I have been dating a man for a month and at the beginning he used to call almost every day to talk or asked me on a date.
Two weeks ago we spent a whole weekend with my friends at the beach house. We had a great time. However we have not had sex.
After the weekend he went on a vacation trip to visit some friends . When he came back he called me but we haven´t seen each other since that trip to the beach and he is not calling as much as he used to at the beginning.
This dating experience is different because this man is 12 years older than me and divorced in two ocassions. No children.
Is he afraid ??was the trip too serious??I am very casual and do not put pressure on him because I do not want a serious relationship since I just broke up with my boyfriend since 9 years ago. What is this man deal??
2006-11-21 09:43:32 · 14 answers · asked by lyjoanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a casual friendship, just as a you say. Enjoy what you have. Spend time with your other friends, too.
2006-11-21 09:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he wants something then you should sit down and talk to him about it.. Plus if he doesn't call you as much doesn't mean that he stopped liking you maybe you just need to call him sometimes.. The bf doesn't always have to call.. If you're not ready to have sex with him then don't.. Have sex when you think you're ready don't let him pressure you into it.. If you want to see him more then you should make plans ask him if he wants to see movies or hang out at your house or go to dinner.. My opinion I think you should dump this guy if he is 12 years older then you.. That is a really big age gap.. They say that age doesn't matter but I think in this case it does and that you should go out with someone your own age.. And if you don't want a serioud relationship then maybe you shouldn't go out with him because he is older and he might want a serious realationship.. I hope this helps you.. :)
2006-11-21 17:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by *Heavenz A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually it's always like that guys call you almost everyday and then something happens and the # of calls decrease...that's normal...but the way it happened with you is a lil weird...Maybe during his trip he either realized ur not the girl for him OR he ain't gonna get "it" that easily from you and he 's not willing to struggle. To be hones I think he is very old for you...I'm guessing ur like on ur 20's and he's on he mid 30's ...not good ...and on top of that divorced twice...I'm sorry but some one that has gone through divorce 2 times must have some issues or maybe just bad luck!! but the sounds of it you are not in love with him so just let him go b4 you do fall in love...ur too young to be dealing with these kind of things.
2006-11-21 18:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by babygirlxx68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on 12 years how old are you if 12 years is close to half of your age then your friend should slap you upside the head. if you really wonder then ask him, don't BS yourself or him just say " here's the deal buddAy( dont forget the A in buddAy) i like youbut i'm starting to think you no longer are interested in a relationship so what's the word, should i stay or should i go?"
people Beat around the bush entirely too much so let us foster a new era of honesty and straight forward attitudes.
2006-11-21 17:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.....either he is afraid.....although the weekend trip doesn't seem too serious, that may be how he took it........or he just doesn't know what he wants in a relationship. Talk to him about what he wants in your relationship. See what his problem is. The only way to find out 100% what is going on in his mind is to find out from him.
2006-11-21 17:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by Gothic_Maiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess on this one is that it is possible that he could be dating someone else, either that or he doesn't know how to progress with the relationship. I would ask him if any of his feelings for you have changed since you guys went on vacation, because you guys haven't been hanging out as much as you used to.
2006-11-21 17:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was in it for the nookie...might still be casually talking with you and staying on good terms incase you offer him some. If you really want to know then get him on the phone and hint around that you are lonely and horny...lol... if he's just wanting nookie he will jump all over that. Sleep with him if you want or when he gets there tell him you are on the rag & see how he reacts then.... course that would be the mean way...but effective....
2006-11-24 01:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he met someone else on his trip..
the possibilities are endless but the only thing i can tell you for sure is that guys are idiots, they could have the most beautiful care free, wonderful girl right in front of them and still screw it up
conundrum..
your probably better off sweetie.
you sound too smart for a guy like that, i know its tough but move on, there's always something better ;)
2006-11-21 17:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by theburlaces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like he might just want to enjoy your company and get to know you better,but if he hasnt looked for you then you might just want to forget about him in general he might not be interesed in going out with you.Dont worry it tkes time and patience some one more fun and interesting will come alongjust give it time.
2006-11-21 17:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD TO DO IS ASK HIM WHATS YOUR DEAL BECAUSE ONLY HE KNOWS AND THEN GO FROM THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-21 17:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by NICKIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋