my boyfriend says da its disrespect
2006-11-21 06:08:02 · 53 answers · asked by Forbidden 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Off course it's ok. Why not?
2006-11-21 06:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should have friends. When u and him are in a fight, he wont be that shoulder to lean on. I had the same problem with my boyfriend, but I just told him I'm gonna have friends. Whoever makes u choose is the person u should get rid of, it's not disrespect to have friends, it's disrespect to cheat on a person, and he should know the difference.
Chances are u and him arent gonna be together forever (He doesnt sound like a keeper) and itll be a shame to ruin so many friendships for one person.
2006-11-21 06:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? I'm a little confused by your question. Is your boyfriend saying it is disrespectful for you to have other male friends or just other friends in general?
Either way, I would caution you against continuing this relationship. First, it's not disrespectful to have friends, regardless of their gender, and second, ask any woman who has been involved in an abusive relationship and she'll tell you one of the first things her abuser did was cut her off from her family and friends. Think about it.
2006-11-21 06:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friends? It just all depends. If it's just a few girls and guys you just go to the movies with, then I don't see a problem. But if it's friends with benifits then yes. Maybe your boyfriend thinks that they just want a piece of ***.
I would ask him why he thinks it's disrespectful.
That would give a bit more insight as to why he thinks it's disrespectful to have friends.
I personally love that my girlfriend has friends. It gives us some time apart. Especially when I want to go hang out, then she doesn't have to tag along.
Your boyfriend might just be jeleous. Just reassure him that he is the only one. Or you could give him a choice. Either he lives with you having friends, or you'll leave him.
Well good luck. I hope this helped.
2006-11-21 06:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by fast_bird94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you need friends!If you don't have anyone in your life except your boyfriend you may become too dependent upon him, this is never good what will you do if you break up? You will be all alone. If he is telling you that you should not or can not have friends I would get out now,this can end up being a controlling or even abusive relationship. This sounds like a big red flag to me.
2006-11-21 06:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend thinks that it's disrespect then he is not respecting you! I understand than he could be jealous but lets not go overboard. If he loves you then he will come to understand that he is not the only person in your life. Just for future reference, if he keeps being so controlling then get out of the relationship. Controlling partners are usually abusive and once you get into the relationship deep then it is harder to get out. You deserve to be respected and have friend, tons of them.
2006-11-21 06:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah,your boyfriend is thinking too much. It's ABSOLUTELY normal and right for you to have friends of your own. You can still have your own circle of friends. If your boyfriend claims it's disrespect,maybe in a certain way he feels that you hang out too much with your friends and neglecting him a little or afraid that friends might lead you astray or whatsoever..but just relax. Having friends is really,really normal and just.
2006-11-21 06:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by HahaYou'rePwned! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAH! If this 'boy'friend is that insecure, then you better get out now.
Does this 'boy' see all friends (gender related) as a potently threat ? I'd still advise you to cut and run. You are probably to young to be an 'item' anyway.
A footnote if I may? Please proof read and use spell check before sending typed or written correspondences. People do judge us on the words we use and the formulation of thoughts. This little piece of advise is also free, and shall serve you well.
2006-11-21 06:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ur boyfriend said that damn girl he just want you for himself , and if that the case either hes too jealous or he doesnt trust you being around other men. if he met you knowing you already had friends why shoud he change the way you are , if he liked you just how you were before. just beacouse ur i relationship it isn;t soppose to change things it's soppose to improve .and it aint disrespect his tripin its disrespect when ur own man can let u have friends, just becouse he thinks his lower that the rest. work things out , he needs trust , but how long have you been with him sounds like not long enough if he doesnt strighten out dump him and if he still loves you he'll relize his mistake and come back to you. good luck!
2006-11-21 06:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf...hes an IDIOT!!!!!!!!!!!...dont u ever let a guy control ur social life.....ofcourse u can still have friends...the only thing that is different now is that u have a bf...but u had friends b4 he came along so there...and this is like one of the first signs to a controling relationship...he wants u to spend every minute with him but i dont see where he gets that its disrespect.....in wut way would it be any disrespect to have friends?? if thats how he feels, then u tell him he cant have any friends either cuz its disrespect...
2006-11-21 06:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question? It's not disrespect, it's simply having your own life. You can have whatever kind of friends you want and do whatever you want with them (unless it means being disloyal to him). He can't control you. If he's that controlling and thinks that merely having friends is "disrespectful", then you need to drop him.
2006-11-21 06:11:20 · answer #11 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋