My dad and mom have been together 18 years. She is filing for divorce after the holidays. My dad never plays games with us, never goes out to eat with us, won't watch movies with us, and won't go to my brother's baseball games. He has never been to any of my or my brothers school functions and he doesn't go to church with us. My parents got in a fight earlier, and my dad said infront of me and my brother, that he doesn't give a f*ck about us. He has been buying alcohol, cigars, and porn and he threatened to hit my mom. He even told us one time that he will hang out with us once we are older. My mom has to do everything for us. My dad even put 3 times as much as my mom in their retirement funds. My dad buys things and does stuff on impulse all the time, and lost us a lot of money in the stock market. He only wants me when it's a good time for him. He makes promises he never keeps, and complains about how much my mom spends on food, when she uses coupons and rebates.
2006-11-21 10:59:34 · 16 answers · asked by *~*~*~* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He also said that he would not stop doing it, he would rather have the porn, cigars, and alcohol than us.
2006-11-21 11:01:43 · update #1
My mom has been saving up money for incase something happens. We are staying with him during the holidays because he works a lot extra and we can get the money. My parents have not went out in over 15 years. My dad hates vacations, when he goes he sleeps in the hotel all day and complains and wants to go home. He only wants me for the glory, when I'm a doctor. I will not have him walk me down the isle or even attend my wedding. He expects my mom to clean, cook, and take care of us. He is pretty much worthless, only a pay check. He only thinks of himself.
2006-11-21 11:08:27 · update #2
Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.
I didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
2006-11-21 11:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dear you sound like you have a father that other things going on in his life. My suggestion to you is just leave him be when your mom and dad split go live with your mom and give it sometime. Someday in the future he may snap out of his deal and then you can get your relationship with him right. Even if he never is nice to you ever again don't hate him because you owe him something you can never repay and that is your life, because he is partly the reason you are here.
2006-11-21 11:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by get the facts right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that. You must know that your fathers failures have nothing to do with you or your mom & brother....
no matter what he says.
I suggest feeling sorry for him instead of hating him. For someone to be so miserable.......do you think he likes himself??
I think not.
You go to church.......pray for him.... pray for you and your mom & brother. That is what your dad needs most right now.... PRAYER, but of course you have the right to dislike or even hate your father.
Remember that hate consumes.....
I am really sorry about everything that you are going through.
NOBODY deserves to be treated that way.
2006-11-21 11:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean i had a similar situation with my father he was just like that but worst he hit my mom. but i mean hate is such a strong word try dislike because u dont know how u might feel in the future but i dont talk to my father anymore because of how he treated me my brothers and my mom but i decided if i kept all this hatred in my heart because of him i would never be happy so i had to move on with my life without my father
2006-11-21 11:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should leave him and start over somewhere else. Don't hate him, it will eat you up and you'll turn out hateful and bitter. See a therapist, and if you cannot afford one call County Mental Health, they work on a sliding scale. How do I know they work? They helped me thru my fear and anger and I'm now depression free. Let go and let God!
2006-11-23 14:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by fifi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste your time deciding whether or not you can hate him. You have better things to do in life. Dont hate him, just ignor the fact that u want to hate him. So Sry, but If he says things like that, he obviosly doesnt care much about you.
2006-11-21 11:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate him because that does something bad to who you are as a person
You can dislike him and feel very sorry that he's throwing away the two most wonderful things in his life.
Not now but please believe this....one day he will regret this and it will be too late because you guys won't need him anymore.
So don't hate him....feel very sorry for him...he's a angry, sad and pathetic man.
2006-11-21 11:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure do!!! if your dad keeps treating you and ur family like that then your sure do have a big right to hate your dad!!!! but i also think you should feel sorry for him because hes just a pathetic man (no offense) i feel really sorry for you, nobody is supposed to be treated that way!
2006-11-21 11:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel better now? Hang in there and get yourself prepared to get out of there. Your father is a poor excuse for one but you do owe him respect. once you are grown you can see or not see him as you feel.
2006-11-21 11:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is depression talking, he is a mean dad, and im sorry, good thing you are aware of that and you know to not expect something in return from him, better help your mom...
2006-11-21 11:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by RENE H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋