Hi, I have a problem that I would really love someone to help me with. I know this girl who I really like … and we go out together… having so much fun, but the thing is … that I know in some point … I am going to have sex with her. Actually, I’ve never had sex before … and it is really embarrassing to tell her that “I am 20 years old and I’ve never had sex before”. I keep getting these signs from her to have sex … I know the protection that I have to use, but what to do and how … are the ones which I don’t. Please any help or any suggestion, I would be really thankful.
2006-11-21 10:52:46 · 22 answers · asked by Jose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would like to thank everyone here who tried to help me with my issue. Just to for the records … I am sorry I didn’t include an important detail … it was in my mind but … I completely forgot it. My mother passed away once she brought me to life. I have one little sister, from a step mother, and I used to live with my father up to high school. After I graduated from the high school, I moved on to live on campus. To tell the truth, my relation ship with my father isn’t that good … so I thought to ask this question to you guys and girls … and you’ve been so helpful… I am sorry, but I had to add these details because I kept getting these answers that says that I have to talk with my parents. So … just trying to clear important information here…Anyway thanks for your time, I really appreciate it.
2006-11-21 11:21:49 · update #1
You have to relax. She probably knows your a virgin, girls can feel it. Sex? Just go with the flow. You'll know what to do - it comes in our nature. Some pointers:
- don't just charge into her
- make out with her
- slowly work your way down, slowly taking off clothes
- places to kiss: lips (the ones on her mouth for now!), neck, behind the ear, her boobs (try avoiding the nipples at first), go down further south, her belly area and around her bikini area as well, also the inside of her thighs - remember - SLOW, gentile
- go slow, girls need more time to warm up then we do, dude
- listen to how she breathes, it'll let you know if shes enjoying herself
- don't ask her what you should do - it might ruin the moment
relax, go with the flow!
goo luck man!
2006-11-21 11:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jacus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could get a sex tape. Not hardcore. They have the ones that teach you how to make love and be gentle. Of course you won't learn everything in one watch but it's a start. Then your gonna have to get used to how she likes it. Once that happens you'll be okay. Once you learn that then you can get buck wild after.
2006-11-21 11:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by fiveninebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do some reading. I'm sure you'd be too embarassed to buy a book on the subject in a book store, so go on line and get one. If you don't have a credit card, go and get a Visa gift card which can be used like a credit card and buy one on line.
2006-11-21 10:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chris D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use the internet. plus there is nothing to be ashamed about. if this is truly you`re first time, then I suggest you take it slow at first and as you start to get the hang of it, start penetrating her a bit faster. then work you`re way till climax. to satisly her or a t least make her think :"hmm.. not bad", try to hang on for 30 minutes or at least 20. contact me if you want any more advice. glad to help.
2006-11-21 10:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. There is nothing we can tell you here that is really going to do anything for you. If you are going to have sex with someone you should have enough caring between you that she will understand when you tell her it is your first time. She might even be flattered you chose her for this special time.
2006-11-21 10:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch a few porns..pick up a few positions and have fun....in the heat of the moment you wont even be thinking about what you are doing it kinda just happens. And don't be scared, especially of oral sex, thats where you can really score with women !!!
2006-11-21 10:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by SNIPES8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line,"Never Assume Anything". If your sending singnals to her don't assume she understands them. Sonner or later your gonna have to tell her.
Be honest with her. She'll should be flattered by the idea that you have chosen her to be your first. If she thinks your a loser after finding out than she's simply not worth it.
Its also important to tell her why. If its religious or fear of AIDS
I think she will accept it.
2006-11-21 10:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, don't worry about it.
Remember, humanity since teh dawn of time has always procreated and had sex, _without_ DVDs and books!
The more books/Internet/movie crap you see, the more paranoid you'll be on what you are _expected_ to do. When you have sex, tell her its your first time. No big deal. She'll even like you more for it.
2006-11-21 10:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by zards 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a good book. Try Supersex by Tracey Cox. Shes usually pretty useful.
2006-11-21 10:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Shmoe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you should not be embarrassed that you haven't had sex yet, it's really ok, in fact, your girlfriend should consider herself lucky. 2nd, when you're together, don't worry, everthing will fall in place, take your time and enjoy the ride, no pun intended.
2006-11-21 10:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋