After my boyfriend murder i found his cell phone,and while he was living I never paid attention the signs like his text messages folders alway were empty(cuz he would delete them)and the many code names for other females.Anyway,I have his cell phone and I and decoding these names and matching them up with different females that were at his funeral.The biggest lie I have uncovered so far, is the fact that he said he had a daughter name Lavendar&the # in the phone is that of a 17 girl with 2 kids who dropped out of high school. A neighbor told me that he was just messin off with her while I was @ skool during the day.I also have the # of his ex girlfriend,who was trying to get back within,I read the text messages and he tellin her he is wit sum1 but he loved her so much, but he moved on.I wanna call her 2find out what he did during his last days, but I know it's gonna hurt, plz help me see why I shouldnt call despite the fact he is dead,after a death there are always questions
2006-11-21 09:45:02 · 6 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a really tough question. It sound like either way, you are going to be in some pain. I would say call, just because you know that if you don't you are going to go nuts wondering about this or that. I'm sorry for your boyfriend's death, but it doesn't sound like he was faithful at all. Do you really need to know anything more about what he was up to? It's up to you, but maybe you should just let it all go. Get the info that you need, and then get rid of the phone. Obviously he deserves rememberance, but it doesn't sound like he deserves the amount of pain that you are going to inflict on yourself because of him.
Good luck and I'm sorry.
2006-11-21 09:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry to hear about that. You sound like a great person and you didn't deserve that to happen to you. PLEASE don't ever hurt yourself, it solves nothing, and this jerk of a guy isn't worth it!!!! Your much better than that. As for calling, I'd say to go for it, you should know what's going on, but at the same time sometimes its best to do what you feel in your heart is right. Only you can make that decision!You have my prayers, please dont do anything you'll regret! Just do what you believe is right.
2006-11-21 10:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by K! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your desire to know about your boyfriend's action have a positive outcome for you? Will you feel better knowing what he did? I suggest not. You will never know all the details of his last days. She may not have all the answers and it is possible that he might have been involved with others. Kindly, dispose of the phone and seek some counseling. I wish you the best.
2006-11-21 09:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by david42 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to toss the cell phone and move on. Why would you want to torture yourself like that? The guy is dead. No good can come of this.
2006-11-21 09:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is best to let things go an move on. Let him rest in peace. Sorry for your loss. I've lost someone in the past also so I understand.
2006-11-21 09:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by vato 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to Suicide is Potassium Cyanide if you cant get it try Carbon Monoxide, CarbonMonoxide kills the nervous system which is responsible for the pain and you die and you wont even know when you are dead.
2006-11-21 09:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by sam_sw18 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋