We have been together for almost two years so of course we have had arguements here and there but this past week has just been pure hell. I realize I may have gotten mad over some stupid things but I have apologized and I wasnt totally in the wrong. He said some really hurtful and upsetting things to me last night he later apologized but they were just so hurtful. Then today he told me he meant what he said...Im so confused. I keep asking him what can I do to change and make him happier but he just says he doesnt want me to. So now is our relationship doomed? I want to change and get along better and I love him so much. I want to be a better person for him. He said that he didnt care where this relationship went anymore because nothing he ever does is going to be good enough for me. I feel so awful because maybe I have been the horrible person. Have I screwed things up too much or is there still hope? Please help I am a wreck.
2006-11-21 11:57:49 · 9 answers · asked by georgiabelle87 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not a horrible person, I know this because my mom and step dad fight about the same thing. There is still hope for your relationship and not to worry about a thing for a bit. Things will brighten up soon.
2006-11-21 12:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kristopher A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To whomever you are, seems like you have common probably with an inconsistant solution. As you say every couple has arguments, but if both paries are willing to make it work by talking and communicating then it is a piece but only if you and your boyfriend want to make it work. It will be hard at first, but if he is willing to give it a shot which it seems he is not then finding out the root to your problem is the first shot to anything situation a relationship. You may not be the problem maybe something is going on in his family and he is taking it out on you, because he does not know what else to say, sometimes however if he is really angry and said the things he said , it seems he may have not meant if he says he did, but if does not care about the relationship anymore and does not wish talk to you anymore then maybe it is time for you to move and find someone who will treat you better have respect for you. You can't blame yourself for his half of the problems if he has any that is just all there is to it. If he is not willing to own up what he did then maybe you are doing the right thing by letting it go, there is only so much you yourself can do, like I said if you talk to him and see if he is willing to give it another shot then that is the first step in getting to the root of your problem,if not then you have done everything you can do.
2006-11-21 20:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother patching things up just yet. Relationships that fail teach us. Failure is by far the best teacher that I have found.
I understand that there are still feelings there, but every relationship can not succeed and those feelings will go away in time. Give yourself a few weeks pack up everything that reminds you of him and avoid contact with him. Try not to think about him for a few weeks. Then see if you still desire to be with him. Sometimes it is easier to see the problems when you can see it from outside of the relationship.
NEVER let someone change you because they make you feel bad. This is a tactic used to control you. Be you own person. You don't NEED a partner to go through this life.
If he does not want to be with you, give up all hope.
Rent "the Break-up"
2006-11-21 20:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dustin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can fix things. If you fight alot then there is something that you two have problems with each other. If you can't talk them out then you need to move on and find someone new. It's just the sad truth that some people can't get along together no matter how they feel.
2006-11-21 20:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts but maybe you guys just need a little time apart. If you love him then you will be willing to try to let him go. Maybe he just need time to think.... And you shouldn't have to change yourself to make a guy happier. He should love you and respect you enough to love you for you.. Just tell him that you love him and you don't wanna fight.. Tell him what you feel.. And work it girl~~~ As soon as you stop tailoring to his Lil games.. He might just be knocking on your door to get ya back!!
2006-11-21 20:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by ~~**ttktd**~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him his space for a couple of days and see if he's still like that and if he is then talk it out calmly.
2006-11-21 20:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by talk_to_the_hand!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try to talk to him but dont change for him justgive it some time
2006-11-21 20:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him have his space and then you go up to him in person and ask him out
2006-11-21 20:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by hot guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make him sleep on the couch.
2006-11-21 20:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋