Ok Yesterday my Bf hit me really hard but you see the thing is he does drugs(this is not an excuse toprotect him!)
So I asked this question bf if he want on drugs would he still be capable of hitting me??
He loves me and cares for me but recently hes been getting mad quickly I think its bc we havent had sex for about...2weeks Could a guy get mad for that??
Cause yesterday he was like kissing my neck and I told him to stop but he kept on resisting than I tried pushing him but he still Was kissing my neck Ithink he got mad at me for "rejecting" him But I wasnt feeling soo good yesterday and Im worse today!!He doesnt even wanna talk to me I tried talking to him but he just told me to leave him alone so Here I am soooo lost!!!! So pls help!!!!
2006-11-21 06:32:35 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you stupid? Oh no, you're desperate!! Same thing! Break up with him.
2006-11-21 06:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Luv My Corgi 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm a bit worried about your reference to a headache. Do you have high blood pressure? If you have any other symptoms of pre-eclampsia, I would go straight to the hospital and not wait until tomorrow. I know it's difficult to leave the toilet but it is likely that once you're up and moving around you'll notice it less. Please try and walk up and down stairs a few times. This got me into established labour. Have you tried having a warm bath? Although this can stop labour, it might help you to relax a bit. You must be so uncomfortable, frustrated and tired by now, it's no wonder you're feeling desperate. Try taking a couple of paracetamol or using a TENS machine to help with the aches and pains. A sweep isn't particularly pleasant experience but it might help you get things going better. Talk to your midwife tomorrow. I know this must seem interminable, but you're baby will be here soon and this whole experience will just fade into your memory. Good luck.
2016-05-22 08:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my advice....I would get rid of this man immediately! If you are worried about him getting extremely angry if you leave him (as I am sure you are), then notify the authorities. Stay with someone who can protect you until the anger wares off and he gets over you. I am sure you can guess how this relationship will turn out if you stay with him. Drugs or no drugs, you cannot be responsible for giving him attention and trying to make his day when he is an idiot. He is just using you for a good time, and then eventually, when he is tired of you, or doesn't have the in-love feeling for you, he will up and leave, and you will just feel rejected all over again. This is all my opinion, but I think it is very valid for you at this point. Get away from this pain and stress. It is a constant nag on you everyday and is bringing you down. Get away from him now. Drop him like a bad habit, before he drops you again and again.
2006-11-21 06:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Riley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you must have very low self worth. Why would you let a guy hit you. You start by saying you are not making excuses for him then you go on to make excuses for him. You have got to leave this guy. Get in a healthy relationship. You obviously don't value yourself enough to get out of an abusive relationship. I am afraid you have chosen a fate like so many other women. You think this is the best you can do and maybe he'll change if I just act right or try not to anger him or maybe you can change him with your love. Your future is pretty bleak unless you get out of this terrible, abusive, relationship. Good luck. Your life is what you make of it. Aim higher. You deserve better.
2006-11-21 06:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am sure that it is the drugs talking here. They are making him more out of control than he would usually be.. they are changing the way he acts and thinks because it is a controlling substance, it likes morphs people into what they are not. Believe me, he might feel rejected but he probably feels even worse for how he acted. He might be sober now but that doesnt mean he forgot or cant remember the things he did. He might not know it all but he knows some of it.. and I am sure that he might be mad at you for pushing him away when he thought that you probably wanted him too but for him to feel unwanted and high on drugs only means for a worse let down, instead of him just brushing it off he is going to feel 10 times worse because the drugs are making him feel that way. If he wasnt on drugs he would of been hurt at first but then he would of understood but because the drugs are talking and feeling for him he sees what you merely did out of not feeling well as an act of pushing him away because you dont want him, etc. Believe me when he comes to his senses he will understand because I am sure that is the person he is but when he is on those drugs he isnt the person you love and care about because honestly those drugs are telling him to use and use and that is not what you want. So try to get him off those drugs but if you cant then you cant allow him to do this to you. The drugs are telling him only to worry about himself and no one else and you cant let that ruin your life so the only thing you can do is step back and let him run his course and if he wises up and gets off the drugs then maybe you guys can have a relationship based on eachother and not on the drugs.
2006-11-21 06:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by sourstraws 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all it is easy for anyone to tell you to leave so I want to tell you that I know from experience that you need to leave him. I went through the same thing and stayed and it gets worse. When they have a drug problem the best love is tough love and leave him alone. And yes the witholding sex is going to piss him off. This is not healthy for you. I was 17 when I met my man and am 28 he is clean now for 9 yrs but there is a whole different abuse after they get clean and the hitting is not from the drug abuse it is in him already. Be careful and good luck
2006-11-21 06:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him NOW.
Why would you want to be with a guy who does drugs? Why would you want to be with a guy who beats you?
Lack of sex is no excuse for hitting someone. Who cares if he gets "mad" about it, he hit you - what a looser.
So you're staying with him why? B/c you have horrible self esteem and you think he's the only guy you can get or what?
Get out of the relationship now or I suppose I'll be reading about you in the obits.
One last thing: People that LOVE you won't beat on you...but I suppose your parents didn't teach you that...
2006-11-21 06:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me ask you something... you want to know the answer to your question? Here is how I always answer myself in these situations:
What would your dad tell you to do?
Seriously, that is the answer. Father's always want what's best for their daughters and I think your dad would tell you to stay away from this guy. You two are sexualy active and there is always that possibility that you may get pregnant. Do you want him as your child's father?
Regardless, while you are messing with this druggie, inconsiderate, abusive jerk, you could be missing out on the best person in the world for you. Don't waste your time on this jerk. Pick up your selfesteem and leave not looking back. He'll have some other girl by next week whom he'll be beating up on.
2006-11-21 06:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my gosh! I know it is the hardest thing you will ever do, but get out of the situation. My ex was abusive, but he drank and didn't do drugs. After I got out I went for counseling, and they told me that no matter how much he loved me, he loved drinking more. And that would hold true for your bf. He may love you to the ends of the earth, but he loves the drugs more.
If you think he can change, let him. Tell him you NEED to split with him while he gets straightened out. But you can never let yourself be put in the position of being abused. If he truly wants to, he will. If not, you are already out. Just be strong! Your life is on the line.
2006-11-21 06:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry Sweetie But no Man should ever hit a woman under no circumstances!!!!!! He is a Loser and You can do Alot Better.
The sex thing: If he really cared about you then he wouldn't try and force you or be mad that you refused. Who wants to have sex with a woman that doesn't want it or isn't excited or into it not this ol boy!
Dump this Trash!!!!
2006-11-21 06:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave now because it's only going to get worst. So you want to be with someone, that Lies, does drugs, Hits you, Forces Sex on you when you dont' want to, makes you feel bad for having feelings? Wow what a guy!!!! Why be with someone who only hurts you. He gets mad/sad so you give in and give him what he wants. Grow a backbone, gain self-confidence, and leave him. Trust me, if you are staying with him because you think you won't find someone else, TRUST ME YOU WILLLLLL!!! But you won't find that great guy while your messing with this LOSER!
2006-11-21 06:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋