more questions about somone who sells their body?

Question

ok thanks for your quick responses.. There is no doubt I have insecurities about the relationship. Sorry but the next bit is graphic.....but her last client was so rough he actually damaged her body. I mean she had some silicone things implanted, andn one of them was badly damaged and needs urgent surgery. She doesn't do that work anymore, but help me here? How am I supposed to live with that? How can I care for a woman that lets men do that to her? I Just don't know how to react? Should I feel OK about it, and am I out of order because I don't?

The other major problem is that I feel used. She never has any money so I paid all costs to get her er operation sorted out. So when I see her, I feel like one of her clients now, ie that I have to pay money to have time with her.

Don't get me wrong, she is a lovely girl, and I wish it could work. I'm just not sure it can. Be honest here, if I am over-reacting tell me!

Answer 1

I didnt see your previous question, but Id say you are reacting pretty rationally. If I were in your situation I would not accept a relationship on those terms...;

Answer 2

I personally don't have a problem with girls stripping as a profession, to pay the bills etc, I definitely understand. It's an easy way to make lots of money. But on the other hand I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with one. No matter how good things were I guess I'd always question if things were really good or if it was all an elaborate lapdance.

In the end it's how you feel. If you're filled with this much doubt and expense it doesn't sound like it's gonna go anywhere.

Answer 3

"You can take the girl out of the city but you can't take the city out of the girl"

This "lovely" Girl as you call her (do you somehow think that prostitutes don't have nice personalities)? they can still be likeable but that doesn't mean that a long term relationship (certainly not right now) is viable.
If you'd met her 10 years from now & all this was behind her (excuse the pun) you may have a chance. But, right now, she will have far too many issues to face in order to even herself cope with being tied to just one Guy.

I'm not saying an ex prostitute can't get clean & then settle down to have a family, but it's far too soon at the moment. I'm not saying that people can't change, they can. But if I were you I'd have been far more impressed if I'd met her once she'd got herself away from all of that & proved to not everyone else but to herself that she could do it.

How come she has no money? how come she's relying on you to take her away from all this? You will need to wise up I'm afraid. You are just another client to her, another regular joe that can foot the bill one way or another. Yes! she's been used & abused but what do you think prostitutes do if it isn't to use Guys back. She is very clever at her business & why not? it turns out to be quite lucrative at times. They say on most street corners you can find a prostitute, well! on the next street down there's always another poor sod waiting to pick up the pieces.

You say you wonder if you can care for a Woman that has allowed Men to do these things to her, I assume by "things" you're talking of the abuse which brought about her injury??? well, what about all the other stuff she's allowed Men to do to her & all the stuff she's done to them???

Are you absolutely without a doubt positive that this Girl would stay with you if you never had any money at all.?????
If you can honestly hand on heart with all certainty answer "yes" to that question then give it a go.

I feel somehow that her reputation as a street hooker will not be what you're looking for in a Woman, especially a Woman you may one day want to be the Mother of your Children.

How can I answer with such confidence? because my Mother was a prostitute & trust me, all the Guys she ever got involved with (& yes! there was the one that "took her away from it all") ended up on the rubbish heap. She "settled down" but would often (behind my step-fathers back) revert to her former habits, even with my step-father's so called "best mate"

I love my stepfather to bits & Respect him with a capital R.
My Mother?!!!!!!

I hope you can get things sorted out & have peace of mind. You're worth more than that surely!

Answer 4

I wonder how old u r and whether or not u have heard this expression before, "You can't make a housewife out of a whore." I've been down this road before and believe me she is using u and u r just another "trick". U meet this wonderful young girl who cries actually cries on ur shoulders how rough she's had it all her life but what we fail to see is that she made the conscious decision of taking her first client and continuing to do damage to her body with her "Johns" for whatever she charges. Straight sex if she is fine should bring her anywhere from $300.00 to $500.00/hr. Unless she's, "a $5.00 dollar whore on a $2.00 dollar mission". Which simply means she may also have a drug abuse problem that can't allow her to make the money she could bring in, so she can't afford the richer things in life like paying for her own schooling like a lot of prostitutes I've known or buying their own home for security in their older days to come when they have to retire because most do eventually have to because of ware and tear, no puns intended. Man open ur eyes and run the other way before u get caught up and or lose ur life in the mix of trying to save hers. Men also suffer from the Florence Nightingale Syndrome (the need to care for someone when they really don't need to be taken cared of) and that's where u r sir.

Answer 5

A teenage girl about 17 had gone to visit

some friends one

evening

and time passed quickly as each shared

their

various experiences of the past year.



She ended up staying longer than

planned,

and

had to walk home alone. She wasn't

afraid

because it was a small town and she lived

only

a

few blocks away.



As she walked along under the tall elm

trees,

Diane asked God to keep her safe from

harm

and

danger.



When she reached the alley, which was a

short

cut to her house, she decided to take it.



However, halfway down the alley she

noticed

a

man standing at the end as though he

were

waiting

for her.



She became uneasy and began to pray,

asking

for

God's protection.



Instantly a comforting feeling of quietness

and

security wrapped round her, she felt as

though

someone was walking with her.



When she reached the end of the alley,

she

walked right past the man and arrived

home

safely.



The following day, she read in the

newspaper

that

a young girl had been raped in the same

alley

just

twenty minutes after she had been there.



Feeling overwhelmed by this tragedy and

the

fact

that it could have been her, she began to

weep.



Thanking the Lord for her safety and to

help

this

young woman, she decided to go to the

police

station.



She felt she could recognize the man, so

she

told

them her story.



The police asked her if she would be

willing to

look

at a lineup to see if she could identify

him.



She agreed and immediately pointed out

the

man

she had seen in the alley the night

before.



When the man was told he had been

identified,

he

immediately broke down and confessed.



The officer thanked Diane for her bravery

and

asked if there was anything they could do

for

her.



She asked if they would ask the man one

question.



Diane was curious as to why he had not

attacked

her.



When the policeman asked him, he

answered, "Because she wasn't alone.

She

had

two tall men walking on either side of

her."



Amazingly, whether you believe or not,

you're

never alone. Did you know that 98% of

teenagers

will not stand up for God?



Repost this as A girl raped in (your hometown) if you truly

believe

in

God..,





PS: God is always there in your heart and loves you no matter what.....and if u stand up 4 him u would repost this



i bet 93% of u people that read this wont repost \

Answer 6

If you're starting to think in economical terms (like a customer) yourself it ain't good. She'll surely pick up on that and the whole trust thing is down the pan.

Its good what you did for her financially. The trick now is to cut her some slack.Sounds like you want her back on her feet so you should be supportive. Give it a while and see how it goes. Review the situation later.

Good luck

Answer 7

Ok first of all why is she allowing clients to abuse her like that and secondly with all due respect the type of clients reflect the girl.
You have to trust me on this.Walk away.If you decide to stay i won't blame her but you because she knows what she is doing and your are willing to be taken for a ride(pardon the pun) even though you don't want to admit it.

Answer 8

She most likely will never change, you should get rid of her now before she puts you in an emotional hole and drain your money. She's no good with a million problems. Sorry, but someone has to be frank with you. Stop feeling sorry, just do it, end it. And date good positive people.

Answer 9

since you question her then she obviously isnt your cup of tea...friendship is the best in this situation...she needs someone who actually cares about what happens to her and she needs your support..instead of paying her debts and supporting her wrongs...help her succeed in life...worst times in someones life they need a good friend to keep a shining smile on their face...dont let it frown...but if she uses you then you know what to do...no need to explain, you sounds like you have brains...plz use urs wisely

Answer 10

Yeah um, you date a stripper you should know what you are gonna get...no condolences here...