i have asked a few questions and got told to choice the man i love instead of my ex because exs r exs for a reason well hes a ex cuz i was stupid and hurt him yet he wants me back and will give me and my kids what we need yet i have love for him im not in love with him and the guy i am in love with is irresponsible and cant take care of his own kids more less mine shouldnt i just go with the one who can give me and my kids what we need i know i have to do my part but today it takes two people to actually make enough money to live happy and not only does he provide that he plays with them cooks for them treats them better than their own dad so even though im not in love with him before do you think i stay with him it will come back because of the loving person he is to us
2006-11-21 06:19:25 · 4 answers · asked by mystical 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So what you are saying is that you are "settling" because that's easier than being alone. My, how flattering to the guy you are settling for...wouldn't you just love to find out your partner wasn't head over heels crazy about you, but thought "you'll do"? Doesn't that just make you all tingly and happy inside? *rolls eyes*
What you are doing is sad...sad for you (you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to meet someone who you'll be crazy about and have the stability, just because you want to be hooked up right now)...sad for him because he probably thinks you really dig him and he won't have the opportunity to meet someone who would REALLY be crazy about him, not just like him because he can offer stability.
Treat others as you would like to be treated...if you wouldn't want to be settled for...don't settle for someone else...
2006-11-21 06:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Develop independence and learn to love yourself. It's not just about you--you have chn. to think of. It seems that you feel that your only choice to to attach yourself to some guy that will provide for you financially. Women can support themselves (and their dependents), women can vote, women can own property in their own names, and someone needs to enlighten you. Figure out how to take care of yourself and stop blaming men. It's your choice! Good Luck
2006-11-21 14:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your so in love with your boyfriend then this shouldn't be a question asked. But being that your not in love. Go with what's going to make you happy.
2006-11-21 14:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by wright_shalonda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one... but you gotta do for your kids.. don't ya think... why cant you just be you and your kids and have their dad still support them... easier said then done I know....
2006-11-21 14:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋