his reasoning is that because he( my son) forgot his coat on friday he should be punished.But it was about 37 degrees yesterday and my son had to ride on the bus for about 15 minutes and than when they get to school they wait outside for 20 to 25 minutes before they can go in their classrooms. When i picked up my son yesterday from the bus stop he told me how cold he had been and that even though he has a coat or two at his dads his dad wouldn't let him wear one (the coat in question i bought).I called his dad right away to tell him that he was wrong and he should not have done that needless to say he thinks that i am overacting and (as always) wrong. anybody got an opnion on this please let me know what you think.
2006-11-21 05:42:48 · 15 answers · asked by auntie s 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Strange dude, and cruel. Probably best he's an ex. I'd keep an eye on his parenting.
2006-11-21 05:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by dj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're both right. You shouldn't send your son off to freeze. He already forgot a coat one day, the consequences from that mistake was probably enough to ake him not forget a coat again.
However, your son, because of your ex's actions, will definitely not forget his coat again.
That being said, it probably wasn't the best way for him to handle the issue. You two should have a parenting meeting to get on the same page. When parents disagree on punishments, the child takes advantage of the fact. You may disagree on everything else, but I'm sure you both want what is best for your son.
Best of luck!
2006-11-21 05:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex needs to grow up, yes he probably wont forget his coat again but he is ONLY 8! Apparently a lot of people are mistaking 8 for 18 these days, 8 year olds forget things. I wouldn't be suprised if your childs teacher took note of the incident and might call dcfs in the future if your husband pulls more stuff like that.
You are NOT over reacting I would be livid.
2006-11-21 07:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you think an 8 year old is mature enough to make the decision about where to live. He would probably like to live on the moon as well and have a stable of ponies. You're the adult who is supposed to do what is BEST for him - not just appease his "wants." Your ex doesn't sound like he would be the best person to live with. And I notice the "advantages' of your son living with him are all about YOU and have nothing to do with the welfare of your son. Forget joint custody. Let him visit. And forget having your son live with him. If you have to tell your son something, then tell him the truth - he's going to live with you because it's in his best interests. Step up and be the parent.
2016-03-29 04:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. On one hand, I bet you're son never forgets his coat again, but on the other, I'm sure he established that on the Friday he forgot it himself! I'd really keep an eye on you're ex's parenting skills. If this keeps up, you need to do something about it. If this was just a one-time-deal showing of tough love...maybe let it slide but never forget it. Good luck.
2006-11-21 16:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Suse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like bad parenting to me! Your ex needs to remember that your son is a child and sometimes they make poor choices. We as adults are here to help guide them and protect them as much as possible. Now is your ex going to be able to take off from work when your son gets sick? If not then tell him to find the child a coat and stop treating him like an adult.
2006-11-21 10:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That kind of thing can get your husband in trouble with DFACS, but considering it was only 37 (and I'm sure the temp rose later) he probably won't forget his coat again. I personally wouldn't have done it, I would have taken away something else that would really get to him, but if you ex only has him occasionally, it's kind of hard to be consistent in punishment. But I'd say your son learnt his lesson. My kids want to do the same thing....run out without a coat or go to school in shorts in 30 degree weather...its kid nature, but I bet now he knows that there is a price to pay if he cannot learn to take care of himself. He's 8 - he's closer to becoming a man than you realize...he needs to learn.
2006-11-21 05:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by boz4425 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What he did is child neglect. What would have happened if the bus broke down for hours and there was no heat. He could suffer hypothermia. Your ex is an idiot. I would ask that he be made to take a parenting class. he obviously has no brain!
2006-11-21 06:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. Not only did the child suffer, took a chance on getting sick, etc., but this is a form of neglect. If your husband continues to do this, its likely that someone will call child protective services. Take care of your child, he doesnt have to have the "latest", but it it your responsibility to keep in warm.
2006-11-22 02:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sudie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so..... 37 degrees is not a temp to worry with if it was lower that might be different quit your whining and trust your hubby having a child stay out in the wind for a bit just builds their immunity system faster because their body gets the actual chance to work with out being "mothered" all the time
2006-11-21 05:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Bucky411_hit 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋