is my dad abusive? i cant stand living here anymore!!?

Question

ok heres the story.... im 14

when i was little he would beat me with paint sticks, his his hands, and throw me by my hair, but whenever we where around people he would act like this perfect dad that evryone wanted

he stoped the physical abuse now becuase he knows if he does it i will tell evryone i can, ive been to hosptals for suicide attempts, ive been on meds ever scince i was 4 (thanks to my dad), ive been seeing therapistes ever scince i was 4, i am 14 and stil go to a pedatrist (docter for little kids) only because or incurance covers it, evryone (exept for the people my dad hasent convinced) thinks hes abusive and crazy, my parents are divorced, my stepmoms a golddigger, my mom is crazy (throws dishes for no reason crazy)

ive told just about evryone that i could evrytime the opportunaty has come up about it and how much i cant stand it, i will end up killing myself if i stay here, but my dad is all about money and he wants my checks so if i go enywhere he wont get them

he is very verbaly abusive

he says things like these god d*** kids have no f**** respect, and you need to go to a metal home, and im going to kick your a**,

my brother also trys to kill me with knifes, charis, his hands (strangeling, beating ) i have bruses, guns, ect.

ive already talked to the teacheres and social wookees, cops, therapists,

ive told the whole front office, ive told my mom, i even left for a month to my moms and he draged me out

ive even been through court and they didnt do anything

im homeschooled

you have to be 16 to be emanctipated in fl and noone in my family wants me my dad wont take me to a group home becuase it costs money, my therapists, all agreeed with me untill my dad turned around the story with manipulation.... :(

Answer 1

U need to find out what it is u can do to get out... Call the social services or even tell your teachers at school. Do whatever it is u feel u need to do to get out. Dont stay and be stressed. Good luck to u honey and god bless u

Answer 2

I understand how it is to feel helpless.

But don't give up. Be strong. Tell yourself you are strong and you can and will get through this.

I know sometimes the cops don't take it seriously. My dad has some mental problems (I mean this literally, he is on psychiatric meds and everything) and he was abusive. He hasn't been recently, just someone very stressful to live with. He would make big deals out of nothing (walking into the kitchen or something that isn't a bad thing..), hear me say things I didn't say (one day he started screaming at me and hitting me for "cursing him out".. while I hadn't said a word to him all day), etc. One day he decided I was out of control because I had supposedly called him a jerk. He called the police and told them I needed to be taken away. I've never had any psychological problems or anything like that. He told them I needed to be taken to a mental hospital (since he had, and wanted me to know what it felt like), that I called him a jerk and that is unacceptable. They took me aside to talk to me because they couldn't believe what this crazy man was saying. I told them of all the abuse.. and they told me "well, you're not 18.. we can't really do anything about it.. he's your father, he's allowed to beat you, make you cry, call you names, make you want to die, etc." The police aren't always reliable in these situations. (sorry for my long story, I tend to ramble..)

I would ask a family member for some help. Or a friend, or a friend's parent. Just stay away from him. The tape recorder is a very good idea.

Don't kill yourself, stay strong.
If you need help (someone to talk to), let me know.
I am an "activist"/helper/volunteer for the abused, but mostly adults. It's harder when you are so young. Contact abuse shelters, it's hard to help when you are so young and your father has "rights" to you. It's not fair. But he's "in charge," and you "belong" to him.

This has got to stop.
It makes me sick.

Get away from the psycho, fast.

Answer 3

What you are saying is that because you have attempted suicide that authorities will not take you seriously?

Try to put some distance from that. Don't talk about suicide and certainly don't attempt it. It screws with you credibility.

Try joining some clubs and doing volunteer work ... anything you can to spend as much time away from home as possible.

You'll be out of there in four years. Concentrate on getting good grades, work towards a scholarship.

Quite a few girls in you position turn into women who fall for guys very much like their fathers. Make a conscious effort to avoid that.

All the best

Answer 4

I usually wouldnt suggest this but if u have noo other way out n ur family wont take u..maybe u can ask a friend n stay with them. Just b careful not to let ur father kno where u are. There r several help hotlines 4 things like this. Also, u can have a mini tape recorder pinned on u or a secret video camera in ur room n the next time he attacks u turn the evidence in2 the police. There's no way they can ignore that.

Answer 5

call Department of Children and Family Services on him
you will end up going to a foster home or maybe another family member's home though. If you tell your teacher, they have a legal obligation to call services, if they don't they can get their teaching license taken away. Good luck. You should read the book "A Child Called It". Stand up to your dad and tell him you are not gonna take it anymore, but make sure there is a phone to call 911 on when he is hitting you.
Also try to tape him when he is doing these things, that way everyone has to believe you

Answer 6

I can't believe that this type of abuse is happening, and no one will help you! If this is a true story, you need to keep trying! Go to a church, go to the police-again, go to DCFS.....just go, tell anyone and everyone until you get help. What state are you in? Laws are different everywhere. Sometimes people don't think of it as child abuse unless there are marks or bruises, very sad, but true! The emotional abuse can leave much deeper scars!

Do you have any family that you trust? Any adult in your life that you know loves you and wants to protect you? Go to them! Keep talking until someone listens!! How old are your brothers? You could get them for abuse too if they are older than 18.

Answer 7

You need to go talk to DCFS Department of Child and Family Services and tell them because they know the Good Dad in front of Everyone routine they helped me call them it is important you need to get out of there if you need any help you can email me ok?

Answer 8

If you are still going to school. Tell your school counselor about what's going on. They may have a way of helping you out of the situation. You're too young to have to deal with this crap.

Answer 9

YES.have you called cops?dont hurt yourself anymore,he isn't worth it. .have you filed a complaint with police or childrens services?why arent the other adults around you standing up for you?just dont give up,life will get better.

Answer 10

You need to get out of that situation. Is there a home for run away teens you can go to?