me n my now "ex" boyfriend were spending the whole day together...then HIS ex- girlfriend shows up out of no where..long story-short, she comes up to me n attacks me right as im about to leave, he stopped the fight, but it was like he was trying to defend her. i was so pissed, i left without saying anything. I havent heard from him since, only n e-mail saying he was sorry. But that meant nothing. Last thing i want to do is get back with him, but just the thought of him not trying to talk to me after all this makes me feel horrible, i dont wanna think about him but that's all i seem to do. I feel so down..i NEED to move on b/c i know he is not worth my time, but i cant help myself!! wat to do? :(
2006-11-21 11:05:47 · 17 answers · asked by asi soy YO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he only sent you an email he is probably with his ex, either way it means he does not care that much about you...he has your number, he can call you (right?) and the fact that he did not defend you over his ex, when she was obviously in the wrong, shows he either does not care that much about you, and might still have feelings for his ex, more so than he does for you..I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but i am just trying to give you the best advice, which is to realize (which it sounds like you already have) that this guy does not truly care about you and the best thing for you to for yourself is to just forget about him and move on, as hurtful as it may be. You could email him back demanding an explanantion, and telling him how hurt you are, but it wouldn't make much of a difference.
2006-11-21 11:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confused because you are sending two completely different messages to yourself over the one situation.
Situation occurs and 'you were so 'p****d' you left without saying anything'.
You did say 'Last thing I want to do is get back with him'
and yet you also say:
but just the thought of him not trying to talk to me after all this makes me feel horrible. Lets break it down a bit. Just in those two messages to your mind in themselves....you are saying to 'self' I dont want him but I want him to ring me. The Universe hears only 'want him'....so therefore you are feeling horrible now because of that 'energy' that is hanging around you. It is all in the 'wanting'. Thats all it is. Change your 'wanting' and your feelings will change with the new 'wantings'.
I want a new boyfriend whom will validate me.
This last fella did not 'validate' you, in fact he downright disrespected you and not only that....he did it in front of his EX girlfriend...giving her more power of you...that is why you left without saying anything...how could you? You were gobsmacked and depleted and would have been caught up in more worse 'horrible' than the 'horrible' you are feeling right now.
You can help yourself, please do not entertain the idea that you can not. For a start...You are a perfectly unique spiritual being whom has come to experience peace, love and happiness as your birthright. You have a right to be validated and have 'deservability' of self in your life. This is not being selfish....it is being 'self-ish' and that is the key to being a free spirited soul enjoying life being inspired and inspiring others.
Look 'past' these people. You are higher and better than this. This girl has left her insecurities with you and taken your validation and self confidence and abused it in your face. This is light stealing in my corner of the world. Any further projections from here....psychic attack.
Know you are worthy of much better and trust that you will only meet like-minded individuals. Your first choice in life every day you awaken is to BREATHE. Every choice thereafter, should serve you and those you love for your highest good.
If it does not feel good.....don't do it. Only do and be what feels perfectly truthful to you and validate yourself. We do not need others approval of ourselves....we are our own achievers. Go Girl.
Blessings be yours in peace and light
Harriett Potty ;)
2006-11-21 19:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by harriettpotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are mad at your boyfriend because his ex is a b*tch. If he said he was sorry then you should, at least, talk to him and ask him to explain what happened. Otherwise, you are playing right into the ex-girls hands. She wants you to be pissed and drop your boyfriend so he can have him back.
I would say give him a chance to explain himself.
He probably didnt call you because he didnt know what to say.
Men dont really know how to handle mad women.
Otherwise, get a new boyfriend and just move on.
Good luck
2006-11-21 19:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush for an answer right now...clearly he doesn't want you or he would have done more than apologize through an email, that's childish and cowardly. Give this time...by giving it time your feelings will heal and you'll move on a much stronger person!! Look for help from your girlfriends, talk to them about what a skeez he is and laugh at what a mistake he was...girl talk always helps! :) Be strong!
2006-11-21 19:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another love interest. Are you not worthy of being loved and respected? Do you seriously need help with this or you just felt like wasting 5 points on this question? Gosh, the wonder of the female mentality. No wonder so many women get abused! Some of you just wait around for it, don't you? Woman up! Be strong! This is your life, live it, god dammit!
2006-11-21 19:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's hard to let go of someone that you love, but just keep telling yourself that it's for the better that you and him aren't together. You know that you don't want to be with that kind of guy if he ever is going to treat you like that! It'll pass and you'll find someone new eventually. For now, I would do things with your friends and they will support you. Stay close to other people and do things to take your mind off him! Hope this helps!
2006-11-21 19:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you don't like him like a boyfriend anymore, but you still like him as a good friend, and you are hurt that he puts a relationship over a friends-forever deal. Try not to move completely on and still stay friends with him, that will help it a lot.
2006-11-21 19:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by eratomo9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't even try to apologize in person or at least over the phone I don't think he's worth your time. Find someone without so much drama surrounding him. I think that would be better for you.
2006-11-21 19:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by lizoffspring 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isnt truely over his ex girlfriend. Get rid of him. If he can say sorry to you to your face and has to do it through an email, hes a coward. You can do better. Best of luck to ya!
2006-11-21 19:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget about him. Obviously he is not a man, but a boy and the way you say this makes me think he was still seeing the girl or at least still thinking about her and loves her. You deserve better.
2006-11-21 19:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋