I'm dating a guy and we're in a LDR, dating about a month. I can tell he likes me a lot when we're together, he touches my face gently, kisses for a long time, holds me after sex, etc. We have sex but it's not just about the sex. But when we're apart he never calls and emails me rarely. I would like a phone call or email at least every other day but he might go like 5 days without emailing. I'm so crazy about him though I'm practically stalking him (though not). Is this normal for him to be doing this? Am I just expecting too much?
2006-11-21 11:42:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I last saw him Saturday night, should I have gotten an email from him by now?
2006-11-21 11:49:34 · update #1
believer, for a Christian you are sure quick to judge without knowing all the facts!!! FYI, I have known this guy for SIX YEARS!
2006-11-21 12:08:44 · update #2
It sounds like you might just be good enough for him when you're in his presence, but after that....he isn't worried about you. You should say something to him about his ignoring you when you're not around. It sounds a bit fishy to me.
2006-11-21 11:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only into you for the SEX. You are probably a notch in his belt! Even Casanova was into the lady when he was with her, but when he wasn't with her, he was sleeping with others.
So do you make it a habit of jumping into bed with some guy before marriage? You barely know this guy, one month and between the sheets already! By what you say, LDR, you may have only seen him 4 times.
Don't you respect yourself? Do you even consider the danger you have put yourself in? Have you even met his family yet? Why are you so desperate for love? Your own question shows your need to mature. You can not handle a casual relationship without making it more than what it really is. Drop the dude! Get some counseling! Learn about yourself first! You have to love yourself BEFORE you can love someone else!!!!!!
2006-11-21 20:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've told him what you need in the way of communication while he is away, and he still doesn't email or call....then the answer is quite clear....
He is either in another relationship with some one where he lives or he is using you for a booty call and not interested in getting to know you or your feelings.
Time to find out which it is before you get your feelings really hurt.
2006-11-21 19:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by redneon3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do not think like women do. back off of him for awhile and see what happens. do not email or call him. if he truly loves you then he will start calling and emailing you. have you ever thought that he may have another woman? you need to set and talk to him about this and find out really what is going on in your relationship. if it is just sex then he will not call or email you. just set and have a nice talk and find out where you two stand in your relationship.
2006-11-21 19:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are asking too much. If a guy really cares about a girl he will find the time to talk to her. My bf works 45 hours a week and I still talk to him every night. Maybe he is playing you or maybe he just likes his space. I'd ask him about it. Express to him that you'd like to talk to him more.
If he blows you off now consider what it would be like if you two were married. He's not being very considerate, but maybe he is just oblivious. Talk to him.
2006-11-21 19:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not normal. sorry to tell you but he is just not that into you. because he touches your face and holds you after sex does not mean he is madly inlove with you or even cares.
You may want to be upfront and just be like hey why dont you talk to me more often? see what he says.
good luck in love
2006-11-21 19:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i understand wat u r going thorugh. uhm let me give a little help. first off alot of people want ot wait for you to call them. call him and say something out of the ordinary. be like oh i was thiking about u all day and i thought if i called my thoughts might go away and give me reality. or say something nice like i wanted to hear oyur voice. see how he reacts and after a while tell him you'll call him back and that should generate a regular phone conversation. if u want ot email him instead tell him that this email means that everything youve been thinking or wanting from th time you last spoke to him is letting him know that you want to talk to him and for him to email you back. try that and see how itworks!
2006-11-21 19:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not expecting too much. guys have trouble communicating sometimes and they dont understand taht girls liek to tough base liek 2 times a week at least. of ocurse he could just be a really good player and your getting screwed.
2006-11-21 19:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No
he probably just goes to you when he feels like having sex>
2006-11-21 19:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by pina_cojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A call here and there wouldnt help, but you never told us if you ever call. You should be the initiator if he isnt and see if he reciprocates. After that, you take it from there.
2006-11-21 19:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋