Me and my girlfriend have sex. Well, every time we do have sex afterwards she goes back home. "What time is it?" or "I gotta get back home it is getting late." It seems, as well, that when I go in public with her I am like a trophy with an engraved sign saying "This is what I go home to at night." I feel somewhat used too but I don't know how to go about explaining this to her. I don't want to go on assumption. We barely hang out, given she is grounded, but when we do it is always sex and always her leaving after the sex immediately.
2006-11-21 06:17:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you feel like the relationship is strictly sexual and you want more than that with your girlfriend, you need to talk to her about it. I get the impression you both are young so I recommend following your heart and dont get bogged down in a relationship that doesnt make you happy.
2006-11-21 06:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are being used. A common thought would be, "So what? I am getting some action" but then you should realize that you are not just for sex. If you call her your girlfriend, then there should be some other connection other than physical. If there isn't and if sex is the only thing, then maybe it is time to dump her and go out with someone who considers you for you and not just for your capability to have sex. You are a person also and the minute someone doesn't consider that, you just become a piece of meat, a thing, an instrument of pleasure, if you will. So, leave her and find someone nice.
2006-11-21 14:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by l_kur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems that this relationship is based on sex (I am assuming the courtship without the sex was very very short?)...at this point i dont think it is recomendable for you to persue a serious relationship with this person. If you are really interested in a serious relationship i really advise you to get to know the girl first and if she sleeps with you too quickly then you should know what is up...the relationship will be based on sex because you haven't taken the time to know each other on a more intimate basis and when i say intimate that does not mean sexual. If she is parading you around...you know what? if you enjoy having sex with her too then enjoy the attention and if this strikes a nerve with her...then go into the subject but otherwise don't bring it up....bottom line I really dont see this going into a serious caring relationship...you should have studied her first, do not expect her to change at this point..this also applies to us woman...we don't bother knowing the guy and then boom! we start complaining when he does not meet our expectations...a woman's point of view. Good Luck.
2006-11-21 14:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it been this way when she wasnt grounded? If yes, it's time to sit her down and talk to her about it. Let her know u want a deeper relationship than sex, if she agrees, then its all good. If not, u might wanna find someone who likes ALL of u, not just one area.
2006-11-21 14:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jaded Heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you need to get a new girlfriend, this one's a slut that only wants the sex... leave her right away with out even giveing her so much as a reason.... you deserve better..... She is useing you and you need not to let her anymore...
2006-11-21 14:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say dear your being used , but its not the end of the world i know a lot of guys that have being used and they have gotten through it all you need is good friends to talk with and persons who can be there for you if you think this is the woman of your dreams well i can not fource you to leave her just do what you think is best for you.
2006-11-21 14:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by sami-joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two choices you can think of it as @ least your gettin some OR you can put her on ice and focus on the relatioship. she IS using you but is that sooo bad? your choice. A relationship based on sex wont last forever so good luck
2006-11-21 14:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by MENTALLY UNSTABLE MAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dame i thought i was the only male that go treated like that.it used to make me mad but than i learned to appreciate it after hearing from my boys how they girls just nag all day and never want to have sex.that's when i became thankful be glade while you have it
2006-11-21 14:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by equality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you are in every guys heaven! Who cares? Enjoy!
If you want to get married to her then things should change but for now enjoy!
2006-11-21 14:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youis glad that u only get sex from her right.thats the only thing you boys think about but i hate to tell you but u is being used in abused
2006-11-21 14:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋