I love my mom and my dad but i feel scared sometimes. My friends say they think i am physically, verbally, sexually, and emotionally abused. They say i show signs of abuse which i agree with. I wouldn't call it abuse, but here's what they do:
My mother sometimes will hits me, slaps me, pushes me, kicks me, throw things at me, and pull my hair. My father sometimes hits me, pushes me, beats me, pulls my hair, and throws things at me. My father touches me, watches me undress, and has JOKED about sex with me. My mother ignores me, doesn't EVER comfort me with hugs, NEVER tells me she loves me (in fact she tells me she hates me), she yells at me, she threatens me AND my friends. She has even got me suspended from school purposely. She compares me to my sister, she tells me i'm a mistake, and blames me for EVERYTHING.
Friends say i am moody. I admit to being depressed, having bipolar disorder, and insomnia. i have thought about trying drugs. I have almost started sex.
Child Abuse?
2006-11-21 07:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 14, and last time i told my friends, my mother found out and lashed out at me. And i am starting to want to call 911 but my sister loves my mom very much and i care about my sister and don't want to hurt her.
She is 12.
2006-11-21 07:27:48 · update #1
i'd hit back but my sister hates seeing my mother in pain. my mother also recently broke her back, so i don't want to hurt her.
2006-11-21 07:35:06 · update #2
also, as much as i love my sister, she hates me. My mother has manipulated her so she thinks i am an insane maniac.
2006-11-21 09:04:19 · update #3
YES IT IS ABUSE.....On several levels.....Physical, emotional and sexual.....
I am sorry about your situation.....I work as a volunteer for CASA, court appointed child advocates....We work with the court and Judges, to decide what is best for abused and neglected children and where to place them......All I can tell you, is most states have a 1-800# to call and report to CPS (child protective services) abuse.....You can call and they will send out a social worker and interview your family and determine if in fact there is abuse.....Just tell the CPS agent everything you have endured and the abuse.....If your life is in immediate danger, they will remove you immediately and place you in either foster care or with a trusted relative.....Just one thing, what CPS looks for is physical abuse and look for physical marks on your body and will look at the home in general to determine neglect.......Verbal and emotional abuse are very hard to prove.....So, if you don't get removed immediately, it may be because it is more difficult to prove this type of abuse.....If there are any witnesses, to the abuse, that would help too.....If they do remove you, keep in mind, foster care only provides for you physical needs, they are not going to necessarily be supportive.....Hope this helps and please tell someone and call CPS yourself.... Once you are removed, you will get the much needed help you deserve, like counseling, medication for your depression and things will start to look for you.....
2006-11-21 08:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If this is all true, then yes it is abuse and you need to call 911, talk to your school counselor, a neighbor, someone! Do you honestly think that if they do this to you, they aren't doing this to your sister? The situation needs to end now. Don't stop to think about it, do it now! Especially if your father is talking about or even joking about having sex with you! That is nothing to joke about.
Your mother knows she is in the wrong in doing these things to you, but you have to break the cycle of abuse and it starts with you doing it now. Take control.
Do you take meds for your Bi-polar disorder? If so, continue taking them. Don't start doing drugs, or having sex. Neither of those is going to change anything and can make any situation worse then it is.
Seek help ASAP!
2006-11-21 07:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by onetreasuredpet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, most people who are abused dont write about it on yahoo. So if this is a real situation and not something you and your friends think is funny. Then you are obviously old enough to know that its not normal for your dad and mom to treat you that way, if they have done it to you for years you may feel its normal in your household but know its not normal in everyones. If your friends know about this and no one has tried to help you then your hanging out with the wrong people. You can not honestly sit there and believe that there is even a question if this is child abuse. You need to seek help as soon as possible or soon your father may not just be making Jokes about having sex with you. He is a sick person and he too needs help.
2006-11-21 07:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are? Have you every tried telling someone about this to your family to get help. If not in your school talk to your nurse they should be able to tell you which department in your area can help you. Sorry, to say this but the comments that your dad makes sound like a sick person.
2006-11-21 07:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by muñeca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm YES! it dosnt matter even if ur a little sh!t, your parents should NEVER ever lay a hand on you. and ur father is a sick son of a *****!!! he needs a beat down! he watchs u undress?? and touchs you!? GET HELP! dont be afraid, you HAVE to find help, talk to a school councelor or sumone you can trust, they can get you out of there into a home that has love not abuse. i am sorry for you and i will pray for you. i hope you can jus find the strength to get help. dont result to sex or drugs, thatll jus prov ur parents right, dont let them win!
2006-11-21 07:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Momma Dukes <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! do you have any relatives you can move in with? these are all very serious things, and based on your writing skills, i think you are a little too old to be getting "beat".
Despite all this harsh treatment you seem to have your wits about you, and while the truth hurts, i think its time to admit to yourself that what is going on is not right, but its also not your fault.
Good Luck and GET OUT!
2006-11-21 07:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Laura B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try to get help from someone at school. If your parents are not already abusing your sister it will only bew a matter of time before they hurt her too. You both need to be out of there. You won't be doing either one of you any favors by keeping quiet.
2006-11-24 04:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by oilman11977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitley... you should see your counselor! TODAY... I feel bad for you... How can you put up with that you need a new surrounding. I know it may be hard and that you may be put in foster care but do it now before they seriously hurt you.
2006-11-21 07:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This, like any kind of abuse is WRONG! Get out, and get help. Good Luck.
2006-11-21 08:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should contact a trusted adult (teacher, counselor, pastor) someone you feel comfortable with and tell someone.
2006-11-21 07:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋