Or do you think He wouldn't mind if you just wait for the right person? I mean what if you meet the right person but marriage is impossible- how can you walk away never knowing what being with that person is like? And I already feel like God must hate me because I'm a bartender- and I don't think God approves of bartenders. So it seems like me waiting till marriage was the only thing I did for God but now I'm not sure if waiting till marriage IS the right thing. What I marry the wrong guy and I never end up being with the one I love- the right person? It's kind of like watching those fairytale like movies when two people hook up when they're not married but its perfect. You can't see that and say it's wrong. aaaaah I'm losing my mind. I need opinions.
2006-11-21 05:41:26 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Marriage is commitment for better or worse. If anyone wants to just have sex without commitment is just fooling you for how you look from outside. Remember, your external beauty is only skin deep.
The ultimate purpose of sex is procreation. When sex loses its meaning, we become isolated fragments.
It takes character to marry before having sex. If character is lost, what is there in life that is fulfilling?
2006-11-21 05:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like ur trying to justify having sex with a MARRIED Man... no let me rephrase a Married Sleazy ball!. Which puts u in a terrible situation.
hplover wrote:"what if u meet the right person but marriage is impossible. How can u walk away never knowing what being with that person is like?"
Honey don't u realize ur asking for pure heartache? If he's married and out catting around. What makes u think once he's with u he won't repeat the behavior? history shows once a cheater... just about always is a cheater and if there are children involved... get the hell away from him. Don't be so naive...
As for bartending... that is a choice ur making... God didn't tell u to be one. U have the freedom of choices... U are twisting movies and make believe with real life. Religion is a personal choice, u really aren't suppose to pick & choose what u want to follow. God doesn't hate, he forgives those who seek his forgiveness. Those who through no malintent sinned. Having sex has to do with maturity. To be honest u really don't seem like ur ready. Emotionally and physically ready is key so that u can be ok with your decisions the next morning. Don't have sex to have sex. Wait for when ur ready in a committed relationship where a man can fully give himself to u. And u to him.
This guy u think is Mr. Right is probably a sleezy ball for catting around. Tell him to get his life in order and you'll take a rain check. Then move on... your worth more than a lay. This is the time for u to get into life and living and stop messing with losers & cheaters.
If you don't like your job, go back to school, get in a apprentice program, seek testing to find your career path. Bartending is not a bad profession. You just won't meet Mr. Right but you'll find plenty of Mr.Wrong's.
2006-11-21 12:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says 'He' would care. But don't forget that many religions require some sort of ceremony before the marriage is consummated. From an anthropological viewpoint, marriage serves two purposes. First, it strengthens the bonds the couple feels towards the religon, something seen as very necessary in the elementary phases of an organized religon. Second, it strengthens the bonds between the couple, so that they may 'go forth and multiply'. Even today, studies show that the more traditional and ceremonial a wedding is, the more children that couple is likely to want/have. Two thousand years ago, that was recognized, and that is why 'marriage' was so important in Christianity; they needed the followers to have offspring (more instant members for a still burgeouning religon!!!). So you have to figure out what works for you, and what won't make you feel regretful the next morning. And as long as you're thinking about it like this, you'll make an informed decision that's right for you. Luck!
2006-11-21 06:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting till marriage is very important to God because it is a blood covenant. Meeting the "right person" was never an issue in the Bible. Only on a few occasions was love ever the reason for marriage. But when a woman has relations the first time, there is some blood, this was what sealed the marriage in the early days. When we dont wait until marriage the blood is lost for no reason and cant be made again.
Also I dont think God has issues with bartending, Jesus was tending bar in a way at the wedding in Cana. ;)
2006-11-21 05:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by impossble_dream 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think what He really cares about is staying with the same person. Many times marriage is the only thing that will keep a couple together. Being a bartender is not a sin by any means. Being human is. Sin is anything that takes us farther from God. I don't think God dislikes bartenders. So you think sex is what defines the right person!?!? You got it all wrong. Why do you have to have sex with someone to determine whether or not they are the right person?
2006-11-21 05:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Titainsrule 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me where in the bible is says god does not like bartenders. And should you have actually read the bible - what was the first miracle Jesus worked??? Turning water into wine so people could party. With that as a beginning you can see that your mind has been warped by some brain dead fundamentalists. God did not say wait until marriage. The church did, so they could control you. For centuries you could not have sex with your husband or wife without a priest present and then only for procreation. You could not do it just for fun. But Pope Sixtus the 6th licensed all the brothels for the church and you could have all the sex you wanted as long as it was in a church licensed brothel. Wake up and smell the vodka. Find who you are compatible with and have a blast.
2006-11-21 06:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all Hollywood movies are not the best source for advice on marriage (I mean how many successful Hollywood marriages are there!).
Second of all there is no just one true love on this earth for you, there are a handful of guys out there that you could love and adore, and have a wonderful marriage with.
Third God doesn't hate you for being a bartender, He loves you no matter what you do. The thought that He could hate you is a lie from Satan - remember that.
Forth - yes, God does care about that important detail of your individual life. He cares about your heart enough that when you share yourself He hopes it will be within the safety of a truly committed relationship so that you can really get that deep joy that can only come from that - yes He cares about you that much.
best wishes
2006-11-21 05:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it's impossible for God to hate you because he loves everyone. It is out of that love that He asks us to do things. Like a parent who tells their child to look both ways before he crosses the street- not out of wanting to ruin his fun but not wanting them to get hurt-the same is true with God's love. Why would it be impossible to marry the person? Anyone who is single can be married-and if they are married- that's adultry and not the person meant for you. When you get married-it will be out of love so you will be with the one you love. If you do not marry them then it is not really love because true love has a commitment at it's core. Anyone can talk of love and have feelings that make them feel perfect around that person. But if they can't commit then the feelings are just that-feelings- and not real love. We see these fairytales and feeel great about them-but we are watching manafactured love that is strong in the moment but leaves them alone when the moment passes or searching for another passionate moment that will connect the two again. In romantic movies its not like the one they end up with was their only one...what about the other times they felt were so perfect-the feeling left and they were left. God doesn't want you to get left and be hurt. He loves you no matter the occupation, but know that if the man you are thinking about is the real one for you-he'll wait, not pressure you, and prove it with a ring and ceremony. Email me if you want further thoughts
2006-11-21 06:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I take your element that we've certainly more suitable from Chimps and that they have the could desire to 'unfold the seed', although i'm not religious in any respect I definitely have many associates that are and prepare this. Their non religious argument is per 2 issues, if every person basically had intercourse while married, there could be a extensive decrease in the unfold of STI's to the element the place they could be controlled. the 2nd element is, as people more suitable from animals, all of us started construction greater complicated social relationships which has greater to do with have confidence. in case you had six companions earlier getting married, then you relatively discover out that your spouse had over six hundred distinctive companions, how could you experience? could you possibly experience that the affection making between the two one in all you is way less specific thinking what share people she has shared that have with? for my area, i'm in no way religious, or have confidence in no intercourse earlier marriage, yet what suits me would not consistently healthful others (and visa-versa).
2016-10-22 12:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes it is required to wait untill you are married I did and I know millions of other True CHRISTIANS who did also and have been happily married for many years many for decades like myself those who like to ignore this are among those we see in divorce court or in the hospitals,or prison system and if you lived in Jesus time and you didnt wait you were taken outside the city and stoned to death by all in the city then read 1st Cor 6:18, 10:8 Gal5:19 Col 3:5 Eph 5:5 that those who practice such things will not inherit Gods Kingdom what a loss for a few moments of lust Gorbalizer
2006-11-21 05:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by gorbalizer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just pray on it and god will send you the perfect guy and the perfect job. I do think it's best you wait. Yeah I know it's hard cause I'm going threw the same thing too. But like they say good things come to those who wait. may God bless you. Remember prayer is the key.
2006-11-21 06:22:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋