How do i tell her her boyfriend is cheating?

Question

I know a lady by acqaintance and i know that her boyfriend is a proffesional cheater.I really want to let her know cos she doesnt and i hate men that like.The problem is that she lives in another city and what i see him doing is where i live.I cant just call her and tell her cos that guy is also my boss.Are there any smart ways to let her find out herself without me getting involved and risking my job?please dont tell me to stay out of it its not fair and im so pissed of cos she has no idea..

Answer 1

Very proud of people like you! If i were that girl i would be so happy for someone to let me know before i ruin my life even more. there needs to be more people like you. I would for sure get the message to her asap. But do it without him knowing of course, because your going to want to keep your job. You need to make a new email address and make a new name and everything nothing that has to do with who you are. And find out her email address. Use this "fake" email to send to her letting her know what is going on, and explain how you know for sure what he is doing. Dont give out that you work with him and that hes your boss, that too much information. Just tell her what you know about him cheating. And see what she does. Thats all you really can do. Send this email at home not at work. And dont give your real name, use the one you use at for your fake email. And just use that email for typing her that message and only for her. You dont want to send anyone any emails besides her, or someone will figure out its you. After wait for a week to see if she responds to you, if not write her once again, this time just asking her if she got the email and to write back letting you know if she got it or not so you will stop writting her. After she writes you back, thats all you can do, its up to her to make her descion you did all you can do. Than just delete everything and earse that email, and never use it again.

Answer 2

I know you dispise the man for what he is doing, but its not your business to get in. I'm sure this woman has to have an idea or something that her man isnt being faithful. It's that womans intuition deal.. But, I don't think you should stress yourself over it. What happens in the dark always comes to the light and he's bound to get found out by her at some point. She may just be being naive about it, but I wouldn't say she has no idea. But if you really do want to let her know. Send an anonymous email, letter, or call and let her know.

Answer 3

I realize what you are feeling, a morale obligation to tell her her boyfriend is a louse. Yeah, trust me, I would love to know if my guy were cheating on me, but you have bigger issues here. The mere fact that the louse in question is your boss complicates things greatly.

There are many ways to let her know without letting her know without letting on who you are, a bouquet of sympathy flowers and a card would do the trick but do you really want to put yourself in the middle just in case somehow, someway the louse finds out who let the cat out the bag?

Morally, what he does is wrong and I personally would not get involved. But I am also a girl who loves to receive flowers from a "secret admirer".

Good Luck with your decision it is not an easy one...

Answer 4

Ok, when you know that she is going to be in town..order some cheap flowers and have them sent to his residence with a note attached saying...thanks for the good time...xoxoxo.

Or.... You could get some panties and throw them in the back of his car while she is in town. Or...if you live in Texas...call the TV show Cheaters. Video tape them at some bar or restaurant and then send her the tape with no return address. Better yet, set your boss up with a prostitute and hope that he gets Herpes or some other STD. That should stop him cold....and btw...film him with the prostitute....makes for a good Sunday Family viewing.

10 points please!

Answer 5

If this woman is your friend then she should appreciate your honesty, but if you don't really know her then I'd stay out of it. I was in the same situation as this woman was and if you are going to tell her, tell her now, she could start to fall for him.
As for this guy, he can't fire you for personal reasons so jsut ask for a private chat and tell him that you know this woman, if he's a nice guy he'll break it off with her so she doesn't get hurt.

Answer 6

sometimes it is better not to get involved, but i know that it sucks for a good woman to be played for a fool. not to sound childish, but the only thing i can tell you to do i make a "anonymous" call and tell her what you know. tell her that you do not want to get involved, but give her info so she can take it from there. if she chooses to ignore it, then you did what you could. if she follows up on it, you are not compromising your life, but just putting her foot in the door. dont give your identity, because you have nothing to gain from that, only something to lose.

Answer 7

I've been in this same boat before! What I did (because like you I knew it just wasn't right to keep my mouth shut!) is kind of non-chalantly pass it on to a friend of mine, who's good friends with one of her good friends~ and I let it get passed along to her that way. I avoided pointed fingers/conflict and I still got the message to her. People love to talk, heh!
Hope this helps :}

Answer 8

Do you know her email address? Maybe you can email her from a different account than the one you usually use. But be warned, unless you've got hard proof, she's probably not going to believe you. It's good of you to look out for her all the same, though.

Answer 9

-mail her pics and don't put a return address
-take pics and scan them into the computr send an anonamous
email

i would def tell her too i really hate guys like that. He gets what he deseves good luck

Answer 10

Good idea person down there *points down* yeah, thats a good idea. Or you could write her a letter, and let her know. And remind her that hes your boss, and that your risking your job for her. And that you would give her a hug if you were there. and tell her that your here for her ((If you are.))

thats just my opinion though. =D