i havent been invited to this girls party in my sixthform year, my friends hav and feel a bit left out. i stupidly asked the girl if i could come cause im not used to this party experience thing and said sorry afterwards cause i thought it was a bit off for me to do that but also feel like shes tellin every that i asked her, i've jus started this school and feel like everythings a mess already. i feel like girls get intimidated to talk to me cause im asian and brown and thats why i dont get invited. i need advise on how to handle this and feel so stupid for askin he in the first place. help please!!
2006-11-21 08:12:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she had wanted you there she would have asked you but don't worry about it too much. You are the new kid on the block it seems and it will take time to make true friends but it will happen so cheer up and enjoy life. You are only young once.
2006-11-21 08:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm sure that there are a bunch other other kids that haven't been invited. personally if she didn't ask you why did you think that by going up to her you'd get an invite.
If I were you'd I'd try and forgot all about it, so you didn't get invited to the party, don't worry about it, just be yourself and maybe the next time someone is having a party you will be invited. Going to parties isn't the be all and end all, and just because you are Asian what does that have to do with anything. If the girls don't like you because you are Asian are these the sorts of people you want to hang around with?
2006-11-21 09:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is that you shouldn't worry about what other people say and that when asking a girl something you never ask when her friends r around! Plus when you r done talking to this girl u need to ask her if she can keep it a secret! For u not getting invited to other peoples parties you should try to meet other friends and then they will have a party with you included in it! Make sure u keep your old friends too! If all fails then you can throw yoourself a party with friends and just don't have that one girl come because I know she'll want to come! By the way sense you say your good looking then you will have no problem finding friends at the new school! Don't worry u have a lot of time!!!!!!!!
Cya, A.J.
2006-11-21 08:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by A.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...stop beating yourself up for something you can't change. So you asked if you could go...perhaps not great manners...but not a horrifying offense. And if you are new at the school..maybe that is why you weren't invited..not because you are in danger of becoming some social pariah. If she said ok..then I would go...it is a great chance to get to know your new classmates. You need to be secure in who you are...and not worry so much about what people think about you. Being confident attracts people far more than one who seems to need constant reassurance. And remember,popularity means nothing...a popular person at one school is nobody at another. One good friend is better than 20 shallow ones. Sorry...now I sound like a bad philosopher.
2006-11-21 08:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo im a british asian and i think ur trying TOO hard to fit in cos your new to 6th form and stuff. Just be urself, if she didint invite u then she didnt invite u big deal ull be invited to other partys later on. if some1 asks u y u wernt invited u should say " i dunno man maybe its cos she doesnt know me maybe she doesnt like me maybe shes racist i dont give a shi* i got my own partys to worry about". Girls can be intimidating sometimes but you solve that when u confront them. You get what im sayin?
u can do it man, do it for the indians! (im guessin ur indian)
2006-11-21 08:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by jason6x6x6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats how their personalities are,then the party wont be fun. dont even care, there should be poeple who take you as you are.
believe me those kind of poeple never get successful or feel happy in life , becuase they hang around with people who only care about the outside look, and when they get older, then they be very disapointed.
2006-11-21 08:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by emely A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well get some other friends that feel ya, and TP the hell out of this snobby *****'s house some night.
2006-11-21 08:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by I_have_no_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, just go to the party and have fun, ask the girl to stop byatching about you and hopefully youll have more fun..being new is always hard and dont think its just the colour of your skin, theyre usually jelous deep down
2006-11-21 08:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a b****- Dont worry bout asking her - just say you wanted to know where u stood- They will only act like silly G+Bs sneaking alcohol in and making plonkers of themselves!! Forget her who needs enemies if u have a friend like that!!
2006-11-21 09:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound worth the bother. Forget about it and stick with your real friends. Best of luck
xx
2006-11-21 08:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by ~Grace~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, it's probably gonna be crap and full of vacuous idiots anyway. I know you feel left out but f*ck 'em. Go and make your own fun :-)
2006-11-21 08:15:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋