a month ago, I feel something weird about my father. And Few days ago, I found out My father is cheating on my mother. That's not all. He cheating on with other guys!!. Oh my, What should I do? I'm afraid he feels bad If i'm tell him...and I'm so sorry to my mother...
2006-11-21 08:15:48 · 20 answers · asked by esprit967 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm okay with he is gay. I'm just worried If I tell him he feels terrible. I think He hide it because he don't want a come out. And I'm afraid my mother because she loved him so much.
2006-11-21 08:37:57 · update #1
I cannot say I understand your situation personally. I will say this I am sure your awear parents are people they make mistakes, all we can do is what we've always done and love them. Your situation is tough, but it can be easier on you and your family if you take time to think. I'm sure you love your dad and vice versa, his actions are difficult to handle on evey level. I am sure he feels bad, about not being honest, with himself and putting you and your mother in this position. It is ok for you to feel angry, I would in your shoes. If your mom does not know it's not your job to tell her. Understanding I am sure you want to but your father has created this and he has to own it. I would give him an ultamatum he tells her or you will, then follow through if he doesnt. Either way for health sake she needs to be told even if she is devistated. Then you have to back off let them have their time to deal with it. Defending your mothers honor is comendable but not wise, she will have alot to deal with support her, hold her hand hug her let her cry, yell scream throw things if she needs to. The relationship you have with your dad will be strained to say the least, you need to work through your own emotins before you can try to understand what happned. He is a big boy he's made is bed now he is responsible for making things right. Don't feel obligated to get in the middle, there is little you can do to fix the problem. There is never any excuse that can validate infidelity and homosexual infidelity comes with even more trauma. Take it one day at a time. Time will heal all wounds if that is what you truly want.
Good Luck!
2006-11-21 08:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by queenkeva_05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, love him like you have always loved your father. Him being gay has nothing to do with you. Him being gay has nothing to do with who he is.
Be happy that your father discovered his true self. I only feel bad for your mother because she was cheated on. Support them both through this difficult time. Do nice things for them both, but DON'T treat your Dad any different. It is hard because he cheated on your Mom, but it is a hard time for all and harboring resentment will only cause lifelong negative effects.
2006-11-21 08:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to seperate the 2 probs-your dad cheating;and your dad being gay.deal with the cheating seperately.as far as the gay thing: reverse the rolls and tell me that if you were the one who went to your dad to tell him you were gay-what would you want him to tell you?the word unconditional has a meaning.dont hate on him cause he's gay but at the same time it is perfectly fine to be mad at him for cheating on your mom.obviously there must be some problems between your mom and dad that you werent even aware of. i think its something that all 3 of you are going to need to sit down and talk about-----good luck
2006-11-21 08:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your father's privacy, unless his behavior is having a negative impact on your own life. He's the adult and has to live with the choices he make. It's not your fault whether your father is gay or straight--and you have no power to change things. Speak to your father about the matter; otherwise, focus on the things that are your responsibility. good luck
2006-11-21 08:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean what do you do? Talk to your father, might help if you finished school first, as your english could use some polish.
Being gay isn't a problem, not talking to your mother is, but it isn't your place, talk to your father, and tell him your concerns.
2006-11-21 08:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"addicted on your father, and how your father took care of you." Yup: it is summer season and the kiddies are out of school and on the laptop. i assume it by no skill has got here approximately to you that even nevertheless 2 men ought to be gay, they won't elect to have intercourse with one yet another fantastically in the event that they're heavily appropriate.
2016-10-22 12:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by briscoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him i am really confused right now. i love you and mom but i am very hurt by your actions. if you are gay you should have told mom and divorced her before you tried this lifestyle. i am very disappointed in you right now. i love you no matter what your sexual preference you will always be my dad but i have a hard time understanding you cheating on mom. what he did was wrong. he could or may have brought home hiv or aids to your mother. she should have a physical.
2006-11-21 08:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to your mother, but tell your father you know.
2006-11-21 08:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Gi Gi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with your dad being gay, but he is wrong to cheat on your mom - you should confront him about that.
2006-11-21 08:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mother and love your father for who he really is
2006-11-21 08:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋