Again 4 sexual partners.?

Question

I think that I ahve developed a problem. I think I lost who I was a while back, and I turned to sex to try to figure out what i want. Now I look at myself in the mirror every morning, and I hate the person that I see. The last time I had sex there was mirror. I saw myself, my legs were wrapped around him, and I mouthed the word slut to myself over and over again. I've said it enough times to convince myself that that is what I really am. Though then a new guy comes along, and then we have sex. Then the whole process starts over again. I ask myself why I give myself up so easily. There has been 4 sexual partners in 2 months. Then when I get close to getting into a relationship, I end up running. I'm not into casual sex. I do not approve of it, though that is hypocritical to say. Because it seems that every friday I seem to go out, and have sex with another guy. What is wrong with me?

Answer 1

if you weren't so young we could make it five honey

Answer 2

Sex shouldn't make you feel loved, unless you LOVE the person you're having it with. You're slowly degrading yourself in the mirror. If you're not happy with what you see, then change. Take a step up and say NO. It's easier than you think, I promise. Don't give in to the moment. Find someone you like, date him for awhile and then examine your feelings. If he doesn't "float your boat" in every possible way, then move on. The point is, you'll find someone that you can't live without one day and when you do you'll wish you could give him everything....then you'll know when it's right and you'll feel a whole lot better about your decisions. You're beautiful no matter what so don't waste you're time with men that don't only see you as a piece.

Answer 3

I'd guess that you probably have a low self esteem issue at the moment. Maybe you're upset / angry at yourself for something that you did in the past and this is a way to release your frustration. Instead of hitting the club/bars on Friday night, why not get together with some of your friends and hang out at home.

Is there a certain friend or family member that you can talk to and open up to about things going on in your life. You need to realize that you deserve more than what you have at the moment and you need to break this cycle. Try talking to someone that you trust and see if they can help guide you out of this funk.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have questions about yourself you think only sex will answer. This is not the case. First don't hate yourself we all do things we regret, it happened you didn't like forgive yourself and move on. You and only you can be accountable for your choices. Second you should try to find someone who you can talk to and confide in, someone who will not judge you by your actions but take into account your feelings. This does not have to be a professional unless you feel it is out of control. You need to look into yourself ask yourself three key questions. Who am I? What do I want my life to amount to? How do I make my dreams happen. Write down all your answerer's and read them to yourself , over and over if you have to. Then make a list of all the things that are good about you and you like, focus on them and build on them. The issues you have may be related to a number of issues in your life now or from your past. You must be open to examining them openly in-order to change or grow. Figure out why you say you lost yourself what was the situation? How can you learn from that? Having sex is great when you feel great about why your doing it, don't let it dictate who you are or how valuable you can be to yourself and the world. Remember judge yourself not by your actions but by your reactions.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Well, you might have been hurt in the past and you're taking it out on others....you shouldn't avoid this problem. STOP sleeping with people. Word will get around and then you'll be a S*** forever and no one will want you. Maybe you haven't found the right guy, but you need to wait and get to know someone before wrapping your legs around them.

Answer 6

HI I'M A RANDOM GUY...WANNA MEET UP=)....(not really but kinda) you should keep to your self for a wile, try online dating just to get a little self confidence back ...just try playing hard to get once in a wile. Find a guy who YOU are way out of HIS league and let him worship you for 3-5 dates or two months give him the best night of his life and move on.

Answer 7

there s nothing wrong with u

i agree with inlovenow
she hit it on the nail
u might have been hurt someway some how and u need to take a step back and get ur priority st8

take time for ur self

believe me i m in ur shoes right now and i do run away when someone catches feelings for me
it because i was hurt

Answer 8

You sound a lot like me a few years ago. The first guy I slept with, I was in LOVE with. He convinced me that he loved me, we did it, and he never spoke to me again. Used, and tossed aside like i never mattered. I was so hurt, that instead of dealing with it in a healthy matter, (ie, crying for a few and moving on) I decided to make it my mission to absolutely stomp on as many hearts as possible. I would go out, see a hot guy, sleep with him, exchange numbers and then ignore his calls. If they developed feelings for me, I went and slept with somebody else. I know most people look at it as they were using me, but actually, I was using them as a conquest, to do to them (in my mind) what had been done to me, use them. I did this for years, until I got knocked up by my boyfriends best buddy. He was the first guy to like me for who i was, and it scared me so bad, i commited the ulitmate sin, and slept with his closest buddies. Premeditated cheating. Horrible. I had a miscarriage, thank god, and it kinda scared me into slowign down for a bit. But eventually the fear wore off, i got on the pill, used condoms everytime, and continued with my conquest. I hated myself. Id get caught up in the moment, and do it. Finally, I met my current boyfriend, who no matter what i did, would NOT sleep with me for the longest time. I mean months. So I got to know him well before we did it, and that was the most respected Ive ever felt in my life. Hes the last person I was with, 4 years ago. I dont know if this story will help you look into your past and try to find some kind of explanation for your behavior. One day youll get it, and youll change. Just use protection ok?

Answer 9

I"m really sorry you feel that way. I don't believe that's who anyone really is deep down inside, it's who you think you are. You don't have to have sex with anyone. it's not who you are, you just need to feel secure and comforted and things like that, but hon, sex with many different men will not solve anything, it will cause more problems, can i suggest a religious point? It's totally your decision. but who you really need is God. write me if you want to and i'll explain things a little more, if you want. i'll try to help you out in making right decisions ( [e-mail]...write me!

Answer 10

dont beat yourself up. We need more women like you out there. You're only a whooorre once you've seen 100 feet of C*ckk