My family accepts it but persons in my neighbourhood do'nt.Should i be concerned what thet think?
2006-11-21 08:16:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Technically, you are an adult & your folks are okay with it. So why do you care what your neighbors think?
Have they known this guy longer than you or your family...is there something about him or his behavior that they see as a fault?
My only question for you to ask yourself IS...Is he able to have a relationship with someone his own age? If he treats you right and fair...then it is probably no big deal that the two of you are together.
Keep your eyes wide open and never let him step into the "father" role!!!!
Good Luck to you and your boyfriend!!!
2006-11-21 08:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part of me that is all for being your own person and doing what you feel is right, says "screw everyone else".
The part of me that lived by that philosophy and has won some and lost some, says "be smart about your choices, regret can hurt for a long time."
As much as I never used to believe that a bit of difference in age could bother me in a relationship, I now know differently. My bf is only 2 years younger but just having to go through him still being in school after I'm done, well, it's made me think a little harder. Focus on your feelings but don't forget that you will grow at a different pace than your man. Be prepared for the differences, like if he wants to have children and you are not ready, or he's done with his party days but you still want to stay out until 3am, or if he treats you a little bit like a child because of the difference in your life experience. Don't worry about other people if they are derisive. If they truely care and have Positive advice, then you can choose to hear them out. Be smart about love. Good luck.
2006-11-21 08:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Iristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The neighborhood shouldn't "look down" on you for anything. The man is 35 years of age and at that age, he should know better to date someone at such a young age. I can tell you now that he is not a very responsible individual. It is our responsibility as an adult to explain to a 19 year old female (nearly double your age) that it would be inappropriate to consider a serious relationship. At 19, we think that the feelings we have is the "real" thing. The thing that real men know about each other is this simple fact. It is guys like him that are unable to be in a stable relationship with a person near his age. So he turns toward impressing younger girls with the job he has, money he makes or the car he drives. That crap doesn't work on older women. As an older man, it is relatively easy to persuade a younger girl that you actually care about them. I suspect he has told his friends about you as if he won a trophy. So, I hope you have hooks in your back to hang you on the wall. Because he sure hooked you line and sinker. As far as your family is concerned, I don't know any stable mother and father who would condone this years-apart relationship.
2006-11-21 08:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Your P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. He's way too old for you in today's society. Unless he's filthy rich and you get a glamorous lifestyle, then you need to find someone who has more compatibility with you. If you are just using him for recreation purposes, then have your fun and get it over with. Don't try to stick it out with him. He's got problems that a 19 y-o can't comprehend yet. I have never seen a 45 year old woman happily married to a 60-something year old man. Go show this reply to your mom if you dare. Good luck.
2006-11-21 08:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in this situation once. i had the time of my life , and i really loved him. It is a bit of a cliché , but love has no age. You are entitled to love and be with whomever you want , and if the 2 of you don´t have a problem with it , and are happy together, then that´s enough of a reason to say .... the hell with what others think ! Respect your feelings and look for your own happiness , you can´t please everyone .
2006-11-21 08:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is how you and your man feel about each other, so don't give a hoot about what anyone else might think. As i see it, it really is none of there business to begin with.
2006-11-21 08:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pffff...NO.
If you're happy, if he is happy and if you make eachother happy, whats the problem??
I'm 21 and with a 32 year old man. been together almost a year.
words of wisdom: SCREW WHAT EVERYONE ELSE THINKS!
2006-11-21 08:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by . . * h o n e y * . . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love the person why worry about other people's thoughts. Just remember it's your life not theirs.
2006-11-21 08:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by luvnsk8erboys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be concerned with what others think of your relationship, especially nosey neighbors. If you are happy, that's all that matters.
2006-11-21 08:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they think you are grown and they do not take care of you so let them think what they want to think. People are going to have something to say about you always, dont worry about that.
2006-11-21 08:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋