how do you stop thinking about someone who your not with anymore? Your just going about your job or someone say's sumthing and the next thing u know your thinking about them.
2006-11-21 10:15:21 · 14 answers · asked by davieboy06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no easy answer to "forgetting" a past relationship
I'm assuming that by the word "forget" you mean to "get over"????
The ending of a relationship is often likened to a death. In both cases we feel the need to grieve. It takes different people different amounts of time to grieve & come to terms with their loss. Even when you've come to terms with someone dying, you still don't forget them.
When it's a relationship that has "died" we face similar situations to having lost someone in death. You mention there the classic signs of "just going about your job or someone says something & the next thing you know"!!!!!
That's exactly how it goes after someone dies as well, it could be a couple of months (or longer) when something will happen, you'll see a certain person, see something on the T.V. hear a certain song, smell a certain smell & all the memories come flooding back.
Just as with a death, getting over a relationship that is "no longer here" is going to take time, Obviously the outlook is brighter as you can get out & try to meet new people & catch up with friends etc in the knowledge that your ex partner is doing the same.
You've heard the old saying that "time heals"
Well! I have news for you; it doesn't, but it sure as hell helps us to be able to deal with our losses in our lives whatever they are.
You won't forget this relationship you had but you'll think of it less & less. In years to come you will still see or hear things that will bring back memories. But as time goes on these memories will stop being painful. You will have filled the gap you now feel with new & more than likely better memories.
Be patient with yourself. Things will get better for you. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-21 11:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess you could start by reminding yourself why this one went Phfffffft. If you ended it, you can be sure that the reason you did, is still there. If she ended it you have to recognise that there is no way you can FORCE somebody to love you if they just dont...... or fall back IN love with you if whatever it was that person thought she had, has simply gone.
It crosses my mind if perhaps this relationshiip that you are still fretting over could have gone south because she felt that you might be pressuring her.... being a little over-possessive. I am thinking this because it's not too emotionally healthy to be clinging to something that just didn't work out. It happens to most of us at some point in our life, and we just pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and move on down the road.
Hopefully, you have some pleasant memories from that relationship, that you will some day be able to look back on and smile. In the meantime, simply wish her well in your heart, and remind yourself that you a re still YOU, and almost certainly, when the time is right.... probably when you are least expecting it.... that special someone will walk into your life and you will let the past go where it belongs... into history.
2006-11-21 10:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on work. Concentrate on getting fit, get into your own hobbies again. Start chasing after other women. Or men, whatever. Its normal for stuff to keep coming back but after a while it'll wear off. Go spend some money on yourself and flirt with lots of people!
Its um... fun being single
2006-11-21 10:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new girl!
I'm not saying you should go and have a new relationship necessarily, but find a new bird who you can talk to free and easy and you will soon forget the one who is preying on your mind!
2006-11-21 11:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by alfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I will never be able to stop thinking of the one I love.
Too many things are a reminder... a song... a feeling... a picture... a desire... a comment... a saying... a funny thought, the list is endless when it comes to losing a love you thought was strong.
2006-11-21 10:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it extremely is not much less stressful for a guy to recover from it, yet they do no longer take a seat around crying and eating ice cream like us females do, they get a clean female as speedy as achieveable to attempt and ignore you
2016-11-25 23:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you really care about someone it is very hard to get pass it.expescially if it was serious.what i suggest is to go out and meet knew people.don't spend to much time with your self because it gives you to much time to think.and sometimes thats not good to be in your head.talk to your old friends maybe you could go out with them to take your mind off of that person.like they say time does heal in due time.Imyself have been hurt so many times but i took it as a lesson learned.and still to this day my love for him is still there.but asfar as being in a relationshipwith that person it could never be ,only friends and he is my childrens father,but now i am happily in love with someone else and we have been together for the past six years .and i can tell you the truth no its not peaches and cream but we do whats right to make it right.and when i was with my childrens father after i left him i didnt think i could go on with out him.but i did and i am still holding on to my heart because he did have alot of impact on my life after the breakup.because we have children together.my advice to you is always keep your heart guarded at all times.there are alot of no good men that are trying toget in good only to have sad results.GOOD LUCK ON FINDING A NEW MATE.DON'T JUST SETTLE FOR ANYTHING.THERE ARE PLENTY FISH IN THE SEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-21 11:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why forget? even if you now dont get on you still had some good times - right, take the positives forward and move on, even if your ex gave you the shaft phone her up and say "I forgive you" lifes too short too hold grudges.
2006-11-21 10:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by PSP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how long the relationship was. The longer it was,of course, makes it more difficult but if it's over it's over just 'SHUT THE DOOR' Been there done it!
2006-11-21 10:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by baaden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to forget about it will be to DEAL WITH IT. I think you guys will need to meet and talk about what went wrong.
2006-11-21 10:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by asake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋