If you get married to a guy that things you are a virgin, and after you get married, and have sex for the first time, he might find out that you are not a virgin if he does has experience... what do you think he would do? what is his reaction would be like, ? eventhough he loves you and he is in love with you....
2006-11-21 06:51:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, I'm not going to even go into asking why you weren't honest with him in the first place. . .but to your actual question, he CAN'T tell that you're not a virgin. Some girls don't bleed their first time, you know. Actually, it happens a lot. And if he loves you, it won't matter.
2006-11-21 06:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Casey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!!!!! This is just totally wrong. If you're going to marry someone you need to be upfront about your sexual history. If you love him enough to marry him then you shouldn't have a problem being honest with him. If you go through with this then you are basing your marriage on a lie. Not a very good way to start off a new life. If I were him I would get an anullment, just because you lied about something that was very important in his picking a wife.
2006-11-21 07:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lying to the one you love is never a option, and shouldnt be taken lightly, its trust that makes love strong without it theres nothing much. But also there is forgive and forget as well. The man has every right to be angry and he deserves to know why the woman lied to him and than he needs to realize if he can trust this girl again. No one should take the chance of lying, will only come back and hurt you. But people do make mistakes thats how we learn, so i think if the girl should tell the man the truth before he finds out himself, and if that is too late, than she needs to explain big time why she lied, and see if he forgives. I am sure the man will end up forgiving her, but it will take time before he trusts her again, and the girl will have to earn his trust back.
2006-11-21 06:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to let him know that you aren't because that's dishonest and it will end up hurting your relationship in the future. If he loves you, he'll accept that and I seriously doubt that the only reason he's marrying you is because you're a virgin. You already should have discussed your sexual history together, and if you didn't share yours, you aren't being true to him. Think about it.
2006-11-21 06:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were a guy, I'd be furious that the marriage is beginning on a major lie and would probably have my marriage annulled immediately. Be up front, after you two have sex for the first time, he will find out.
2006-11-21 06:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you are lying to your fiance about having sex before?
If so, STOP now, do not even bother asking such a stupid question. Don't bother marrying this person. You have no respect for him and he deserves someone far better. Give him the chance to find someone who will be sincere with him.
2006-11-21 06:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by nomming 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well going into a marriage not being honest especially about something like that is going to set ur marriage up for a disaster -try be honest
2006-11-21 06:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is based on a lie..he'll wander what else you have lied about..you should come clean b4 you walk down the aisle. Lies always come out in the end..ALWAYS!!!!!It is possible if you lied about something this big he may be upset enough to leave you. I would..thats a big lie to tell...
2006-11-21 06:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if he realizes that you've lied he'll be very upset and disappointed in you. Marriage is a big deal, and you should start it off right. Right being honest with each other.
2006-11-21 06:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋