I live in florida and have met someone online who lives in new york. we really like each other so far and we want to meet. I was thinking I would see him in new york and stay at a hotel and also do some shopping while im there. plus, ive never been to new york. im open to all suggestions
2006-11-21 05:01:33 · 9 answers · asked by specialme9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I'm not you, but this is what I would do. Make the arrangements to go to NY, but don't tell this person where you are staying or anything...you CANNOT be too careful!! Agree to meet him in a public place when it's daylight and lots of people are around. I know, I sound like a worrywart, but it pays to be safe, especially with someone you've never met. When you get there, meet him and have fun...shop, eat, go to the theater, whatever. You should be able to pick up on whether or not this is someone you can trust a little more, however, you still don't tell him where you're staying, especially if he asks. I would go and have as much fun as my pocketbook would allow, but don't give too much away because you never know about people. A few more months and some more trips between the two of you and it could be an awesome relationship, but don't go into it thinking that way...always be careful!!! Best of luck!
p.s. I actually met my husband online, so don't think I'm just an overly-worried person...I just know what kind of people there are out there!
2006-11-21 05:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the place in New York and what hotel you're staying in...time is a relative term; you could meet for dinner, lunch or even breakfast, but what are you meeting FOR, is my question?
2006-11-21 05:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the man should come to you first. It's a matter of his being gentleman and your safety. You don't need to fly to a strange city to meet a strange man, while staying in a strange hotel. Let him come to Florida first.
2006-11-21 05:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think it should be the other way around. if he really likes you and really wants to meet you, i think he should come to see you first.
well, i get that advice from my mom all the time. the guy should be chasing the girl not that other way around. if he really likes you, he'll call... and etc. so, i give guys my number, but if they give me their number, i won't call. even when they do call me, i still don't call them, they always call me. so that's how it goes.
plus, i think you are making yourself vulnerable by going to a place you've never been to and meeting a guy that you never met and don't meet him at night..
2006-11-21 05:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you've done your research. Background checks are very useful and inexpensive when compared to hooking up with some lying, ex-con loser you wouldn't leave your dog with.
Talk on the phone for a while. Don't be afraid to ASK QUESTIONS. http://www.oprah.com/relationships/relationships_content.jhtml?contentId=con_200605_questions.xml
Be safe and use your head!!!!
2006-11-21 05:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by damesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for a shopping trip, and meet him too
2006-11-21 05:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a plan to me --- and yes meet somewhere public to start with
2006-11-21 05:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do: pray; if you ask God's help you will not suffer. i wish you to have a wonderful time! (take very good care!!!)
2006-11-21 05:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, that sounds like a lot of fun...
Be careful...
2006-11-21 05:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋