My brother and I spent a lot of time with her and my grandpa when we were young, and we were close with them in our teen years, as well. My grandma was almost like a seregant mom. I cannot concentrate on anything, and I find myself being very negative and angry a lot. She was in a lot of pain, so I am glad she is not in pain anymore. And I should be celebrating her life. But I feel so empty and sad!
I need some help coping with her death! How did you cope with the death of a loved one? Did you do something that helped?
2006-11-21 12:27:03 · 9 answers · asked by kelikristina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not feel guilty b/c you still need to grieve. No one can you how to react to this situation, you need to do what feels right to you. Own your grief, anger, and sadness. You will learn to celebrate her life, but right now you are overwhelmed with her death. Do try to celebrate her memory but also be respectful to your feelings. Try a tradition that you and your grandmother did together. Go visit her grave and talk with her. Pray that she will find happiness in her death and always remember she is by your side.
2006-11-21 12:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Aron H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my graddad last year. Right before christmas. This will be the 1st thanksgiving without him. Its really hard especially around the holidays. I had a hard time dealing with his death just like you are with your grandma. I really dont have much advice for you except that time really does help. Atleast shes not suffering anymore and remember she's in a much better place. If she had a favorite blanket or something you could have take it and then when your really sad and having a really hard time you can hold it and think of her. I know that sounds kinda cheesy but it could work. Also you it might be best if you went to see a counselor or your preacher if you go to church. Then you could talk to them and get their insight on everything. Good luck sweetie and i promise it will get bette with time.
2006-11-21 13:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can COMPLETLEY understand where you are coming from. I have been so lucky to have all my grandparents for most of my life..One grandfather died when i was 21, the next grandfather died when i was 31 (2 days after 9/11) and my grandma died 6 months ago, just 3 weeks before my son was born. I take comfort in knowing that my grandparents are watching us everyday and i will tell you, i SAW a look that my grandma used to give, in my son. I think about them everyday, of all the wonderful things and how lucky i was to know them all..My mom;s mom is alive and in Florida, in an assited living..I call her several times a week and think of her constantly.
let yourself grieve and go thorugh all of your emotions. i cant say it gets easier, but always have her in your thoughts everyday does help...G-D bless them all
2006-11-21 12:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by J P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry, you have my condolences and my deepest sympathies. It's never ever easy when we lose a loved one. I've lost quite a few myself. All I can suggest is you remember all the good times you had together, and always keep her in your heart. In time you will be happy again.
2006-11-21 12:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry about your grandma.when my grandma died i was only 14 and i was so mad she never got to see all the things in my life like she did with my sisters she got to see them get married,have children ,graduate hs,drive a car,go to the prom you know the little stuff like that i was so hurt for a long time and i still miss her today.You really never get over the pain of losing a loved one you just have to think of all the great memories of her you had.For me i rememberd the times my gram gave me $ to go to the movies,let me stay up late and eat junk food,how she would call me her"doll" i think for the first year slept with her picture under my pillow then on one night i was sleeping at her house in the spare bedroom and i swear i saw her blowing me a kiss and waving good bye.after that i knew that she missed me as much as i missed her i loved her so much i named my daughter after her.just remember she is up above and is so proud of you! you have my deepest sympathy sweetie
2006-11-21 12:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by vtpatbrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any death is only hard and it really just takes time. just remember she's not in any pain now. it may hurt but thinking and talking about her with people you trust will help you move on, cry until you can't anymore. hang out with friends that understand alot
2006-11-21 12:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for you to be sad
if you just can't get over it
talk to your parents and maybe get some grief counseling
sorry for your loss
it always hurts no matter when it happens
2006-11-21 12:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yhang out with ur friends they really help
2006-11-21 12:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by happy new year! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my condolences. PRAY - it works.
2006-11-21 12:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋