Who do I deal with?

Question

A few years ago, My 11 year old brother got in trouble, and was grounded.. Shortly after he was grounded, he asked me if he can go outside, trying to be a good and "cool" older brother I allowed hima gainst my parents wishes, later that day he had a serious accident were a teco truck ran him over, he had a cracked skull, blood on his brain and a air pocket in his head, he spent almost a week in the ER, with a life treatening object the doctores had to deal with, so now hes almost 13 years old, and he has attacks in his sleep, migrains he faints, he has no energy, and the doctores tell us future problems will happen the older he gets and they say he has a matter of years left to live.. and I care for my brother a deep amount, and everytime I see him, I feel an extreme amount of guilt.. How do I deal with this... everyone says it isnt my fault, but hes death will be becouse of me going against my parents wishes and letting him outside that day.. Can I please get some mature thoughts.

Answer 1

Wow...it sure sounds like you love your brother deeply and you've been carrying the weight of the world in guilt. I felt a lot of pain as I read your question.
Just some thoughts...other people can say over and over again "it isn't your fault," but I know that doesn't change the way it feels. It hurts, and it's hard to live with. That's a fact. An accident happened (and that IS why they call them accidents--because they happen and they're not always someone's fault or preventable). I can tell you wouldn't have let your brother out if you'd known he was going to be hurt.
By the same token, you could have said no and kept him inside and he might have fallen down the stairs or fell and bumped his head--you have no way of knowing "for sure" that things would be all better if he'd stayed inside. You see my point?
I know you feel very guilty, but you don't control the universe. That's not your job. There are other forces at work, whatever your conceive them to be, that work all those things out. You didn't cause this accident. You were just doing the best you could at the time. That's all any one of us can do.
I hope this helps some. It would be really good if you had someone you could talk to, perhaps a professional, who could help you through this. Best wishes.

Answer 2

God Almighty is able to heal.

vIn the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)

Answer 3

i always hav feelings of guilt about being molested when i was little. it wasnt my fault, i didnt know what was going on but i feel like it was my fault. i was four when my mom died, 13 wen my band director was arrested for child molestation. and 14 when my frined doed of bone cancer. none of those things are my fault and i feel like they r. i hav nightmares about it being my fault. i blame myself and so i take all this out on myself. i cut a lot and i got caught recently and put in the mental hospital. the only person that really was able to help me feel even a little better was a therapist who really made me feel like he understood. i know my situation is different than yours but i understand guilt when its not ur fault. find a therapist u can connect with. mine just had to say over and over its not ur fault. i dont feel so bad now even though i still blame myself. find a therapist that u connect with and if u get one that u dont feel comfy with or dont feel like ur able to talk to get another one. just talking andd hearing over and over made me feel like it was less my fault even though i still blame myself to this day.