well, we have been together for like nealy 3 years and i have a theory that 5 years is long enough to be in a relationship to get to know someone and by then you should be able to take the next step (of cause this depends on how old you are) any way, he said that there was no need to worry because he would have already done it by then. Now for chrissie he is buying me a 2 ring set but i only get one and he said that he would hold onto the other until he is ready, like if he spontainiously does it out of no where, he has a ring to do it with, now thats not a worry, cos at least he is thinking ahead...
but the thing is he has already done it twice before and taken it back, now don't get me wrong i love this guy to death and i would follow him off the face of the earth, i want to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him... but im afraid that he might take this one back just like the others, but he says when i do it next time i will mean it... NEED ADVICE HELP. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-11-21 07:46:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds very unstable and definitely not marriage material. If he takes the ring back again, tell him he can keep it for good. He sounds like he's trying to control you and the ring is his power. You deserve better girl, don't let him pull your puppet strings like that.
2006-11-21 07:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just left my boyfriend of 3 years because of the exact same issue. He and I talked about marriage all the time, and he told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I thought I wanted to be with him forever, too. He told me he was having a ring custom made for me, and he would make small payments on it and give it to me when he paid it off. But he never actually said that we would be engaged.
Make sure that there arent other things he does that show disrespect toward you. Does he ask you to pay for things a lot? Mine did...he did it subtly, asking for inexpensive items at first, and then asking me to carry him through his job by paying for his Hotel rooms. (He traveled with a sales company).
He's playing a game, by giving you a ring, then taking it back...if he seriously wanted to marry you, he would have by now. Everyone deserves a second chance, but he's on his third try!
And, will it really be a surprise for you if you know he has a ring that he's waiting to give you?
2006-11-21 16:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by asalieus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
COUNSELING FOR THE BOTH OF YOU!!!!
2006-11-21 16:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋