My three year old has been potty trained for three months now with hardly any accidents, he still wears a diaper at night time. The past week, he has been having LOTS of accidents and just had his fourth one today. How should I handle this? I usually tell him, accidents happen and act like it is no big deal, but c'mon, 4 times in one day is a bit much! i'm at my wits end parents - HELP!
2006-11-21 11:09:09 · 10 answers · asked by dogriver 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son did the same thing. They regress sometimes. I kept reminding him during the day if he had to pee. I'd ask him every 30 to 45 minutes especially after he drank. I'd remind him you don't want to have another accident. It took about 3 days and he got the hang of it again. They get so busy with playing etc. they forget to go. Hang in there, it's just a stage. My son was 3.5 when it happened to him. =) Good luck!!
2006-11-21 11:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is something else going on that could have affected him? New house or job or baby?? Sometimes kids regress when something else has happened. Also make sure you rule out sickness because that could be causing him to have accidents too. But don't make it a big deal which I know can be frustrating but otherwise he might become scared and reluctant to use the toilet.
2006-11-21 11:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Teetlebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, check with his doctor to rule out a urinary track or bladder infection. Children often regress with new changes in their lives. Have there been any recent changes in his life (move, new baby or one on the ways, new school, family issues, stress)? If so, give your son lots of extra love and support.
It could get caught up in the moment from time to time, but frequent accidents throughout the day seem to suggest he may be having “accidents” on purpose. Children will resort to having accidents in order to feel powerful and it gets time attention. Help him to feel powerful in positive ways by saying thing like "You did that by yourself!" "You can run super fast!" "Look how high you can jump!" "You used so many colors on your painting." These phrases are great confidence boosters, are great ways for you to show love and attention, and great ways for him to feel powerful in a positive way.
Don’t let him know that you have and issue with this. If you insist, he will resist because he is in control. Please don’t reward, take away privileges, send him to his room, or remind him every so often if he needs to go. These will only give more attention to the problem. If you see him doing the “potty dance,” say to him “It looks like you need to use the bathroom.” Say nothing more that that. When he has and "accident," don't give it much attention. Say "It looks like you need to change." Give it no more attention than that. He can remove his wet clothing, rinse them out, put them in a bag in the laundry, clean any wet area, clean himself, and put on dry clothing. Don’t help him. It won't take him long to learn it is much easier to use the bathroom. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-11-22 05:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I teach 3 and 4 year olds. Sometimes kids get so caught up in their play that they don't feel like or forget to go to the restroom until it's too late. I would really not recommend punishing him. Let him change his own clothes and put the dirty clothes in the laundry room. At least he's learning responsibility that way.
2006-11-21 12:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows how to stay dry; now you need to hold him accountable without turning it into a power struggle between you. Tell him, "I am not going to nag you to go potty. You know how. When you do not stay dry, you will go to your room for the rest of the day, no matter if it's almost bedtime or 10am. You will miss any meals and activities remaining in the day. It's up to you." Then stick to it. He will test you two or three times. Then he will stop having accidents.
2006-11-21 11:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am going trough that now with my two year old. i wasn.t even going to bother potty training till next year but for the least two months now he has been going to potty off an on. my middle son wasn't potty trained till 3 1/2 yrs old. my oldest was 2 yrs and 9 months old. they all learn at different stages they also regress sometimes
2006-11-21 21:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by momofsix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using a reward system such as a chart with stickers and everytime he uses the toilet he can pick a stciker to put up. Or just have him use the toilet lots during the day. I work at a childcare center and we have the children use the toilet at certain times during the day or if they are prone to accidents they are sent to 'try' more often
2006-11-21 14:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Roz S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he may be bothered by something or he might be so in to his playing that he doesn't want to get up and go to the bathroom.
2006-11-21 12:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really ask somebody that you know that has a baby for this question
2006-11-21 11:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by RB- is happy 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋