Would it be bad of me to ask my grandpa if the women can sit at the same table with the men for Thanksgiving?

Question

Whenever we get together with a lot of relatives for an event like Thanksgiving the men always sit at the same table, the women at another, and the kids at the children's table - they are so cute, bless their hearts! A man carves (usually the oldest) the turkey up and then the men and children sit down while the women serve them and finally the women sit down at their table. Well, my husband showed me a painting in history book of the pilgrim and indian men sitting at the same table with the women. Do you think it would be uppity of me to ask my grandfather if the women can sit at their table after we serve them? My husband says he wouldn't mind if we all sit at the table but that I had better do what my grandpa says out of respect. I don't want to sound like a whiny brat on here but its just that I love listening to men's conversations sometimes because they talk about some neat and important things. Please don't get me wrong - I love talking with ladies and will be happy with

whatever table i am supposed to sit at :)

Answer 1

I like His Scarlett Ohara's answer: Sit with the children. By the way, I notice you are at Level -1 and zero points. I suspect people are beginning to get annoyed by your delusions.

Answer 2

If the girls does no longer sit down on the table while dinner is served, then needless to say there's a difficulty with the marriage and there's a sturdy hazard, that she sits on the counter for concern of being hit returned or having something thrown at her or she sits there because of the fact it placed her closer to the door, could she could "go out, point left" (get it). yet one greater reason, according to hazard the husband is so controlling and is no longer use to having women or a female in his presence at the same time as he devour. maximum pink necks demonstrate this sort of habit. this sort of habit is the comparable as while a guy sit down and watch television, then pass gasoline as though he's the only one there and if the spouse Say's something, she get smacked around the realm of the top and dragged into the hallway and beat with the employer end of a buggy whip or forced fed a sequence of leather-based knuckles.

Answer 3

After reading many of your questions, I firmly believe Little Angel is a male. Either a young boy or a young man. Who do you think your trying to kid ? You need to sit with the men at their table or at the children's table , if your an older boy. There is no woman who would write the way you do. I wonder also if your Muslim ??

Answer 4

Wow. That tradition sounds messed up, where do you come from? I think you should ask him if you ALL of you can sit at one table. And don't serve the men food, they an get it themselves. I would HATE to be in your family.
What's the point of family eating together at Thanksgiving if you don't all sit at one table? And if there's not enough room at one table for all of you then push all the tables right next to eachother.

Answer 5

wow i've never heard of something like that nad to me that kinda sounds sexist. LIke i mean for all my family get togethers we have three tables as well but it's where the older adults then the young adults like teens and stuff and then a childrens table so yea the men and women sit together in my family and we all get our own plate the women don't serve the men they are big enough to get their own food so no i think you should as him if that would be okay but really i don't knwo why they would do that. to me that seems wrong

Answer 6

I'm afraid if you stand up to your Grandfather your Grandma's prediction may come true. and the fires of Geihenna await you. That is, of course, unless your Grandfather is distracted by the ongoing puzzle of his 22 yr old betrothed being hymenless.

I imagine in that case, your father in law would have to carry out his threat of spanking you.

Why not take another ritual bath with your gran, and your husbands girlfriend. That should distract the men long enough for the women to steal their places at the table.

Lord, you must be incredibly bored. Go play somewhere else.

Answer 7

I'm not sure what nationality your are, but our family all sits together. The reason for thanksgiving is to be togethe not the men separated from the women and kids, what kind of family gathering is that. I believe the whole family should be able to join in the conversation and talk about whatever. No I don't think it would be bad for you to ask, that is what family is for.

Answer 8

I think everyone should eat at the same table your right the pilgrims and the Indians sat together tell your Grandpa to compromise and everyone will be happy. have a great Thanksgiving.

Answer 9

Ok, Little Angel, here's what it is: Your elders are of strict religious tradition. You have the opportunity to observe the western culture first hand.

The traditions you were raised with are considered very conservative in this country. The things you ask about are foreign to people of western culture. We can be raucous and rebellious, our youth can be sacriligious and brazen. We also come together as individuals in our family relationships. Socially men do not dominate women in this society. It causes a lot of problems compared to the submissive wife of your culture, on the other hand, we avoid some of the behaviors you are experiencing. On the other hand we have the right to Respect from our intimate family relationships. What you descibe as submissive we interpret to be abuse.

You are now caught between the cultures. You can grow to respect and appreciate the graces your cultural teachings bestow....and still have a right to expect to be treated on an equal basis with your husband. Legally you are entitled to half of all marital assets. This is not a weapon. This is your half of the partnership.

Have respectful conversation with your husband regarding how you feel about what is considered to be abuse in this country. See if he cannot comprehend that in this country he does not have a right to lay hands on you or treat you in an abusive manner.

You have the unique opportuity of observing both cultures.

Ours is diverse and rich. We encompass all religions and our population is representative of every nation in the world. We live in peace here. It amazes me every day. Appreciate all aspects of this Life you have been given. Look for the beauty in all of God's children. Here you can see it firsthand. Good and evil. Choose your path, you have your Life ahead of you, choose your path....

Answer 10

You know what table you're suppose to sit at.