ok i have been going out with my b/f for quite a whle now he asked me what i wanted 4 xmas and i said a baby and he just started to laugh he is 23 and im 18 and im still in school to be a police officer in the next 3 years he tells me no that we should wait till next year i just think he is to scared or he is just messing around with me and dosent want me seriously i realy do want a baby i love him and even if we dont stay together 4 the rest of our life a baby is a blessing people can never regret having there kids what do i do should i wait another year and i know its not cuss he dont have money to support the child he owns a building of meat were its like some kind of place were stores buy meat from. i even told him he didnt have to be responsable 4 the kid thaat the baby could have my last name and he still said no he even got mad cuzz i said that so what do i do help?????????????????????
2006-11-21 11:38:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and i would'nt put child support on him im the only daughter my dad has so he wouldent make me work to suport the baby i wouldnt even ask him 4 money either and my father has a night club so we woulnt need money from him
2006-11-21 11:41:23 · update #1
because i dont want to be a old mother i want to have my kids when im young so we can go out together and have fun together i dont want to be 68 and my kid 15 no way
2006-11-21 11:48:07 · update #2
im very mature for my age and i realy think my b/f is just with me cuz of sex and he thinks ill take of with his kid to mexico cuz my famamily is from mexico and i take vacations over there all the time and he thinks i wont come bak one of theses days hes just dosent want to responsablen thats all
2006-11-21 12:09:17 · update #3
I do not believe you are really mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come with a child. YOu can honestly wait a couple of years before you make this life-altering decision
2006-11-21 11:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are 18? And you want a baby? But you don't want to have to work to support your baby because Your father will support it? Are you sure you are 18? You sound about 12. Wait at least a year by all means wait longer. Do you actually understand there is work involved in raising a child? Are you willing to go without sleep for a few years? Are you willing to have little to no social life? I don't think you have really thought this through. I have three wonderful kids. Yes they are a blessing but the little buggers are not a walk in the park to raise. Good luck with whatever you decide. No one is saying you should wait until you are 53 to give birth. Just until you are 20 or 21 Then you will have plenty of free time when you are 40. Still plenty young to enjoy your freedom.
2006-11-21 11:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by zara01 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you know how much of a responsibility a baby is. You are only eighteen years old with a whole life ahead of you. You have not yet explored enough of the world and of yourself to bring an innocent child into the world. If you are studying to become a police officer continue and finish doing that becuase if you get pregnant you won't be able to. In fact , who knows if you ever will. Besides that, financially you need to be prepared emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. How do you know if you will be with this person for the rest of your life. Is it fair for a child to be born into a family that is not prepared with chances of staying together at this age very slim.
You might be saying well, I am an adult and I know what I am doing. Well, my answer is this, you are not behaving like an adult, but rather like an irresponsible teenager.
Before you have children, you and your significant other need to be stable in your career choices and with each other.
Please do us a favor and don't bring a child into the world with young people such as yourself as parents. The world has enough children with one young parent who are struggling to make ends meet because they decided to have a child because they were in love and they could overcome everything...until they get a reality check and understand that this game is for real and not pretend.
Think about your baby before you think about you selfish wants and needs. Honestly having children is a blessing, but for those who are ready in all apects. Truley I work with girls your age who have babys all by themselves because their boyfriend decided that being a father was not for them. So now these girls are alone trying to support themselves and their baby. Working full time while trying to finish school/college and taking care of a baby who will grow up unprevliged.
Do us a favor and STOP BEFORE YOU DO!!!
2006-11-21 11:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by milogz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god!!!! Do you really think you are responsible to have a child!!!!! You talk about having a baby and how you wont ask the father for anything because your DAD will take care of everything!!!! What about you? You say you are mature for your age, but you want someone else to be financially responsible for your child, that doesn't sound very mature to me!!!!
Why should your Dad take care of your baby, his responsibility was to take care of you until you were 18, if you have a baby it is YOURS and the baby's fathers responsibility to take care of that child, not your DAD. I can not even believe you said that.
2006-11-22 15:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A baby isn't something u just decide to have, it's work and responsibility. I don't think he is ready for a child, and u shouldn't force him to make that choice. And it has nothing to do with messing around on you. You need to think long and hard b4 u have a baby and the person u wanna have it with.
2006-11-22 06:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're at extreme hazard of adjusting into pregnant if neither of you're utilising birth control. Your b/f says he's would not want a newborn and you're puzzled so my thoughts are which you mustn't get pregnant simply by fact wishing and hoping that he would be ok approximately it in case you acquire pregnant isn't a huge adequate reassurance that each thing could be ok in case you probably did. regrettably i've got favourite circumstances like yours earlier and the greater youthful females have all ended up as unmarried mum and dad simply by fact their b/f's have performed a runner. Please wait earlier you have a newborn on your relationship to be greater stable, which you would be able to be the two engaged to be married or which you're married. i be attentive to that sounds old formed yet marriage brings risk-free practices that only living mutually would not deliver in a relationship. you will get broody thoughts on and rancid - maximum youthful females do, yet please be in charge and not answer those thoughts by utilising getting pregnant. there'll be a time on your life while it is going to likely be desirable which you would be able to start a family members and while that element comes you would be happy you waited.
2016-10-22 12:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and treat this as a serious question.
Regardless of whether you want a baby or not (what about police career) you should not just be having one on a whim, without considering your partners feelings on the matter.
He probably doesn't want to commit to fatherhood because of the complete irresponsibility you are displaying in your attitudes towards a family unit. That would be enough to scare the sh!t out of any normal bloke, I would imagine.
2006-11-21 11:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you guys should wait until ur both stable enough, to give this baby a good home.
You are only 18 years, you have your whole life ahead of you. A baby means giving up certain things and a lot of changes in your boyfriend's life as well as yours. Maybe you should think about it more.
A baby needs a lot of attention.
You should sit down with your boyfriend and talk about this more. Their must be a reason why he doesnt want a baby.
2006-11-21 11:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kittykat_diva69 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you need a vacation. First, your not married, second who going take care of this baby because police officer can be dangerous job. You have not even begun to live your life and you are ready to tie it down. Wait, until you finish and become a poliice officer then think about a baby
2006-11-21 11:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you wait until you get married before bringing a child into this world. It's hard enough with two parents. You both have to agree in every way when it comes to deciding whether to have a child or not. I would definitely wait until you marry and get to know each other for a few years, then when you are ready emotionally, and financially, have your child.
2006-11-21 11:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by june clever 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋