My cousin is 2 and she bites ppl if she is really mad and if she is just mad, she will call you a meanie a**. When she bites, my aunt will smack her hand or somthing like that. but she doesnt care. wat can we do through this stage?
2006-11-21 06:17:39 · 7 answers · asked by amehlicious 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
umm, sorry not to tell, but we DO bite her back, she just goes on about her day!
2006-11-21 06:23:27 · update #1
whip her behind
2006-11-21 06:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am a mom and a daycare provider. I have dealt with biting children many times. Biting her back is not the best solution as it only reinforces to her that it is OK to bite someone when you are mad or upset. Most 2 year olds have no idea how to manage their anger in an appropriate manner and need an older person to teach them how. As her cousin, if she bites you, you can take her very firmly by the arm above her elbow, but below her shoulder. Tell her in a stern voice, "Amanda, we do NOT bite people when we are mad. It is not OK to bite. Biting HURTS me. Please use your words to tell me what is wrong." She may fight you and pull away and may even try to bite you again, but she shouldn't be able to reach your hand if you have it above the elbow and below the shoulder. Take in to consider what generally makes her mad. Do older cousins tease her? Does she do it when she doesn't get her own way? Biting is her way of dealing with frustration and the entire family needs to work with her to show her appropriate ways to deal with it. In my daycare, a child who bites gets the arm-holding lecture and then a time-out (away from the other kids and for as many minutes as they are old). I have a small "biting pillow" that I keep handy when I have a biter in my care. I tell him/her that if they need to bite, they can bite this pillow, but are never allowed to bite another child. I also keep a close eye on the children and help work out problems before they escalate to the biting stage. Try doing some fun things with your cousin, such as reading to her, playing dolls, taking a walk, playing on the swings. When she is being cooperative and nice tell her how much you like to be with her when she isn't biting. This is positive reinforcement - telling her she is good when you see her being good. Most children respond better to that then only being punished for being bad.
2006-11-21 14:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds crazy, but you could tell your aunt to bite her back the next time -- DON'T DO THIS WITHOUT YOUR AUNT'S PERMISSION! Sometimes young kids don't realize what something feels like, they don't know that they're hurting you. Have your aunt bite her softly when she bites and she should stop. If that doesn't help after a few tries, I'd spank her or put her in time out when she bites. Good luck.
2006-11-21 14:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you cant just bite her back gently, you have to bite HARD, not enough to break the skin but enough to where it hurts. My son has bit me ONCE and will never bit again because I bit him back. He cried for like 5 min and has never done it again. he is now 28 and a half months old.
2006-11-21 17:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by mommy of 3 boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your cousin that it is bad to bite ppl. just keep repeating it.
2006-11-21 14:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by winter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bite her back. Not real hard, but enought to show her it hurts. And you should do something about that potty mouth too.
2006-11-21 14:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by acullenhurley 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It should be her parents job to discipline her. They need to give her time out when she acts that way.
2006-11-21 14:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋