I strive for independence, but boyfriend won't have it. Please help?

Question

I have been dating my boyfriend for about two years. I'm 16. For the most part we are very happy together and love each other.
My parents are somewhat lenient Jehovahs Witnesses (they are not pioneers or full time servants and don't deprive me as much as they used to) and I have clearly stated that I am not one, and though they have a hard time accepting it, they do.
They like my boyfriend, besides the fact that he is "worldly." Well, I guess now I am too, ha, but anyway, they are still quite strict with me and if they refuse to let me go to his house, my boyfriend has a fit. It all ends up into him threatening to come pick me up and just take me to his house. I say it is too dramatic and I hate to fight with anyone because it causes me to stress/freak out. He will not listen to me and rant on and on about how unfair it is. We plan to live together during college and that time isnt far away, so I'm willing to just stick this out and then finally be able to escape and be free.

He wont wait. He was somewhat spoiled by his parents, so he never has to wait for anything. He's telling me to move out of my house and move in with him and his parents, and they'll pay for everything and I dont have to worry.
I couldn't do that because I hate to live off others people money and they already have 3 kids to support. I want to make my own money and support myself (I have a job and am saving money.) And none of my family would ever speak to me again if I did that, and I do like some members of my family. Bascially, it's outrages and now that Christmas is rolling around I bought my boyfriend some gifts and he's determined that I spend too much money on him, and he wont accept ANYTHING. Not a gift, not even a dollar for a lunch at school. I do tell him that this is rediculous and he wont listen.
This weekend I can't spend a day I said we might be able to together, and he went nuts telling what I'll do and what I wont do.
Please help me.

He's not abusive and doesn't hit me and I do not intend on breaking up with him.

I, for the most part, obey my parents.
Even though I am not a dog and don't "obey" to anyone, I do what they ask and am patient knowing that in two years I can do whatever I want.
I will be taking full advantage of that.

Answer 1

I understand your parent's religous beliefs. If i was a Jehovah's Witnesses parent, I would be "strict" on my child as in be very cautious. Understand that your parents are going through a difficult time accepting that you don't want to accept the truth. You are still a minor and living in your parents house under their "rules" so respect them and obey your parents. They do care after you with love and also the basic neccessities of life such as food, clothing, shelter. Your boyfriend if he respects will wait until your 18. If he loves you, he'll wait until you are out of the house. I know it's hard being a teenager. You want freedom and I understand that. Just wait a couple of years and you can decide what you want to do for yourself; but for right now, obey your parents because they do provide everything for you. Plus, they know what is best for you even though you may not realize that now, especially Jehovah's Witnesses. They try to be as perfect as possible in this imperfect world. It's hard being a parent.

Answer 2

Drop this guy fast!! He is a control freak and his telling you what to do. The moment you move in with him your freedom ends fore ever. This is a classic sign and it has nothing to do with being spoiled. If he has no patience for this situation just imagine what your life with him would be like if you show up late one evening or you are unable to explain a situation to him. If he won't listen to you now what makes you think he will listen to you in the future? It's all about him, not you. This could be a very bad thing in the future for you. tread carefully here, you could be moving into a direction that is not favourable to you period.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Answer: Get rid of Boyfriend. You need to realize that no one is perfect and he especially needs to recognize that fact. If he cannot and it seems he really cannot, it is time to move on without him.

Answer 4

dump him