ive known this girl for just under a year now and we are realy good friends but recently ive been having feelings for her. but im just afraid that she will not feel the same way about me and that our friendship will be ruined. i no that if she does say no she will never be as closer friend as she is now. last time i went out with a girl, we broke up and we never spoke again. i dont want it to happen again. i like her alot and i want to go out with her but it might go wrong. what should i do???
2006-11-21 05:26:38 · 13 answers · asked by mr happy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just do it, if she's uncomfortable then she'll let you know. You're never going know if don't try. Like my sister says, "Just take a stab at it and you'll know!"
2006-11-21 05:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by #35|how misery loves me| 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what is more important to you - having her as a friend or taking it to the next level. Sometimes making the switch from a friend to a lover does not work and you can ruin both. But - if you are really good friends with her, sit her down and talk to her. Do mention that you value the friendship more than anything else but that you have been having these feelings and tell her that if she does not feel the same, it is okay - you will figure out a way to deal with it, but you do NOT want the friendship to be impacted - it is a very thin line.....
2006-11-21 13:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by QnA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you should take her out on a friendship date and make sure you know here good. And you should you something she likes to do. Make sure you have fun and flirt with her a little but don't get carried away with the flirting. You should just write her a note and just say hey will you go out with me?? If you say no please don't let this effect our friendship. It shouldn't. Well good luck and have fun. I hope you guys work out.
2006-11-21 13:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by volleyballis4ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it...move on cuz ur gonna ruin the friendship ya'll have already..and then where does that leave u? yeah without a friend or a girlfriend
2006-11-21 13:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sha! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should defintley tell her. she is your friend but she probably feel's the same way, but even if she dosent as long as you dont have a problem with a rejection from her the friendship is in no danger eigther way. so approach her but gently. good kuck
2006-11-21 13:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by mel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask her out. You will find out if she feels the same way that you do or whether she just wants to be friends. My mate did the same to me but i didnt feel the same way, but we are still great mates!!!
2006-11-21 13:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by jazzjazjazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not test the water and ask her to go out with you somewhere as friends! if all goes well suggest u do it again soon and then if she agrees ask her if she would like to go on a date with you!!! also try a bit of gentlr flirting!!! good luck!!
2006-11-21 13:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by gizmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should find ways to figure out if she likes you more than afriend first because if you put yourself out there your feelings will be hurt but if you are getting the type of vibe from her that she likes you like that too , then go for it but maybe you should ask her just hypothetically first but don't ask her out first believe me from experience
2006-11-21 13:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by tomi c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it! if she,s as good afriend as you say she wont change the way she feels about you,,maybe she,s itching for you to make a move,have a few drinks together and GO FOR IT! good luck ..
2006-11-21 13:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by davey.t. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her via Myspace. Thats always a good idea.
2006-11-21 13:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by jonafonwoss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋