looking for a psychiatrist or psychologist that can help me with this problem or are u going thru the same?

Question

I have a SEVERE problem with PROCRASTINATION. Its so bad that it is and has been causing marrital problems for, well since my marriage began almost 18 yrs. ago. Ive ALWAYS procrastinated with EVERYTHING. But what gets me in trouble the most is cleaning the house, anything domestic. Now before you scream LAZY!!!, please dont. I really need help with this and i just dont know what to do anymore. I'm also very depressed. I take Effexor, but its not working anymore and you guessed it, i havent went to the dr to change my meds. Why? Procrastination!!!
I cant stand this anymore!! I dred my husbands homecomming because i know what will take place. and its not pretty!( no he doesnt beat or hit, its all verbal) anyway Please help me with this MONSTROUS PROBLEM! THANKYOU!!!

i do have adhd. i take adderall and that doesnt work well any more either. ive had both upped and you can only up it so much.

Answer 1

First of all your husband should really be more kind in this sort of situation, in your time of need. I've been diagnosed with clynical depression for about a year or so now so I pretty much know what im talking about. Your main problem is your depression. Depression can severely "weaken" your will power among many, many other things. What you need to do is tell your husband, or if you feel more comfortable telling a friend, about this and have them set up a doctor appointment for you and have them even take you so you wont miss it. If you get help, you will get better, trust me :).

Answer 2

You know the answer the your question. You need to get to the doctor and get your meds. changed immediately. Depression is a serious illness and it's nothing to ignore. Medications to quit working after awhile and something new could do you a world of good. I take Zoloft for anxiety and sometimes I feel like it doesn't work as well as it once did and every once in a while I will have into a depression and it's very hard to bring yourself out of it. Just remember you are not a freak and you are not alone. Please do this for yourself, you deserve to be happy and that's something you must teach yourself to do. I work in a well known bank and work with different customers everyday and sometimes it's hard to deal but I put on a happy face and fight back with all that I have. Depression knows no prejudice and I pray you find the happiness you deserve. If you hate cleaning the house, try doing it with the radio cranking and naked!!! Hey, at least the house will be clean!! Good-luck!

Answer 3

This is the best way,get yourself an appointment book. And please...don't go overboard with this idea. Procrastinators often start ambitiously and that's a wonderful thing. Eventually, the massive effort comes to an anticlimactic halt when they "run out of steam", and discouragement sets them three steps back after having dashed two steps forward. It is far wiser to purchase a simple appointment book, preferably one that is about the size of a small paperback that has a one week spread when the book is opened. Appointment books help to address the problems of disorganization and even poor memory.

1.Write down things you are going to do or that you have already done. Look ahead into the next week, if you like, but don't plan your life for the next year. To help you use the book more, write in important telephone numbers and addresses as you acquire them. Carry it around with you all day. Make its presence with you a habit.

2.Break down tasks into tangible stage goals, and provide these goals with appropriate deadlines. Then write these deadlines into your appointment book.

3.Provide yourself with daily "to do" lists that you write into your book. Even small, easy-to-do or habitual items could be added to the list. Check the items off as you go along. The point is to register accomplishment tangibly as you move through the day.

4.Breaking a task down into manageable chunks ("dechunking") usually removes the threat of having to do a large task all at once. Sometimes, a task may be underestimated as costing very little energy and time when it really takes up a good chunk of your energies. Learn to break tasks down to 15 minute chunks to begin with. As you get more practised at it, increase the size of your chunks. It would be very helpful to use your appointment book to plan your dechunking.

Last but not least,procrastination has a way of ruling our lives if we do not bring it under control. Many resigned procrastinators simply confess, "I'm just lazy" and hope that the explanation suffices. Not by a long shot. Laziness is procrastination out of control. It takes a great deal of wisdom and effort to break the clutches of procrastination, but the results are often worth the while.

Everyone has procrastined at one time or another no one is perfect. Taking control with these steps will help aet a handle on your life and the steps you need to take to break free.

Be patient with yourself it will not happen over night,organization times time.So give youself a break slow down follow appointment book.,and you should do well. I have given these steps to a few of my clients and they are doing well.

I hope this was helpful for you.....God Bless.....Peace

Answer 4

I hate housecleaning. I hate doing anything domestic but I force myself to do it. I was diagnosed with depression years ago but I think it was because of my marital problems.
My suggestion? First, hire a housecleaner. It's not that expensive, really, it isn't. then go back and see a doctor to find out WHY your depressed and go from there.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You have to find out why you are doing this. If it's because you are afraid to do something, to make a decision, to say, clean the house, because you're afraid you won't do it right, that's a self-esteem issue, which is common with depression. Please get some therapy to get this treated.

Answer 7

i think of the main important problem for adult men is they're trapped of their very own worldwide/recommendations and in no way truthfully pay attention to understand their spouse. Do you think of you pay sufficient interest on your spouse ? in case you truthfully stay your spouse, are you able to objective to be her chum ? do the element that she like along with her ? the main boring marriage for a girl is to do the comparable element, comparable responsibilities for two decades. we prefer our husband to take exhilaration in us and help us with the living house artwork to coach that they care. Do you have long chat with your spouse and hear her recommendations and concerns ? Your spouse might experience which you do no longer understand her and has no purpose to understand her. you may think of which you adore her yet you may desire to objective to nicely known how your spouse interpret love, till then, your spouse in no way experience enjoyed. you may desire to precise love on your spouse the way she know it. Do you think of you have paid sufficient interest on your spouse's prefer ?

Answer 8

I've had procrastination problems before.
You know what's a great cure? Fear.
It's the best motivator ever.

Answer 9

Hmmm...do you have difficulties focusing and paying attention as well? If so, I would ask for some aderol or strattera.

Answer 10

get a handsfree phone,,,,when you have to have the boring phone calls with in laws or good ones even ,,,clean house as you go...when you get off the phone....wha laa. dishes are done.
its what i do.