Weight issues...my family keeps insisting that I’m “chubby” and I need to do something about it...?

Question

I’m 5'4-5'5, and around 105lbs. I’m usually around 97lbs, and people always said I was “tiny” or “too skinny” (not that I agree). Anyway thanksgiving is coming and I’m with my family, grandparents, mother father etc. It is driving me crazy...everyone is being so insanely rude about my weight, which I’m finding frustrating and hurtful. Yes, yes, yes, I’m chubby. Whatever. I’ll change that, and get back down to 97, but the fact is, I’m not huge and I know it. My grandmother (who I haven’t seen in two yrs) keeps saying things like “you know, you really should not eat that. Unless you want to get fatter then you already are”. To me that is horrifying, it may be true, but it just seems mean. My mom was getting on my case about my “weight” and I mentioned how I’m not THAT much heavier then usual and she says “you ran this last summer when you were living with Jen, and muscle ways a whole lot more then fat”. I’m just wondering if for one, I am so amazingly “fat” that it’s ok for them to go on about it?

And yes, I am the “large” one in the family. My sister is 5'4 and 92lbs, and my mother was very small too, along with my grandma.

Some of you are ******* stupid. NO I’m not anorexic, umm...use your head- do you think they would be getting on my case if I was? And no, I’m not 13, I’m in my early 20s. Oh and for the person calling me a skank- you don't know me, and don't act like you know my "type". I am in no way a whore or a skank or whatever you would like to call me. And of course I have many wonderful freinds.

Answer 1

Shut your ignorant mouth. You are well aware that you're not fat, but you just want to hear that don't you? Shut up you anorexic skank. I'm so sick of idiots on here going on about how fat they are when they weigh 97 fukking pounds. SHUT UP. I bet you have no friends.

Answer 2

I really don't understand why they are insisting that you are 'chubby'. You are quite clearly a little underweight even if you have a small frame and you do not need to lose any more weight.

To me, it sounds like your family have some personal issues with body image, which they are now pushing on to you. It's quite frightening, as they may not realise the damage they may be doing to you psychologically.

Talking to someone outside your family would be a good idea, such as a counsellor. I'd also suggest taking your mum with you to see a doctor, so that they can make your mother aware that there is not a problem with your weight and possibly address the issues with her making these comments towards you, as she may have some psychological issues.

Sorry to hear you are going through this, but I'm pretty certain the problem is not your weight, but some personal issues your family has with weight and body image. HTH : )

Answer 3

Youre right to feel this way, your family is being very inconsiderate and rude, telling you your over weight & so forth.

Even if you were, its not their say. Its up to you how you feel about yourself. I am 5'8 and weigh 120 thats way more than a mere 105. Its nice to have some womanly curves than all bone and skin. No one likes the looks of an unhealthy person.

People react in different ways when they havent seen a person in a while, or they see a change in any way to your body or life style. But really 105 for 5'5 is not fat. If you feel self concious then exercise a bit, but dont get down about your weight to were you starve yourself into looking thin. Dont change yourself for others do it for yourself.

Answer 4

It's your body, and all that truly matters is how you feel in your own skin. You're at a perfectly healthy weight so I wouldn't pay anything negative they said to you any mind. I had a grandfather that would try to do that to me. (I'm 5'5 and 125) I knew that I looked and above all else felt good about myself and just focused on tuning him out. If you really want to express your feelings to them, explain that what they're saying is bothering you, and that you're happy with yourself and would like them to stop. If they still persist (and tell you things such as "we're only doing what is best for you") then just don't listen to them. They don't seem to realize that negative reinforcement is usually only that; negative. All it usually does is give what was once a confident person a complex, especially when it comes from family. From an outsider reading about your family, I'd say they're nuts. You're perfectly healthy.

Answer 5

If you are 25 under you should weigh between 116 and 134 if you are 5'4, and 120 to 138 if you are 5'5. If you are older, you can even weigh a little more. I think your family is either insane, or they are being facetious. I weight about 110lbs at 5'3, and I am always told I am thin. When I weighed 95lbs several years ago, people said I looked anorexic.

Answer 6

It's a sad but true fact, that no one can hurt you like family. Tell them that you think that you look nice, and that if you are happy with it, they should be tickled for you. Then look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Families have a thing about trying to point out the bad stuff more than the good. Not all families, but some. Just enjoy being you. They still love you, they probably don't even know that it bothers you so much. Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

okay first of all everybody stop effing calling her anorexic. you guys just assume shes anorexic just b/c shes skinny except people can be skinny w/out being anorexic trust me i would know.
and your family is really delusional because your 105 and they think your fat thats just disgusting. just b/c your mom was flipping skinny doesnt mean you should be that grossly light. just tell her that and plus people look better when they weigh more. your actually perfect andddd i was like somewhere around 95-98 in jr high and im like okkk wow im too light so i gained weight and now im at 102. you know what if you ask your friends they'll probably b like...you look so good right now and if you lost any weight you would look disgusting. b/c you would, seiruosly and plus guys hate disgustingly skinny girls i know you think guys are like okthe skinnier the better but all the guys i know hate that and yeah. dont listen to them. and tell your sister to gain some weight while your at it. PIG OUT on thanksgiving. and be like ha. i dont care what you say. HAA

Answer 8

It sounds like you are actually a little on the skinny side if your height is what you say it is. From age 13 to 14 I gained about twenty pounds and that is normal when your body changes. If you are around 13, weight gain is perfectly okay. Don't worry about your family. They always nitpick in things that are really none of their business.

Answer 9

First of all you only weigh 9 more pounds than you use to. That's not over weight! Personally, I think you maybe under weight. You should consult with a doctor or nutritionist about your weight. Get a professional opinion. Second you shouldn't worry about what your family says. If you are happy with yourself - the hell with them- tell them to mind their business. It sounds like your entire family has an eating disorder.

Answer 10

Tell Grandma and Mom to stop. You are fine and they are most likely jealous. I would ignore them as there is always someone who will complain about whatever is going on in your life. Ask them if you can get your face tattooed and your tongue pierced and if that would take their mind off of your imaginary weight problem.By the way you are at a perfect weight and DO be sure to grab an extra helping of stuffing and you favorite pie for me.

Answer 11

um....don't know if you are fishing for compliments, but at 5'4" and a 105 is far from being chubby. It's rather on the thin side and I'm pretty sure most doctors would agree. You didn't mention your age, but I'm assuming you are a teenager. Your weight is more than good for your height. What you are enduring is called verbal and mental abuse.