Lost love needing guidance?

Question

What do i do me and my girl broke up last friday and since then we still talk every day and we kiss and tell each other that we love the other thing is she doesnt want to see me and she still reminds me that where not together and that she not mine what do i do ? See she broke up with me because i accused her of cheating on me with her ex boyfriend who still hangs around hes at her house to bay his cell phone bill thats in her name and he will sit out in front of her house untill she comes out he calls her all the time and he called me and told me that they where still together and tha i need to stop messing with his girl....This girl means every thing to me i lover her more than any other girl ive ever been with i thought that she was the one what do i do

Answer 1

Tell her how you feel and try to move on. If she really wanted to be with you don't you think that she would tell you??

Answer 2

Stop seeing her. Stop talking to her, certainly stop kissing her. She is playaing a game (both ends towards the middle).
I know how much it hurts. I have been in the predicament before as well.
I know you still love her. When she reminds you that "she's not yours' anymore" it is a way of her rubbing it in your face. She's hurting you.
It sounds like she and this guy are together. Its unacceptable for her to be responsible for his cell phone bill. She should have canceled the contract when they split up.
LOving someone makes you vulnerable. Dont let her play you like this.
Just stop calling her. Stop seeing her. I know its the hardest thing to do, but eventually you will heal and it wont hurt you so much.
I'm very sorry that you're hurting so much.

Answer 3

It sounds as if you have a jealousy problem and she probably got sick of you second guessing her. She also has some boundary issues by allowing her ex to hang around her house and still be included on her cell phone. However, you can't change her behavior. You can only change yours. Why not talk to a counselor about your feelings and find out ways to feel more secure in your own skin...and less jealous. Maybe then, you can repair this relationship.

Answer 4

Well, if your husband is abusive, both physically and emotionally, and has gotten arrested for DV, it is not safe nor healthy for you to put yourself or your child in that situation again. I'm sorry to say that he is not the route you want to take, despite the fact you have been a family before. I know it's hard to let go, but just know that in the end you and your child will be happier and safer without him. This other guy you are seeing, seems to be a better choice, though he is clingy. If you choose him, let him know he has to relax a little, and understand that you love him, but you need a little bit of space. There is another option: choosing neither one of them. But it sounds like you want one or the other. Your safest and smartest choice would be to choose the new man. As far as letting go, write down all the bad things about whichever man you let go of (I hope it's your husband). Understand that what you did was not only good for you, but good for your child. If you need any more adivce, feel free to e-mail me! Good luck!

Answer 5

I am so sorry. that really sucks. the same thing happened to me about 3 hours ago as well. my ex and i broke up and **** did i love him! i know this sounds really harsh.but maybe you need to let her go? if she doesnt care for you and doesnt really wanna talk to you than i would say, just let her go. it may take you a few months, and in some cases years to get over her, but look, i am sure you can do better than that. you dont need that kinda **** in your life. a good way to meet people is on yahoo personals. i never cared for online dating, but one time i did, and i meet my now husband, and we actually just met each other a year ago and just got married this month. he is way better than my ex.we are both very much in love. but anyhow. as hard as it is, i think sooner or later you will find the right one. i think everyone goes through that. again i am sorry, and i hope this helped you a lil bit?

Answer 6

I hate to say it but you need to move on. She is not right for you. She is playing games. The same things she is doing to you and saying that you two are not together is the same things she was doing to him. She still cares for him, because if not she would have been took his phone out her name. He has no business calling her or you for that matter. You have to learn to love and let love you. There is someone out there that will appreciate you and you will do the same for them. Sometimes somethings that seem meant are just not meant to be........

Your heart will soon heal and you will have gone on with your life and realize that she wasnt the one for you. You will find true love.

Answer 7

cut you loss dude...you may have jump to conclusions but who wouldnt with those circumstances... and you deserve a relationship that the girl is devoted to you a bit more than running around with the ex on a regular basis and tolerating him telling you things like that.. you can do better and the pain will pass you control your happiness..not her so look at it as a lesson learned ok? you'll be fine

Answer 8

hmm...

welp.. i say
sit her down and tell her how you feel.. MAKE SURE THAT HER EX IS NOT ROUND OK!
tell her you still do really love her and that your sorry for accusin her about cheatin and stuffz.. it was just that her ex said that and he is always round her and that kinda stuff.
you just got a lil freaked out and went to the first conclusion
tell her your really sorry and would do anything for a second chance
give her a red rose too
that always draws my attention!


lol

good luck!

Answer 9

YOu need to talk to the guy and tell him he needs to stop his **** the you need to talk to your girl and tell her that you don't believe that she was cheating cuz i just sounds like the other guy wants her and will do anything to get her and by breaking up he might have succeeded. good luck

Answer 10

Nop