I have one friend in the world. I met him online. He tells me he loves me. But he has a wife he hasn't divorced, and an ex gf whom he keeps giving money to on his credit card.
He's telling me the only way we can rid her of our lives is to take on the responsibility of paying off her debt.
I will be in school tell Feb. NOW If I move out to his state and we live together and we try and make a life together, and IF I'm helping pay off of his ex's debt she got to have fun with of thousands, DO I or DONT I have the right to know all about it, not a story here and a story there!!!
Wouldn't you want to know the details???
2006-11-21 08:01:41 · 25 answers · asked by peggin_beast 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too much drama. Why would you even want to be involved with this?
I guess some people thrive on that...
2006-11-21 08:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by snippy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would want to know how to get a restraining order. This guy is MARRIED!! He is still involved with his ex, seeing you AND MARRIED! What a scum! Can't you do any better than him? You are a woman with a huge heart (to even be considering this), you are in your own place, have a life for yourself and probably a great girl. You need to believe that yourself. This guy is BAD NEWS! RUN RUN RUN! It will be extremely hard but look in a mirror sometime and tell yourself "I am a good person, I deserve the best". Picture yourself with a man who has no ex in the background, has no wife, who only has eyes for you. Who has been waiting for a girl like you to start a family with. One that wants to give his heart to you, not take yours. Can't you imagine a sweet kind gentle man who at the end of the day says "I love you" and means it. Who you can trust completely and imagine growing old with? Do you honestly see that with this guy? He's a user. He will suck you dry and move on to the next girl.
Keep your money, your job, your house and get rid of him. You deserve so much better!!
2006-11-21 16:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run, run. There are other people you will meet who you can love and who will love you back. If there isn't full disclosure, you have a lot to be suspicious of - don't hand over a dime. You have no business paying for someone's ex-girlfriend. I find it suspicious that he has taken on that responsibility - unless he has a part in the debt where he owes the money to her, it seems peculiar instead of valiant that he is involved in any way. Nobody has to pay money to get someone out of their life - there is moving to a new location, changing your phone number, restraining orders, etc. There are con-artists who form relationships on the internet and swindle kind souls out of lots of $$$$. Often life savings. Beware. Why does he want money from YOU? This has nothing to do with you. Please take care of yourself.
2006-11-21 16:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I’m not one to judge others but I don’t feel this is not a relationship that you need to be in. He is probable using you. You love who you love and you can’t help that, but before you make any decisions Listen To Your Heart. I honestly feel that you deserve better and I’d honestly keep to a strictly FRIENDSHIP, if anything. I really wouldn’t recommend moving with him. You have much of your life left so I wouldn’t go waste it on him, if he can support him tell him he should help support you. You NEED to go to college and everything then see if you’re together when you get out of college. If he truly loves you he’ll be there for you until YOU’RE ready to make a move. Do your really think his ex will just DISSAPER once he helps her out? Honestly, this is my opinion and you’re in tilted to your own, but in my opinion I would say she’ll probable always be around, wanting more. I’d really like to be supportive to you but I really feel something very wrong with this situation. This guy sounds like a classic "player” who’s taking advantage of you. After you pay off the debt, then he'll probable find another reason not to divorce his wife or not to get rid of his ex girlfriend. I wish you luck but I feel you’ll be used by this person. I’d dump him or risk being a victim to him! I hope I helped you and I hope I can be more of a help to you. Well good luck and remember to go with your heart!
2006-11-21 16:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by luvracin_ia2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is about to use you. Chances are, these people may not exist and he is taking the cash for himself or they do exist and HE owes them money. It sounds like he is a user and probably an abuser. Don't do it. You are worth more than that.
Never pay off anyone elses debt. I know you are lonley dear, I have been there. I spent a majority of my college career iscolated in a controlling relationship. It took me being alone compleatly after the relationship ended to force myself to do something. I started just talking to people and now I have a few friends. I became the biggest self promotor ever.
There are lonley bits in life, but don't be with someone like him because you are lonley. He sounds like a trashy man who is feeding off of your nievity and insecurities to benifit his own debts nad bank account. He likes you insecure and under his thumb. Typically guys like that only end up in domestic violence situations and at the very least end up taking your money and running...and this is from an experience a family member of mine had.
But, if you must, ask for his social security number, his full name, and his date of birth and run a background check on him. Run a credit report. You can do this via online or through the police department. If he comes up clean, well it is up to you...but I doubt he will...call it experience.
2006-11-21 16:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting suckered and bamboozled! You have no obligation to pay anything of this creeps supposed debts to a girlfriend, wife or any X of the above. He is not your friend. He is your leach. Cut him off while you still have a chance.
Go meet his wife and tell her you plan to take her hubby. And go meet the girlfriend and do the same. You'll soon se how much he loves you. You're just being used my dear. Go find a real friend.
2006-11-21 16:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing the details doesn't change the situation. You are clearly being used as a tool for repaying his debts and for sex and for what not. Don't even converse with this person. he seems to be the kind of person who uses others. Maybe it went wrong with his girlfriend and so he has to buy her silence by giving her money. A very dangerous scenario. Cut off from him. Don;t offer any more information about you. This person is almost one step short of a predator.
2006-11-21 16:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by l_kur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave this phony ALONE. Meet someone in person and who is single and without a girlfriend. If he's giving her money - believe me - she's more than his "ex-girlfriend" and he's getting some goodies from her. Now, if you do move to his state and help him pay-off girlfriends debts - he will have played you real good!
2006-11-21 16:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a classic "flim flam" man who is taking advantage of you. After you pay off the debt, then he'll find another reason not to divorce his wife or get rid of his ex girlfriend. He'll drain you dry if you are not careful. He sounds like a sociopath.
2006-11-21 16:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, I think you should get this loser out of your life. He's using you!!! He wants YOU to pay for HIS ex-gf? Are you nuts?!?!?!
If you're really intersted in doing this, then I have some great swampland I'd like to sell you in Florida. The market is really starting to boom and I'll cut you a good deal before it happens. I'm only willing to do it because I have a boatload of land and you seem like a really nice girl that could really benefit from such an opportunity.
2006-11-21 16:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes but you are stupid if you continue to talk to this guy. just cut off the communication with him and do yourself the biggest favor of your entire life. If not you are going to be miserable, but I'm not your daddy so be a big girl and find out the hard way. Hope you don't screw up your life. As a homeless person, my advice is "don't give anyone the power of messing up your life that your a capable of messing up yourself. Later....L.G.
2006-11-21 17:20:42 · answer #11 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋