My little sister called me a week ago crying on my shoulder because she recently found out my x-husband (her current husband) has cheated on her. I love my sister & hate my x-husband, so I am not looking for sympathy, I am looking for advice on comforting her. I don't want to console her by saying it will all be ok, because it won't be. At the same time, I don't want to use personal experience (he cheated on me 5 times in 6 years). They just celebrated their one-year annaversary, and have a 2 month old duaghter together. I can see she is in for a world-of-hurt, and want to be there for her. I feel like anytime I try to comfort her I just want to scream ""He is a pig, and will always be a pig"". That is not going to help her any. He works out of town; he knows that she knows, and will be back in town for Thanksgiving. What do I say to her, what do I tell her? I want to help her make the right decision, whatever that may be. Anyone have solid advice for me to help her out?
2006-11-21 08:52:30 · 9 answers · asked by Feeling Froggy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK OK I KNOW IT IS A MESSED UP SITUATION, BUT PUT THAT ASIDE FOR A MOMENT & HELP ME, HELP HER. PLEASE!!!
2006-11-21 09:07:51 · update #1
I have no idea what to say but I think you do. Here's how to bring it out: 1) Close your lips -- not teeth. Feel those soft lips coming together ("a soft answer turns away wrath") and maybe a little smile forming because you are in control. 2) Breathe. "Prayer is the breath of the soul." Ask for guidance as the air comes in. Breathing also sends oxygen to your brain and widens your eyes so you look attractive and people listen to you. 3) Now open your mouth. Say something positve and loving and true to your sister about your sister, the baby, yourself, your family. The pig does not exist. And incidently, you are the most incredibly loving, family-oriented person I've ever encountered. Your sister probably has the best of intentions, too. Good luck to you all.
2006-11-21 09:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you let your sister marry that creep anyway? After seeing what happened to you, why does she wants him still? I just don't understand this. I know this may be a bit harsh, but you should tell your sister what he did in the past and the reason you divorced him (she may have known of it well by now). He will never change, and I think it's better that she divorce him and ask for child support. Personally, I'd make his life hell after I divorce him. Help her find a good lawyer for the job.
2006-11-21 09:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl what a life i cant help you but what was your sister thinking about when she got involves with your ex-man she should of learn from your mistake let me tell you something that happened to me i met a guy and i got to like him (i mean real like) me talk now and then and then i met a girl the girl became my best friend but only to find out that the boy i was falling in love with was my best friend x-boyfriend it pains the **** out of me but what could i do i had to put it off because i Cherish her friendship.the point is not even friend don't live those life. family stick together you have to help her no matter what. but you don't have to feel bad for her you learn from your mistake she shouldn't have pick up that pig after you put it out.
2006-11-21 09:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
on line matrimonials do have problems such as you're having. what's finished can not be undone.you have come to a pair compromises. what's your real issue? Passionate love or his lies? regardless of if this is hobby - which could be dealt with via being extra being concerned and sharing your concerns - talk it with him, overtly in a good way. regardless of if this is lies - think of of it as a value you have paid for somethings for which you married him in the 1st place and now forget it. you could talk this with him and permit him recognize with reference to the wear and tear it has brought about. Get him to vow by no ability to repeat this in the final pastime of the dating and assure him via words and deeds which you have forgiven him. Make a make certain by no ability to get depressed and by no ability ever think of of suicide - this is the biggest mistake one makes and against all sane human behaviour. ultimate of success.
2016-10-17 08:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by felio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry Springer
2006-11-21 08:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by lizarddog01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you're not one bit surprised to hear he cheated. You know all about that. You decided you don't have to put up with his cheating *** and if someone is telling her the opposite thing, they're lying to her. You're telling her like it is whether she likes it or not. What she does with this information is entirely up to her.
2006-11-21 08:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i see no need for you to help her after what she did to you...shes lucky to see you once a year at Christmas...thats not even what a friend would do MUCH LESS A SISTER.... She has alot to learn. has she ever apologized...if not dont waste time
2006-11-21 09:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ex is a loser and your little sister and her baby will be better off without him.
Sorry that sounds harsh, but good grief, what an a-s-s.
2006-11-21 09:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by his_scarlett_ohara 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would your sister marry your ex?
its kind of like the creed of not dating friends ex'es
2006-11-21 08:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jas 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋