my mom and dad are separating and when my mom told me this she told me i can tell any of my family. i told her i did not really wanna and left it at that. She still asks me three weeks later who i told and when i say no one she acts surprised and keeps telling me too. why is this?
2006-11-21 11:46:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom and dad dont even have anything to do with the rest of the family
2006-11-21 11:51:27 · update #1
they are just not compatible anymore is the reason they still live in same building
2006-11-21 11:52:47 · update #2
Sounds like she's wanting you to do her dirty work for her. Explain to her calmly and politely why you can't do this for her, and remind her that you love her.
2006-11-21 11:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry poppet, but it sounds as though you are being expected to do their work for them.
if you *want* to tell golks, go right on ahead. If yo would rather not, then the next time you are asked, perhaps ask the following.
You keep asking me who I have told - but I told you already I do not see a reason to tell anyone. Are you WANTING me to tell people so that you don't have to?"
it is a polite but direct question.
2006-11-21 19:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want you to tell the others because they don't want to really talk to them but figure they are family and should know that they are splitting. Maybe dear old Mom is secretly hoping someone will call her and talk to her and she doesn't have enough guts to call them after turning her back on them for so long
2006-11-23 22:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by fifi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i'm sorry that your parents are separating.Second i hope your mom told you this isn't your fault this is between them and has nothing to do with you.ok to answer your question is sounds to me that your mom is trying to get sympathy from others about her separation that's why she wants everyone to know and also it sounds like she is trying to drag you into this "sticky" situation and that is not fair to you. Just tell her "mom i'm not going to tell anyone about you and dad that is your job to explain what went wrong with you two not mine" or something to that affect. good luck!
2006-11-21 19:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by vtpatbrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not sure that she is making the right choice- as it is in a lot of divorce cases. She wants you to talk to people so that she feels that you understand and it will reassure her. Just humor her if you think the seperation is a good thing, don't if you don't.
2006-11-21 19:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Saphira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is because your mom wants sympothy from your family. I know how that can be. She feels bad about seperating and wants people to show her sympothy so she can try to move on to another subject. Please dont tink im being mean. I was in the same situation not long ago.
2006-11-21 19:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by eatchicken26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probally becuase she wants you to talk to somebody about it (in your family). she probally figures you wont talk to her, and she wants you to have family support. OBIOUSLY you wont get any from her, she caused it (thats what she thinks). It also might be that she just doesn't want to tell them all herself. She would rather you break it to the family so she can avoid going into long and painful explinations.
2006-11-21 19:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by lala89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is worried about what they all might have to say at her news and wants to hear it from you so she can be ready for it when the time comes but it is no place for you to be.
2006-11-21 19:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by edenwho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She problably thinks it would be easier to her if you broke the news to the family instead of her. If you don't feel comfortable doing it then be honest with her.
2006-11-21 19:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by sweet p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her its her job to inform the family of their seperation and not yours.... that should put an end to it once and for all.
2006-11-21 19:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by redneon3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋