Do you think that two people of different Religions will get along in a relationship?

Question

I am Cherokee and I embrace my Cherokee culture, my boyfriend is a christian born and raised. We are both understanding yet stubborn about our ways. His religion claims he must change my religion in order for him to be doing 'gods' work. And, I think it is cruel to judge who is right or wrong!

Answer 1

I'm an atheist and my girlfriend is Muslim. We get along fine. Of course, we don't feel it is our duty to change the religion of the other person. Control freaks don't make good boyfriends (or girlfriends). In your case, it sounds like your religion might be a problem. You'll have to get your boyfriend to accept that you won't change your beliefs. That has to be fine with him or lose him.

Answer 2

I think that there are reasons why Christianity says you should convert to be with a Christian. But I do not think it is for the reasons most Christians understand it to be.

If one or both people in a relationship are spiritual or serious about their religious beliefs, and you both have different beliefs then you will eventually clash.

The reason, I believe, it says the you should convert is to stop controversy and fights between you two. It is hard to make a relationship work when the people involved have very different beliefs.

This doesnt mean one religion is right and one is wrong, it just means it is very hard to have a relationship with people of other beliefs because if you two are serious about those beliefs you will end up clashing.

Answer 3

I am a Druid and had a girlfriend a few years ago who was exactly the same as your boyfriend. I loved her like nothing else, and would have given her the world if should wanted it. I respected her religion and allowed her to do as she wished with it. But she wasn't going to be happy with our relationship unless she was able to convert me into Christianity. I'm very happy and content with being what I am, so I saw no reason to change. Unfortunately we broke up since she wasn't able to get me to convert.

But despite that. I believe if two people are open minded and are able to respect and honor each other's beliefs in a way that both in the relationship are able to practice their faith without interference or disrespect from their partner, that yes, two people from different religions can get along just fine in a relationship. It's all about being accepting and being open-minded towards each other and their faith.

And I agree, it is wrong and cruel to try and judge someone as being right or wrong based upon their beliefs. Unfortunately there are many out there like that. They feel it is their mission to convert everyone they come across, even if it means forcing them to change religions. My girlfriend used to use threats of seperating from me to try and get me to convert, well... she left me, and I'm still a Druid.

Answer 4

That depends entirely on the two people in the relationship.

You two would need to sit down together and have a very thorough discussion of what religion means to you and what you expect from the other regarding religion. If you can't come to a compromise and understanding, then it won't work.

Answer 5

I'm Roman Catholic and my husband is Presbyterian. We've been together for 7 years and have been married for 1 1/2 years. We are also having a baby in January. We go to both churches and our son will be raised in both religions.

We have a great relationship, even though we have different religious backgrounds. You can make it work if you really love each other.

Answer 6

I think it depends on the religion. I don't evny you. Is he trying to change you, or is that just what he's saying about Christianity? Because if he's trying to change you and can't respect your beautiful culture (Native American belief systems are wonderful), I can't see this working out for you.

Personally, I'm a Wiccan dating a former Catholic, and he really doesn't care what I believe. He likes picking on me about going to h3ll and casting love spells on him, but it just makes me laugh because he's not at all serious. I think if the two of you can live and let live you'll be fine. Otherwise...

Good luck, and blessed be.
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Answer 7

They say that opposites attract, and complementarity is good, but we have to understand its limits.

It is good if the couple is opposite in strengths and weaknesses, because the strength of one can compensate for the weakness of the other.


But it is important that they be *philosophically* compatible - that their outlook on the purpose of life and the nature of existence be the same.

If it is not, there can be big conflicts as to how to raise and educate children, and on what activities are meaningful and important in the marriage.

So people of different religions marrying is not a good idea.





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Answer 8

There are lots of examples of interfaith couples that make their marriages work, but it's nearly impossible to do so unless both acknowledge the other's right to be who he or she is. Without that mutual respect, it would be very difficult to make a relationship work. You have a right to be who you are and pursue happiness in your own way. If he cannot respect that, then his selfishness probably will sour the whole relationship.

Answer 9

To answer the question, it depends on the importance each places on their religion.

In your situation both of you entered the relationship knowing the other's religious preference, therefore, each need to respect it as a part of the other's make up.

Answer 10

If he has already asked you to try his religion then you can assume it will only get worse from here. I assume he has since you state "His religion claims he must change my religion in order for him to be doing 'gods' work."

If he hasn't tried yet then maybe there is hope.