This guy asked me to be his gf but I said no becuase he was alot older than me and because I didnt feel like we really match, he's really quite and I'm energetic and more outgoing. I asked him if he'd like me to fix him up with my cousin, she's older than me and more like his type, he said okay. So I fix them up but I dont tell my cousin it's a fix up.I told her he saw her at my place before n he asked me to fix them up.I didnt wanna hurt her feelings becuase she's really sensitive about not having anybody ask her out. Anyway, they seem to hit it off real well and next thing you know they're a couple, I was really happy. BUT... whenever I meet them he doesnt stop staring at me, I dont know why he keeps staring at me and I hate to think he might still like me because that would break my cousin's heart, remember she didnt even know he asked me to be his gf from the first place. It makes me very uncomfortable when he keeps staring specially that he's like 9 yrs older than me.
2006-11-21 11:00:59 · 11 answers · asked by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 19, they're in their late 20's.
2006-11-21 11:09:22 · update #1
i don't see where anyone at fault especially since your cousin still doesn't know that it was set up. but if you feel uncomfortable with him staring at you i would talk to him and tell him that i don't feel right with him staring at you. but i would also remain keeping it a secret from your cousin since shes sensitive. good luck.
2006-11-21 11:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by stressed&depressed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how old are you? I get the feeling that you're young enough that there's no way he should be asking you to be his girlfriend, or looking at you that way.
It was a nice thought for you to set the two of them up. You shouldn't feel bad about that. And you didn't lie, he did ask you to fix the two of them up (it doesn't matter that you brought it up, he said he was interested in her).
Even though it initially was a nice thought, though, this doesn't sound like a good guy for your cousin to be with. Frankly he sounds downright creepy. I think I might tell your cousin that he seems like a nice guy overall, but you feel like he stares at you when you're around him, and you find it creepy and uncomfortable. Say it's probably nothing, but you had to say something in case she's noticed anything else "off" about him, because you don't want her being with a guy who doesn't deserve her.
2006-11-21 11:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The few wise words from my older sister:
"The only reason an older guy would want to go out with a younger girl, and I mean WAY younger, like 5 years, is to get in her pants."
It might apply here. Also, it's illegal if your still a teenager (my friend got in trouble for dating someone 4 1/2 years older than her. he went to jail.)
Pull him over, away from your cousin but still in a public place, and say, "Look, I don't know if you still like me or not, but please stop staring. It's really weird when your going out with my cousin, and I don't like you that way."
2006-11-21 11:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not unrealistic to think that he still has feelings for you. After all, he did ask you out. And don't let it break your heart either, you can't change his feelings. If he is happy with your cousin, that is good. But if he still is sexually or emotionally attracted to you, so be it. He still probably has feelings for you, and although I'm sure they will go with time, they aren't hurting anything at the current state, and as long as nobody says anything it should be fine. I think you probably made it clear to him that you no longer wanted to be with him, so he'll probably leave you alone. Good Luck!
2006-11-21 11:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are hot.
I dont know how old you are but the guy may like younger girls? WHo knows?
As long as you are a good person and a good cousin, just treating the guy like a creepy old guy, you will be fine.
Oh and dont put yourself in the position of being alone with him. Just not a good idea
2006-11-21 11:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to take him aside some time when your cousin isn't around and talk to him about it. Because she's gonna notice it eventually and it's probably gonna hurt.
Tell him you hope he isn't with your cousin just to be around you, because that really isn't fair to her. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable when he stares at you. Just tell him how you feel, and tell it like it is.
2006-11-21 11:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by sharky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yours, u got them together in the fisrt place if u said no, he wouldn't stare at u when he is going out wit your cousin! If she is sensitive don't u think she will sooner or later find out n blame it on u for not telling her anything
2006-11-21 11:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Steven Haywood 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him why he keeps staring at you. (in private of course)
If he is still after you, make sure he knows your are not interested, and then stay away form him.
2006-11-21 11:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by zards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it`s actually very simple. when you want somethin and you find out that you can`t have that thing, you emidiatly grab the leftovers, but you keep wondering:"why am I eating this sanwich? why couldn`t I have the 3 couse meal?". trooth.
2006-11-21 11:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell horn dog to take a cold shower.and to stop disrespecting u and your cousin. good luck
2006-11-21 11:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by dounut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋