Wanna date outside of my race but.....?

Question

I'm all for interracial dating but I've never dated outside of my own race before. I'm cambodian and I'm afraid that someone of a different race wouldn't understand me as well because of my culture.( For example, the food I eat, my superstitions, and just my way of doing things). I'm afraid that they'll think I'm really weird or their parents and family would hate me. Do you think this is a problem or is it really just all in my head?

Answer 1

Well as long as you have some expectaions like my personal ones:
Some expectations of a good boyfriend
12) Someone who holds your hand whenever possible.
11) Puts his arms around your waist and whispers in your ear.
10) Kisses you every chance he gets.
9) Holds you close when your cold.
8) When you are alone-holds you close and KISSES you.
7) Kisses you on the tip of your nose (it will give you the hint that he wants to kiss you.)
6) While in the movies, puts his arm around you and then you'll automatically put your head on his shoulder then he'll lean in and tilt your chin and kiss you lightly.
5) When you complain that your neck hurts he'll massage it for you.
4) When people diss you he stands up for you.
3) Looks deep into your eyes and TELLS you he loves you or that you are adorable.
2) Lays down under the stars with you and puts your head on his chest so you can listen to the steady beat of his heart and link your fingers together while he whispers to you as you rest your eyes and listen to his voice.
1) Open all doors for you (it makes you feel so special!!!)
and you find yourself doing some of the following: How you get a guy to like you!
1. Laugh at his jokes, but don't go mental over the lame ones 2. Smile a LOT 3. Talk to him a lot, and get really funny/interesting/good conversations going, ya know, get to know him 4. Be REALLY nice 5. Stick up 4 him when he is insulted (For instance - "At least HE'S not a loser") 6. When you talk to him, use his name more than once so he know's that you know his name, (boys like to hear that) 7. Do not put on makeup/lipgloss/fix your hair in front of him. Always do this BEFORE seeing him. :-) (and don't overdo it) 8. Be yourself! 9. Bring him a little something on his birthday - not like a HUGE gift, may B like a little card/note or something (let him know u care) 10. Talk about things u guys are interested in - maybe you have some similar interests that u can talk about! 11. Never hesitate to let him use your pens/paper/other junk he needs to borrow! And let him use the BEST pen you have. :-) 12. When other people accuse u of liking him, IN FRONT OF HIM, say that he is very nice (LOOKING j/k), and what is worng with that? 13. Say hi to him in the hallways 14. Tell him your e-mail address and get his! 14. When you talk, do not avoid his eyes. Look straight into those pretty blues! 15. Make some jokes! (Not lame ones) 16. Avoid bragging (this goes w/ out saying) 17. If you ever write a note to him, write "Your friend" or if it is a little more intimate, write a heart or "luv" before your closing. Make the letter *colorful* 18. When you talk, don't do all the talking - let him say stuff too, and vice versa 19. Be yourself!!! (yet again!)
Then mabye you should give it a try. I don't think it's in your head, it's in your heart. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART AND IT WON'T FAIL YOU. Good luck to you!~Alison~

Answer 2

I think you should do it. You are all for interracial dating, which also means that you arent' worried about misunderstanding another persons culture, food preferences, superstitions, etc. If you wouldn't be affected by stuff like that, then you shouldn't feel that the person you choose to date would either. We are all different in our own ways...even those of us within the same race. Everyone is different and has their own quirks. Those differences are the very things that bring us together with other people. If we were all the same, it would be soooo boring.

Take a chance. You don't know if you can fly until you jump.

Answer 3

I think you worry too much about what others think about everything you do, it's all in your head. Dating outside your race can be a great experience for anyone who doesn't put LIMITS on themselves, but keep in mind, it's important to remember that culture is important as well, maintain yours. Cambodian's are beautiful people. Everyone has their own way of doing things in every culture out there, it's up to you to utilize your own beliefs, not hold them back. A lot of beautiful people come from interracial parents. My husband is 1/2 italian and 1/2 caucasian, we have mixed kids that are beautiful, one is dark skinned w/ dark features, one is light skinned w/ light hair and eyes. No worries, they are both beautiful and they explain to other people who don't believe they are related. "One brother is from the northern part of Italy (light) and one is from the southern part of Italy (dark) It makes sense to them after that, it's pretty straight forward. I think it's important to believe that different cultures can mix and make beautiful children. How can you think that someone wouldn't understand you when you haven't even tried them out yet? Ask yourself that question. Don't be afraid of taking chances, life is all about taking risks w/ people you meet, date and eventually marry. Some of my good friends in high school were Cambodian, or Korean. My cousins are Korean, adopted, and have interracial spouses, the kids are beautiful too. Take a chance on something new and thrive on it!

Answer 4

Well those are risks that you would be taking. If you find a truly nice person, then they will want to know more about you and your culture. Family is a little unpredictable though. Some parents are ok when it is other people's children dating, but then if it is there own they can totally freak out. (experienced having my parents do this) So probably a good idea to take things slow and feel out the family before getting too serious if it is important to you that the family like you.

Answer 5

what about the food, superstitions, and way of doing things with the other person.
each has his or her own way. the thing to do is try them both together and enjoy the differences between them.
celebrate traditions of both cultures and respect choices made.
have fun, agree or agree to disagree on the differences.
then try a culture that neither of you know and share the things you know of each other's with them.
start something new.

Answer 6

I say go ahead, and try it. :) You may find your true love. And if he can't accept your traditions or culture, then he isn't the one. But if you fall in love with a guy, and his family is a little odd, don't worry about it. Believe me, even people of the same race or cultures don't get along with their in-laws. :)

Answer 7

I think/believe that this is probably mostly in your head. When I start to find out things about a person, its our differences that make me want to get to know someone. Its the cultures the make us unique and I think its our understanding and acceptance of people that brings us to love them. Good luck.

Answer 8

Go for it. I've always dated outside my race. I'm sure you'll find someone that shares similar interests as you in a different race. There are a lot of gals out there ;)

Answer 9

Thats a reason to date outside of your race. You learn about other people and their culture. They learn about your race and culture.

Answer 10

I think most of us are naturally attracted to people who are like us. Your culture is a big part of who you are, but you may share even bigger things with someone of a different culture. We're all more alike than we are different. I don't think you need to make an effort either way...just date who you find interesting. (who finds you interesting, too!)