I love him- there's no one else- but I think if I stay here I'll just hate him.
2006-11-21 10:17:09 · 10 answers · asked by Amanda R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I love him- but it was a surprise proposal and I answered without having much time to think about it- he'd arranged an engagment party immediately following and our entire family was there. I was a bit pressured for a quick response. But I've recently gotten the opportunity to travel, and the more I travel the less I want to live here. Him changing career is not an option.
2006-11-21 11:22:34 · update #1
Tell him what you just told us. You don't owe anyone your happiness. It's unfortunate that you kind of took him along this far, but would be unfair to both of you to continue when deep down you know you aren't going to be happy.
Maybe a compromise can be made? But if not--get out! Don't look back, many people marry with these doubts and deeply regret it later and then further complicate things with children.
Despite the "Green Acres" comparable, this isn't funny and probably not going to "grow on you".
Good luck to you both!
2006-11-21 10:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 13:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to follow your heart ... maybe take some time away from him ... and travel or live somewhere else ... this marriage will never work if you stay ... you'll always be wondering what if and why did i stay .. your heart is not here w/ him ... be gentle when you break up with him and don't let him think he's not what you want ...
2006-11-21 13:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life and you need to do what you need to do to make yourself happy. However, I think that if you really love him that you would want to be where he is. The worst that could happen is that you will have to totally start over. Good Luck Girl.
2006-11-21 12:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. Tell him that you don't see yourself spending the rest of your life as a farmer's wife. He will be disappointed, but it is not the end of the world.
2006-11-21 10:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Robert G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your fiance wouldn't have asked you to marry him if he knew how you really felt about living on the farm. You should have thought about that BEFORE he popped the question. And now I'm hoping he will not marry you. You self absorbed brat!
2006-11-21 10:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you say yes to him then.
Ask him his plans let him know that you want to move around more have an honest discussion about it, and above all do not lie about anything.
2006-11-21 10:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him this, that you don't want to stick to this lifestyle. Ask him if he would consider changing careers.
2006-11-21 10:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not want to get married because of where you live?
2006-11-21 10:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by chrissyinauburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you don't want to dtay there forever, you couldn't do it, you wouldn't be happy. He has a right to know. Maybe he is willing to comprimise for you and your love
2006-11-21 10:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋