I Have this really strong feeling that our relationship is over, it's been four years and out of nowhere two weeks ago things took a turn for the worse. We don't hang out and we barely talk on the phone. I love him but he seems to have lost that spark. Anyways we talked last night and when the question came " Should I keep trying or should I give up" he stood quiet for a while. So I said than if this is how it's going to be I give up, and then I started to cry. He held me and told me it's not over. I felt better last night that he told me that. But now I have that feeling and I asked him and he is avoiding the question! How do I get him to just tell me it's over, or if it's not how do I get him to tell me what’s wrong?
2006-11-21 09:23:59 · 35 answers · asked by NuNu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Answer given by " Nadia " is quite realistic !
2006-11-22 23:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A.if he doesn't hang out with you anymore then are you sure you still have things in common?
B. When a gal cries a mans primitive side to protect kicks in so when you cry be it of frustration or sorrow or just to feel better the other person forgets the real mater at hand and and goes into "console mode"
C. if he's told you it isn't over then tell him that either he put in his 50 % in the relationship and tell you whats wrong as far as he is concerned and the best way is point blank face to face and to the point since and if you cant communicate honestly and without beating round bushes and being left to hang by threads then is this really worth it??
remember you are a great person or he wouldn't have started going out with you in the first place and if its over its over and the least hurtful way to get over it is a clean break.. all the best and face the truth like the tigress I'm sure you are ..... take care and live life king size it only comes around once!!!! always remember this last part.
2006-11-21 09:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Judith h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be feeling the same way just kind of confused you need to sit down and talk it out suggest going out for a day long date and see if you can actually stand each other it might spark something it might not but at least you tried. The fact that he got quiet means he might feel it's over but when you started crying he felt guilty and couldn't let go you just need to step back and see where you both really stand.Good luck
2006-11-21 09:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by lazerus2391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's going nowhere and you feel like it's over, why not just end it yourself? You don't have to feel like you need his permission to end the relationship. But don't be to hasty, maybe you're just having a tough spot. After all, it worked for four years. The best way to talk to him about it would be to have a long serious conversation about it. Try not to cry, it might make him feel bad.
2006-11-21 09:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dmitri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK to put it simple its over! When he didn't say anything that was your answer the holding thing was a security for you, cus he didn't wanna see you cry. Honestly he wont give you a straight answer. And by not answering you when you asked him a second time again you got your answer regroup look at the better picture and move on don't dwell on the small stuff there is better out there!!!!
2006-11-21 09:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by big guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you putting your life on hold and waiting for him to decide what your future is by waiting for an answer? Is this the kind of relationship you really want? Is this the kind of relationship you would want for your best friend/sister? If the answer is no, then stop waiting, take control and tell him that sadly, yes, it is over. Then go and find yourself someone who doesn't make you guess about how they feel about you.
2006-11-21 09:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by angel444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel, you feel like the spark is gone, and he needs to let you know honestly if it is. He needs to be honest with you most of all. Tell him you can handle the truth that him beating around the bush about it isn't helping you at all and is in fact making things worse between you even though he says it isn't his actions speak louder than words. He might not be sure of himself and is just afraid of hurting you but in fact him not being honest is hurting you.
2006-11-21 09:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by cathandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK him again and if hes quiet tell him lack of words means its over. If he doesnt respond, DONT CRY, because crying will make him regret it and apologize and say things he doesnt mean like lets work it out, when he really thinks its over. Be careful sweets, and be strong. Good luck
2006-11-21 09:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if i were you, i would just ask him an not talk to him and just avoid him until he answers. If he doesnt ever tell you the Answer
Tell him you need to know or else you just really dont like him anymore. oh yea, if he lost "the spark" u r tired of him---
the real love of yer life will never lose its spark.
seriously, consider this----> it helped me out alot
2006-11-21 09:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by yyyeah. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And the answer is, its over sweetie, just go find your friend Jack Daniels, JIm Beam, or Johnnie Walker. Tell him see ya wouldnt wanna be ya. Then take a year off, then go hunting for a new mate.
2006-11-21 09:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by John L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is over and you need to somehow pick up the pieces and move on. He only caved last night because you were crying but the love is clearly gone.
2006-11-21 09:26:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋