I have been dating my girlfriend for about a month. She is going out of town to see her family. My ex girlfriend has invited me to go with her to her moms house. My girlfriend does not want me to go. When I first started casually dating my new girlfreind I was still sleeping with my ex. Since we have been an official couple I have not gotten together with my ex. However my current girlfriend does know that my ex and I were still hooking up when we first started going out. She has forbid me to go to my ex's for Thanksgiving. I understand why she is upset but I have been faithful since we have been an exclusive couple. The other thing that makes things comlcated is that the reason I broke up with my ex was that I slept with her mother and I did not want her to find out. Her mother told my ex I could come for t-day so I think everthing will go okay. I know she doesn't want her daughter to find out as much as me. I just don't want to be alone for tukey day. what to do?
2006-11-21 06:09:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me explain a couple things. I only have two living relatives and they are going on a cruise so thats out. My girlfriends family lives across the country and I think it's to early into our relationship to go with her and meet her family ( I am a comitment phobe ). I do truly love my new girlfriend and I do not want to loose her. Thanks for all of your advice and I am leaning towards going to a friends house.
2006-11-21 06:28:27 · update #1
i wouldn't go if i were you...it wouldn't even be in the question..and i'm sad that it is for you. If you really love your new girl, don't go...although i'm almost thinking your new girl shouldn't get involved with you. Does she know you slept with your ex's mom! omi god! i would die if my bf every did that....and i would avoid dating a guy if i new he did do that. Sticky situation for sure. If i were you...i would avoid your ex like the plague!! Unless you still want to be with her and continue keeping it in the family...sounds like you could end up on Jerry Springer. I would just go to a friends house. I am sad for you that you only have 2 living relatives and they will be away for the holidays...but i wouldn't do it if i were you....good luck man!
2006-11-21 07:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very interesting situation. Not only one girl, but two girls who are related. The girl is your ex for a reason and now you have a new girlfriend. Keep your ex as your ex and in my opinion, Ex's should not be part of your current life. You should respect your new girl friend. I personally would have tried to go with new girlfriend to her family's place.
2006-11-21 06:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sepis S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy, you are complicated and you will mess up. Stay with your own family for Thanksgiving and stay away from the ex. Either you'll end up sleeping with her or with her mom once again. How could you do this? Believe me; keep your current girlfriend happy and stay away from this other people. This is if you truly love this girl and if you don't want to get into any trouble. It's your choice; my advice.
2006-11-21 06:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyinred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over-reacting. While it's important to share special times with family members throughout the year and not just holiday times, when the holidays do roll around, it's perfectly natural for you to want to spend it with your bf. He sounds cold and aloof and I suspect your relationship isn't nearly as fulfilling as it should be - for him or for you. I'd strongly suggest trying to find a way to spend time with everyone's family - you don't know how much time you've got let - and if you get any push back, i think you should seriously reconsider the path your on with this guy. HUGE RED FLAGS... HUGE!
2016-05-22 08:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your current girlfriend, then you need to just cut it off with your ex all together. Why not go with your girlfriend that is leaving town? Ask her to stay if you are not welcome or able to go for some reason. The only way you should go to your ex's families house for Thanksgiving is if you break it off with your current girlfriend. And if you do go after you break it off, leave her mom alone.
2006-11-21 06:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let the ex go. Don't go there for Thanksgiving. If i were the current girl id be hurt that you were spending the day with her family. Bad idea if you want the current relationship to work.
2006-11-21 06:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even be considering this. Thanksgiving will be a disaster if you do. HELL NO you shouldn't go!!! Spend time with friends instead or browse the net for simple recipes and have some of your friends over for a feast cooked by you. Whatever you decide to do.... DON'T LET IT INVOLVE YOUR EX!!!
2006-11-21 06:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross, why would you want to be with your ex with her mother there, drooling all over you, you will be uncomfortable. How do you think the ex will feel knowing you had sex also with her mother. Probably wouldn't want you at dinner. I'm sure you can find someone to have dinner with.
2006-11-21 06:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay away from the whole family if you are serious about your girlfriend...join some friends for Thanksgiving if you have other options!
2006-11-21 06:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by hollym101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT go to your ex house just cuz you do not want to be alone, something bad might happen that later on you will regret. just go to some friends house.
2006-11-21 06:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by cely_love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋