im 13 years old and i have trouble speaking to girls, alot say im hot but i cant talk to them. i mean i get really embaressed. i dont have anything to talk about when im around them and im not like most guys, i dont have alot of friends that are girls?
how do i talk to girls and how do i make more friends that are girls?
2006-11-21 12:17:57 · 22 answers · asked by Jay C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why r u embarassed? just b yourself!
2006-11-21 12:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I am sure there are many other guys as well as girls that are struggling like you are. This is not an easy age!! When I was your age I couldn't talk to boys. Here is the best advice I can give you, but trust me, things will get better...First of all, be confident in yourself and be yourself. Girls think you are hot. That is awesome!! That is at least one thing you have going for you. Give yourself an ego boost before you talk to the girl, think of all your interests, good qualities, whatever makes you feel good but always be yourself! If you are shy, that is not easy, but if you feel good about yourself others can see that. Secondly, if you don't have anything to talk about you may have to do some research. Try to find out what the girl you are interested in likes, what does she like to do for fun? If she is in any of your classes, talk about that with her, or you can try to find out from someone else what she likes. Thirdly, if you aren't already involved, can you join some afterschool activities where you can meet more girls? Fourth, sometimes it helps to float around a bit among current groups to pick up on social cues, see how other people interact with each other. This can help you start to make friends as well. Good luck!
2006-11-21 12:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by kkolnows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the less you say the better especially when dealing with females it gives you a aura of mystery.But to help you get conversational with females try practicing with friends and when the need to talk to a female arises do what a lot of people do when being nervous about talking to others "imagine that they are just wearing their underwear" it sounds stupid but it works good enough to be taught in classes on how to talk to strangers.Above all just relax and see if you can find a topic that you both have a interest in and talk about that the rest will follow.
2006-11-21 12:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I was the same way. Maybe just try to start with "Hi how are you?" or maybe talk about a song you like or tv show. It comes easier as you get older, but if it makes you feel any better, my face still turns red when I talk to a new boy, its just nature.
2006-11-21 12:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by oopsydaisy500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw cutie! well you're 13 years old... don't worry about it right now if you can't talk to girls, but just be yourself... and if you don't have anything to talk about, talk about school, or make a joke, you can always talk about the weather, that's a good one!
it might also help if you joined an extra curricular or two, maybe a club, or a intramural sports team! if you do something you like to do you might find girls who also like that thing and it'll be a match!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-21 12:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Buckwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 13, and i have the same problem (only im a girl), and it annoys me sooo much!!! =[ To make friends with girls, just go and ask a girl a open-ended question.
2006-11-21 12:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by dramaaddict247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it as a guy without genetals
or....
just pop a hi to a girl that sits near you as you pass her in the hallway and do it often then she'll do all the talking its what a girls mouth is made to do
2006-11-21 12:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Primetime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 08:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be confidence.
when u talk to a girl, start to say hello..how are you? can i talk to you for a moment, if u dont mind? and dont forget give some nice words for them, all teenage girls will feel in the sky when man like u say: U LOOKS SO PRETTY / CUTE TODAY. i hope it can help
2006-11-21 12:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by dena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl so i'll tell you this, girls, love talking about hair, makeup, all that stuff. If you don't want to stump that low, compliment them alot! US GIRLS ADORE COMPLIMENTS! One day just compliment one and walk away. They'll come looking for you! Good Luck!
2006-11-21 12:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by alexihorky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE YOURSELF!!! You are an amazing individual in your own right and you need to work on two things: 1) self-esteem & 2) anxiety. Remember as you get older things will come more naturally.
2006-11-21 12:21:30 · answer #11 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋