me and my ex bf broke up for good welp i really love him but he doesnt knoe if he loves me back but we been together for 2 years and i gave him everything i thot i could make him happy but i dont knoe i thot he was the one for me because he was my first of everything he was my first true love and i jus seem that i cant letr him go i tell myself that im over him but i dont knoe we argue even tho were not together no more why is it so hard to let go?
2006-11-21 07:27:10 · 11 answers · asked by vLiiCiiOuS&YoUnG oRiiGiiNaL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard for you to let go because you still love him. Give it time, you will get over it eventually.
I just told someone else this... You can't Make anyone love you or MAKE anyone love you more.
Good luck.
2006-11-21 07:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people post this same question and yours is no different accept that it is you that is feeling this way. You are just as important as all the others and you are hurting just as much so I will tell you what is told to all the others who are feeling the same way as you. Grieve for a while and then as time goes by you will feel a lot better but it will take time. Start to do things for yourself and appreciate who you are and what you have to offer the next love in your life. It's not the end of the world, although when you feel the way you do you think it is, life goes on and so must you.
2006-11-21 15:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt know if he loves you after 2 years - he doesnt.
He may be the first of everything else, but the first certainly doesnt make him the last.
I know it sucks and hurts, but really REALLY, it will take time to heal and you will. The best thing to do (and it's the hardest thing to do) is to cut yourself off from him. He's giving you false hopes (whether you want to admit it or not) and that's causing you more pain.
cut loose. let him go. find new things to do, dont go to places that you know he frequents.
there will be others. it may not be the same, but it will not be any less.
think of it this way - there is someone who will know WITHOUT A DOUBT, that he loves you. And he will strive to make YOU happy as well.
Dont sell yourself short on this guy. Lose him.
2006-11-21 15:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard because you put so much love into him and the relationship for so long. He sounds like your first love. 1st love is hard to let go of. Just remember all the good times and say " It was better to of loved then not to of loved at all". Look at this as a life lesson on love and making right choices. We learn to grow from these experience so that we can find exactly what we need and are looking for. You will find love once again. Time will ease the pain.
2006-11-21 15:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear daughter,
I could say, that....you wrote his name in the sky, but the wind blew it away.
You wrote his name in the sand, but the waves washed it away.
You wrote your name in my heart, and forever it will stay.
Means, the first love and the first touch will never left on your mind and heart.
You must believe in HIM, you can say impossible but God says; "All things are possible" (Luke 18:27)
Do you feel that you are far away from God? Have you ever pray to ask HIM for everything you wanna ask HIM.
To be closer with HIM, and once a time ask your ex bf to go whispering and pray together to the church.
2006-11-21 15:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Martin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im kinda going through the samething. First you need to cut off ALL communication with him! Communicating with him will just make it harder. Just try and think about how he's a jerk because youve done everything you could to try and make it work. Itll take time and belive me i know its easier said than done. Im not even over my breakup yet but im hopeing with each day itll get easier. Good luck
2006-11-21 15:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dammit, I was in the same situation. We broke up but we sure fought as if we were a married couple. It's hard to let go because you're still talking to him and you still very much love him. As long as you're keeping him in your life and you still have those feelings for him, you're always going to expect something more. And as long as he doesn't know what he wants, you're not going to see those expectations being met and it's going to keep hurting you. Trust me, let him go. It'll hurt but it'll hurt more if you keep holding on.
2006-11-21 15:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it hard to love? Since, he was your first bf, it would be really hard to let go. Over time the virus of love would be conquered.
2006-11-21 15:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by saintbeng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probally still hoping that things will work out. They won't because men are pigs and pigs are supposed to be gutted and eaten. Screw him!! Better yet screw one of his best friends and get on with it because there is way better out there don't lower your standards for trash
2006-11-21 15:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Bizzare J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is like a virus it takes a while to get over and get back to normal.
2006-11-21 15:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by maria92588 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋