... xxx

Answer 8

My friend had a "relationship" with a boy online and she thought he was so perfect but he wasnt what she thought he was. U never believe anyone off the internet.. ever. I know you might feel as if u have grown close but you dont know her in person... your not there to see wat she does and your not there to see her REAL personality and who she is. She could be lying about anything including her being with any other guy. Get over her, she is all internet nothing more.

Answer 9

She could of just been playing you about to see how you would react, think about it.

What you need to do is give her an ultimatum. tell her how you feel and say that you can't go on like this. Tell her that you want to start phoning her and have a proper conversation and soon to meet her. Ask her if that's what she wants, give her 3 chances and repeat the same thing and then tell her that its her last chance. if she don't want to then give her up

Answer 10

Mein Heart Isk Kaput!