he seems to be old fashioned but just started acting this way after our son was born
2006-11-21 08:26:58 · 27 answers · asked by JENNIFER M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yikes. I would get out before he is your boyfriend of 3 years.
2006-11-21 08:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off NOT ALL GUYS are like this! ! OK that said.....
is he like this with other people?
is he like this with his friends? I you say yes, then he needs to see someone fast, and then the two of you need to see someone..he needs to get these problems solved NOW, not later...
also, is he getting the same amount of attention from you as he did before, usually not after a new baby comes into the picture, the guys takes several seats back, one to the new MOMMY, two to the new baby, and then he acts like one too....new moms get tons of attention from everywhere, even total strangers on the street....an for babies..for get about it...they get it constantly..constantly, even if they are crying, females, kids, and even some guys come over and smile at you, but give the baby tons of affection, and where is dad...( even though he is or maybe right there ) people do not even see him...I am not making excuses fro him or saying it is OK for him to act this way..but these are a few of the reasons he may be acting like this, and he may not even know it himself....or at least not totally know it...so please get him to go see someone, and you too..or it will get worse adn it will end up becoming a part of his every day activities when he is home...and you know what that will do,,make you guys split up...and we do not want that, now do we..another thing, most churches have what they call " marriage encounter weekends" and I believe they are free, so check that out and go...but do all the checking out with out him knowing at first...
and give him some special time all the time, that wink, that smile, that shoulder rub, and a whole lot more..even if you are elbow deep in changing a diaper, wink at him, smile and whisper I love you so much...and then smile...bring back that spark...
good luck
smile
2006-11-22 03:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be MORE serious that it sounds or looks. Your boyfriend may have some serious anger management issues. First of all, like everyone else said, he's a man. They all have stupid issues of their own. Second, he's proabably hiding something for u (sorry) but i could be true..u never know...third, maybe he is jealous of your son (which is a stupid reason but could be true also) and finally, maybe he's phsycotic....so before everything is too late and he ends up hurting u or ur son, u should leave and call a hotline that helps people with problems like urs.....problems with physcotic *cant spell) boyfriends
take care, good luck, and be safe!
2006-11-21 08:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy Answer: He's a dick.
Not to easy answer: There's something on his mind he's not discussing with you. Does he only act this way around you, or in general?
If it's a "rage" as you describe it, you need to keep the safety of yourself and your son in mind.
A relationship is a 50/50 thing, regardless of him being "old fashioned", and he needs to step up to the plate and discuss his feelings instead of hulking out like a child.
Good luck.
2006-11-21 08:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Pluto Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because most guys always want things there way, Now he has to share you with a child and work around the needs of that child. So little things that could go his way but don't seem more important. Been there, done that ....and grew out of it. He's just too young to be where he is.
2006-11-21 08:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though he is having some anger management and insecurities going on. Sometimes men feel a little left out when a new baby arrives. All of your attention is focused on the baby when it used to be focused on him. Perhaps try to get the baby to bed and spend some quality time with him and have a good heart to heart and listen. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-21 08:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience,Boys (men) will always be momma's boys. Their mother was the only one that ever did it right. If you don't or aren't doing it just the way his mother did - your wrong! There is always more than one way to do something - a lot of men never learned that. Their worlds are black and white. You will have to figure out how to let him know that you don't like the tantrum and to communicate instead of insist
2006-11-21 08:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might still have some growing up to do.
Also, people act or get away with certain things if they are allowed to. Make him know you will not condon it. You just have to be creative as a means to convince him that you are not gonna tolerate it anymore.
2006-11-21 08:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say he might be a control freak, but now I'm thinking he might have a problem with his temper. I strongly recommend the two of you sit down and have a talk about this.
2006-11-21 08:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 2 1/2 you should know better
2006-11-21 08:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by All_real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋