threatening ex?

Question

my ex recently found out i have a boyfriend and has sent me a threatening email that I am really worried about because it's full of hate and seems like he wants to hurt me (which wouldn't be a new thing) quote: "If you think you have had it bad before, ... just w8"

What should I do?? I'm really scared!

Answer 1

If he made any kind of threat you need to print the email out and take it to the police. It sounds like he hurt you before, tell the police that too. Make sure to tell them that you fear for your life. They can't do much at first since you probably didn't report being hit in the past, but you can start doing something now.

This guy sounds like a control freak that can't stand you being with someone else and I feel for you. I had a boyfriend like that and he stalked me for months until the police got involved. He didn't want to go to jail and finally found another poor girl to abuse.

Take the threat very seriously, tell your family and friends about him and give them a copy of the email and keep a copy of it with you as well to show the police if you have to call them. Make sure that you are never alone anywhere (even a quick trip to the store), that you always have your cell phone (charged) and that anyone with you knows to keep an eye out for him. If he shows up anywhere you are, call the police- every single time. If he is stalking you and making threats the police need to see a reported pattern of behaviour before they can do anything. He might be waiting for when he thinks you are vulnerable, so keep all your doors and windows locked and maybe buy a dog. Find the number of your nearest abuse shelter and get some counseling to learn how to deal with someone like him and so you can learn how to stand up for yourself so you don't end up with someone like him again. Maybe you could find a self defense class to take at a community center or a college near you.

Things like this can easily escalate and he may try to harm you, your family or your boyfriend. They all need to know to stay away from him, that he is dangerous and is making threats. No one will be mad at you, they care about you and want you to be safe. And he wants you to be embaressed or to blame yourself so he can get away with hurting you and get control of you again. Don't let him!!

Don't be afraid because deep down all guys that treat girls like that are cowards. If he thinks you are going to make it hard for him he will (unfortunately) go find someone that will be easier to control. I hope you will be okay and safe and that you find a guy that will treat you the way you deserve- with respect, gentleness and love. God bless!

Answer 2

If you are under the age of 18, I strongly suggest getting a parent, teacher, or another adult you know involved with this situation.

The next thing I would do is call the police and try to get a restraining order. Keep the email on record as well. You might need that down the road.

Good luck and be safe.

Answer 3

If you have been abused by him in the past and he is threatening more, you need to get a restraining order against him. Call the police department (not 911) and ask them how to do it. Also print out a copy of the email and bring it with you.

Answer 4

I would call the Police and also get a restraining order. If he has hurt you before I would move away for awhile if possible and stay with a friend or relative. It isn't being weak, it will give you peace of mind not having to look over your shoulder. On a personal note I believe in God so I would pray for help because He will help you if you ask.Take care and may God protect you.

Answer 5

Print the email show it to someone a police officer, some exes are like that, they can't have you no one else can it could be harmless but take no chances, the email is your proof, make lots of copies, if you are that scared you should make a report at the local police station.

Answer 6

Go to the police make sure that you save those emails so you have proof. Get a restraining order on him. If hes hurt ya once next time might not be so lucky. Dont be afraid to get the law involved call them everytime he does something.

Answer 7

Print the email, go to your local police department and get him under a peace bond or restraining order. That way, if he comes within so many feet of you, I think in most states its 100 feet, he will be arrested.

Make sure your family and friends have copies and I am sure you have mutual friends that if you said something, word would get back to him. Tell them if something happens to you, they will hang him from a tall tree with a short rope.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

go to the local police station and fill out a report and let them read the email from your ex. get a restraining order against him. it all depends on where you live. different states have different policies for the police. go put in a report with the police report and ask for a female officer to talk to and then ask her what you can do. my step dad beat the hell out of my mom for 10 yrs. the officer should have numbers and places that help abused women.

Answer 10

Print a copy of the e mail and make a "diary" of any other threatning behaviour ( dates,times, phonecalls etc) and take them along to the police. They will have a word with him and if he doesnt back off they will take it further. Please dont try and sort it out yourself or get your new boyfriend to as it can get nasty and dangerous and you could even find yourself being prosecuted by your ex!! I am sure if you follow the right channels you will get it resolved. Good luck honey!!